Onit's still on it! Thread 3

[onitlikeacarbonnet]

Hello to anyone who's still here

Links to previous threads.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2658829-Anyone-up-DH-is-leaving-me

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2690159-Anyone-up-DH-is-leaving-me-follow-up-thread-Onits-on-it

I'm carrying on with this as I'm certain I'd be in a much unhappier state without the support I've received here.
This has become my journal of sorts and I hope it's something I can look back on in time to see how far I've come.
I also hope it helps to document the truth of my situation for the future and perhaps, if read by others, will offer help and hope to them too.

That made me well up a bit Dowser

I've got them in the bath now!
New pjs to be worn but need to be clean first obviously
I still haven't done the ham. Need to get my finger out.

Well its 11.16 pm here and my son has just been downstairs for the first time to see if Santa has been but Ive managed to get him to go back to bed. He wont be there for long though so once midnight comes Im putting his presents out and settling down on the couch to sleep so I stand half a chance of seeing him open them.

Dowser your post reminded me of my Aunty Dolly and Uncle Jim. Thank you

Onit - what are your wee ones up to?

Noel - I hope you and the girls are enjoying the party.

And all the other posters on this thread - its been lovely keeping company with you. Thank you.

Merry Christmas everyone xxxxxxx

And thats him put back to bed for a second time. grin

Happy Christmas for tomorrow onit glad to hear you're feeling brighter and a bit stronger (and angrier!). I keep thinking of Katy Perry tweeting 'Time - the ultimate truth-teller' with regard to LBC and how your kids (and everyone else) will view him.

Wishing you the loveliest Christmas with your DC and a fresh new start towards real and lasting happiness! You are a lovely person and such a good mum.

Echo that from kitten. Been following this thread from the beginning but have had nothing useful to add. So glad they are safe with you in your new home for Christmas.

You were cast adrift on stormy seas by his selfish behaviour. You have navigated a safe course for you and dc's and you must please recognise how well you have done. There are more rough seas ahead but you are through the worst. Be proud of yourself. And be kind to yourself. As they grow up, and with the benefit of hindsight, your dc's will recognise what they feel and know, which is that you have been their rock throughout. Continue to be strong Onit and know that lots of us are rooting for you. Nobody could do more or better dear girl. Just hang in there xx

Merry Christmas onit (and all on the thread).
Need to go to bed, but feel pretty odd with ex in the house . >>repeat to self ad finitum 'best for the kids best for the kids

Thank you so much ( I do go on a bit but I like to think my heart is in the right place)

So merry Christmas all you lovely mums and children and those that have partners on here.
Hope the day is lovely for you all ;-)

Merry Christmas one and all

Had a tiring, lovely, memorable day. Ds said, as I tucked him in, that it was the best Christmas ever.

I managed to feed 7 people, more or less on time, with help from my fab cousin. I have enough leftovers for everyone on this thread to come round for tea tomorrow
Always preferred feeding a crowd.
I had a few tears when I opened my pressie from my best friend. Dcs bring me tissues when I cry which is sweet.

I hope you've all had the best day possible in whatever circumstances you're in. Much love to you all

ONIT, that is the best BEST BEST recompense ! after all that you & the DC have had to bare, their fist Xmas in their new (smaller, & humbler) home & more specifically without LCB has been the best ever.... that is all you need.
Well done, Believe in yourself, step away from that Prick, & don't fall for any more of his pathetic manipulation & implied threats, His life is empty, he has chosen his path. watch him flounder & sink, as you move on & up.
Frankly, I can't wait.

Had a tiring, lovely, memorable day. Ds said, as I tucked him in, that it was the best Christmas ever - that is just brilliant. I'm so glad you enjoyed your day.

So glad you had a great day onit! Bloody pleased for you!

A very heartwarming post for read Onit. xxx

Oh, that's all you want to keep you going on ..just a heartfelt, genuine soupçon of gratitude from your lovely boy.

Well done that young man ;-)

❤❤❤
Well done onit

Hope you are okay, onit. Sounds like Christmas went really well, but I know that the kids had to go to his on Boxing Day. Hope you are back together again.

lovely to hear onit!

They came home this morning

I broke my heart on Boxing Day morning when they went. I felt so sad that they hadn't had a chance to properly play with anything, but the plan for tomorrow is pj's all day and playing/tidying stuff into bedrooms.

Next things on the agenda are responding to his latest lawyers letter and preparation for going back to work on the 8th.
I will need to go in to see the woman who will be my boss, sort out a uniform (when I left in April I was wearing a size 24 and I'm now a 14 ). I also need to sort out holidays for the coming year or see about term time.

Side effects of antidepressants seem to be wearing off apart from the tiredness. I must yawn a hundred times a day.

I hope you're all enjoying your Christmas time too.
How did it go nigel?
MrsPW, did your son stay in bed till Santa came?

You're under it, over it and through it.
Well done.
And a size 24 to a 14

Just how amazing is that ;-)

That is bloody amazing!!
Glad they are back onit
It was hard work.He didn't leave u til 10.40 on Boxing Day night-very King few days.But the girls enjoyed it all and there were no arguments-just a lot of teeth gritted.
I am at my mum and dads now finally able to relax-and we have had a few good days-but the girls are going to their dad tomorrow for new year which I am really dreading.
What are you doing for new year onit? I feel like 2017 will be great for you-no one deserves it more!

Long not King.what?

I'll maybe stay up for the bells on Hogmanay. Feels apt to say fuck off to 2016 and hope for better in 2017.
I wouldn't normally.
Dcs are going for a day, 1-2nd, for a "big family dinner" at mils. But, apart from feeling excluded, and that hurts, I'm ok with them going. I don't mind when it's a family thing so much as he's not alone with them.

I am worried about work. Feel like I could've handled it 3 months ago but not sure im in a fit state now . I am not as together or cling with as much as I was then. But I'd feel ridiculous when I should be getting better not worse with time.
And I think it's the weight of sole responsibility that's my biggest worry. I've never looked after myself alone before, far less with 2 dependent dcs

Your ex is a knobend nigel

Correct
I know work seems scary. But you know,once your are over the hurdle of getting yourself back in there, and in to a routine (which is the total key to managing it successfully at first), I reckon it might be a good thing for you.nit just due to the money-but because it will increase your confidence all the more.you have this onit-you can definitely do it. And LCB will be sore amazed at your ability to cope without him-which in itself makes it very worthwhile!

I seem to remember this is a job you know Onit, but changing dept. ? so I expect that once you get the school run/routine set up it will be quite nice to change the air, be able to talk to other adults etc...
Just try & get ahead with some frozen meals to help with the evening supper ritual to start with, as any new job is exhausting at first...
You will be OK. & LCB can just FTFO, you can tell him you haven't got time for him dwelling on his belly button. a retort comes to mind.
Suggest you jog on with your own little life now, I don't have time for your childishness. (Sure to Royally piss him off ! :o)