My daughter has been taken away from me.

[Emmie1201]

It isn't fair, I'm her mum. Mum knows best :( I can't believe they're allowed to do this.

Ah ok her Dad
Is he violent OP?
When you say he turns up, what happens then? Do you let him in, does he have a key? Could you call the police when he turns up?

What do you do when he turns up?

There is your answer

You are prioritising your relationship with an unsuitable bloke over the welfare of your child

You nwed to get a court order to keep him away, then if he breaches it, phone the police. If you haven't done this, SS will think you aren't taking it seriously.

Why do you think it's not your fault? Were you keeping her safe?

how old is she op?

She has been taken away for her own protection did you let her dad in ?

With the best will in the world, they have to put your child's safety and best interests first. And if that means removing her because her father keeps turning up - even if you aren't facilitating this - then so be it. It's not about what's fair - it's about what is best for your daughter.

Your social worker should have some requirements for you to follow. You need to be completely honest with your SW and follow what he or she tells you that you need to do, to the letter. Do this and I am sure that you will end up with your daughter back again soon.

Well in that case, you know what you have to do. Get away from him. For good.

Move. Phone women's aid. Block his numbers. Get RL help.

Did you get a restraining order? Did you call the police every time he turned up? Did you change the locks? Its tough, its really tough, but with SS you have to do every single thing, and cooperate, and really show that you are trying with full effort.

A non-molestation order could keep her dad away. You need to prove you are serious about putting your dd first.

So sorry this is happening. Make the right changes straight away. Can you call women's aid - they may be able to help with finding solutions?

Emmie please contact women's aid, they can help in all sorts of ways.

Is moving to another area a possibility for you? They can help you relocate if need be.

Can you do the freedom programme to show SS you are trying.

Assuming there has been violence can you apply to the courts for an order to keep him away.

Speak to WA they will be able to help you.

AnyFucker, I'm not! I don't want to be with him, he keeps coming to my house. I don't call the police, as he threatens to kill me and take her when he does. I keep the door locked and he ends up trying to smash windows. I then leave with my daughter to a hotel and stuff and they think that's me not trying to protect her. That's exactly why I do it, to protect her

She is protected now. That is why they have removed her.

You need to tell the police about the threats. And moving away would be the best thing to do, making sure he doesn't find out your address.

This doesn't make a lot of sense.

He tries to smash your windows in but you don't call the police. He says he will kill you if you call the police but he has no way of knowing you're on the phone to the police as he isn't inside your house.
You would have to get a restraining order against him so that when he comes near you you can again call the police. Death threats from him won't be taken lightly and the police will help.

I'm confused as to how SS have taken your child away despite the fact you're never actually ~near~ your dangerous ex, as your PP suggests. I think we're missing a lot of the story here:

Perhaps going to a women's refuge might be your best option, if you really believe that calling the police would make him worse.

Please call women's aid!

WA can help with alarms that are linked to the police station. You press a button and the police are there, a window is broken and the police are there.

I get its hard, I've been in a violent relationship and have made poor decisions thinking I was protecting my kids, we managed to get away and are now free and happy.

You can do it.

She was in hospital and SS got involved I did everything they said but because he kept coming back they kept telling me I wasn't. I did everything I could. She was loved, fed and enjoyed being at home.

You need to call the police when he comes round. You are not protecting your daughter otherwise.

You need to ring the police. Have you ever been in touch with the police about it? Because from ss point of view not contacting the police can look like you're trying to protect him.

Social services don't just take children away.

If you were working with them and doing what they told you to do, your child wouldn't have been taken away.

She is safe from him now. If you want her back you're going to have to find away to keep away from her dad. It's simple. It might be less simple to do the things you need to do to make it happen, but it depends how hard you want to fight for her.

You need to call the police. You need to get a non molestation order and call the police every single time he turns up.

If you don't, ss will take her, because you aren't keeping her safe.

The police WILL help.

You can't refuse to the call police.

If he's smashing your windows and threatening to kill you, jail is exactly where he needs to be