Online dating...... where have all the good men gone? Thread 110.

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

I will stay with you all to follow the journeys!

Good luck tonight daters!

So what do I tell the guy I dated saw last night? There wasn't any fire works, and he's a good guy, but I'm just not attracted to him physically.

Someone said about getting in contact with mr. No commitment, it's all in his corner. I sent him a card with how I felt, I've heard nothing. Rule 14.
God I miss him.

Ok so the no chemistry guy

'Hi, lovely meeting with you, I had a nice time. I'm not sure there was the right chemistry between us to take this further but I wish you the best of luck in life! Take care'

Thanks myuser

God, I hate this.

Bloody Mr NC. I want to give him a slap with a fish

Rules 2, 3, 6 and 7. Still nothing from Mr Wildcard. Officially writing him off. Sigh. :(

pringle

myuser I'd like to just talk to him, but rule 14.

You need to put him in a little mental box close the lid and throw it at the bottom of the North Sea.

I have a guy who's cropped up again after a second disappearance. Just messaged me out of the blue.

And another potential option now.

I might just stick to casual dating

Not the doctor!!! Nooooo!

oh yeah. the doctor. i havent dignified him with much of an answer. its funny. you want what you cant have.

but when he came back I was like and not

This time if I do see him ...I dont want him as anything serious either now. Just a random date.

The other guy was nice too but dont want serious with him. Just a nice random potential is the newer guy too.

I'm not a fan of the doctors behaviour I think it's just shitty and disrespectful. You can do way better

I had a chat with Shy about my useless reaction to his nice messages and we have concluded we are both total twats because he was all nervous and thought his message was all clumsy and we laughed about it

Nor am I a fan. I cant take him seriously now.

he asked me out last minute last week....lovely. a last minute again after not much chat at all.

I havent replied.

But I dont want serious from him either now.

Just waving at the shiny new thread...

Hope you had a nice time with your friend Pringle (waves rule 6 in your face a bit)

His loss, my dear

Morning all!

Lilac good luck today
Queen It sounds like you are being sensible an in charge of this one now
Myuser I bet you feel better after the conversation, that is really sweet.

I was in messages last night with 3 OLD irons, and also with Mr RL 4 men- bloody hell.

Can I ask advice though, 2 of the OLD men I quite like, have messaged them both loads over last couple days. Think they are genuine .

I am new to this so not sure how to go about the meeting up bit. Can I suggest, or wait for them? Don't want to end up as pen pals and have some free time next week/weekend that I would like to fill....

I've only met two men so far and I'm starting to lose faith in OLD! Given the lack of second dates, I'm starting to assume I must be an ugly heffalump, which isn't great for my self-confidence. I am re-reading the thread rules, but it's hard to bounce back.

I'm half-wondering if I should try another website and delete myself from this one. Would be just my luck if the same men appeared on both.

AintThatSomething 4 men, aren't you popular! Go you! :) I think if you've already messaged a lot and they haven't suggested meeting up yet, you should take the initiative because I think you can talk for too long and that can make the initial meeting worse.

Thanks Pringle, I may take the initiative later

What site are you on? These are all POF. I am on match too but POF seems to be better in my area. Seems to be mainly older blokes on match that are into me

AintThatSomething Also on POF and also had 2 really nice genuine sounding guys... One of yours isn't a doctor, is he?

I'm thinking about Coffee meet Bagel next, although the damn thing requires a FB account, so I may have to set up a dummy account just to try it out.

Have date no 3 today. I really enjoy his company/texts and he is not repulsive to me. I get the impression that he is scared of upsetting me, so if we are going to try kissing today I think I'll have to initiate! (he has tried to hint at fancying me in a couple of texts, but on both occasions I was distracted by the kids, and by the time I'd picked them up he'd sent panicked texts changing the subject, is very sweet)

Coffee meets bagel looks interesting. Let us know what its like! Why the fake fb profile? It doesn't post on fb or give your profile to others, does it?

BaklavaBalaclava I've been stalked IRL before so I'm really paranoid about giving out too many personal details to strangers... Hope date 3 goes well and you have fun kissing him.

Me to pringle

Stalking - I'm so sorry - that must have been awful and very scary. It does occur to me to ask if there is any connection between your first dates and your stalking? (as in, are you worried on some level, that if you attract the men, you could trigger another stalking episode?)

Just a thought that occurred to me - apologies if I'm being an arse!