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Upset about Husband's Christmas present choice.

159 replies

Mumofboys123 · 22/12/2016 14:02

Hi all,

I know this is going to sound really ungrateful so I want to preface this by saying I am totally not an ungrateful person at all. I don't generally expect gifts or get upset over things such as this.

Basically my partner and I have had a really bad year. We've come close to splitting up because of his selfishness, porn problems and other issues.

Recently he started talking about this present he was going to get us to do together, something I would love. He also told my mum who was saying how amazing and thoughtful a gift it would be. A couple of days ago I opened up our computer and there were loads of tabs open looking at flights and hotels to Iceland, so I was really excited and touched he would be so thoughful.

He has always been very anti going to Iceland, despite it being one of my dream holiday destinations. I thought he was going to surprise me with this grand and totally unselfish gesture.

Anyway he text me earlier saying he had bought my present and I was so excited. Just now I logged into our joint email address and there was an email from a company saying he had bought some straighteners.

So now I know that Iceland isn't happening and instead he has bought me straighteners that I need because my previous ones are broken, but I can't help feeling gutted.

Like I said I am totally not a selfish person and I realise this post may come across as bratty. It's just that I built my expectation up to be getting something truly wonderful and thoughtful to make up for all the crap he's put us through as a couple this year and I cant help but feel gutted.

OP posts:
Starlight2345 · 25/12/2016 20:11

Hoping you have been suprised in a good way today op.

IronNeonClasp · 25/12/2016 20:26

Received zero gift.

DelphiniumBlue · 25/12/2016 20:45

What, not even the straighteners?!

Newbrummie · 25/12/2016 20:53

Different poster DBlue

Ginkypig · 25/12/2016 21:13

Hi I hope your Christmas went ok op.

GlobalTechIndustries · 25/12/2016 21:26

It could of been either:

1: A ruse to cover his tracks.
2: Iceland was his plan A but there was a hiccup and plan b was the straighteners.

CalleighDoodle · 25/12/2016 21:42

Maybe the flight was tonight?

pieceofpurplesky · 25/12/2016 22:15

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Scarydinosaurs · 25/12/2016 22:19

I can completely see why you're disappointed. It isn't just the meaning behind the holiday- he has this opportunity to demonstrate his words mean more: here are my actions. Yet, the going quiet and changing the subject indicate you're being prepared for a let down already.

I would put money on you getting a 'coulda/woulda' sob story today about how he WANTED to book the Iceland holiday and ONE DAY will...but...

I hope whatever happened you were able to still enjoy your day.

mamakena · 26/12/2016 01:45

How about you lead him on like he did you...

tiej · 26/12/2016 16:08

I'm waiting..............

SantaStoleMyStocking · 26/12/2016 20:42

Hate when posters don't come back...

Nameforsaken · 26/12/2016 20:44

Maybe she's in Iceland?

Sunshine59 · 26/12/2016 20:53

Hope everything has gone ok? X

Flumpsnlumpsnstuff · 26/12/2016 20:55

So did you get straighteners ?

Frollyhollyday · 26/12/2016 20:56

I'm hoping she's in iceland

TaliDiNozzo · 26/12/2016 21:31

Oh yes, I was thinking about this earlier. Any update OP?

msrisotto · 26/12/2016 21:43

I do hope you've been pleasantly surprised op.

ChocoChou · 26/12/2016 21:51

Ooh yea comeback Op!

Montane50 · 26/12/2016 22:19

So its now got to the award point where op is now in Iceland, or thinking about plan B, so whats it gonna be?

Nameforsaken · 26/12/2016 22:39

Off topic... montane50 will yoi be running it this year? I live in the Lakes and quite fancy the 50k. Have you done it before?

Lunar1 · 26/12/2016 22:46

I really hope he booked the holiday.

MyWineTime · 26/12/2016 23:27

Hoping you're in Iceland!

Montane50 · 26/12/2016 23:47

Namesforsaken-did the 50 3 years ago, attempted the 100 the past 2 years, now.marshalling then 2018 my last try. Absolutely guarantee nobody but you will know wtf im talking about.

Kr1stina · 26/12/2016 23:54

I am very clever so I know what you are talking about

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