I may try bumble, it sounds like far less work for me.
The problem is, I'm on pof (dire), OKC (less dire but full of polyamorists) and match, which is better.
On pof I really don't fancy many of the profiles. People can't spell in their profile, or have so many tattoos it's difficult to make out their face.
But on each of the sites I'll mail someone. See a photo I like, see if they sound interesting in their profile, work out if there is something interesting to say to them other than 'hey'. I'll go through phases of sending four or five messages to people in one evening. Each one takes about quarter of an hour or so to write, as its got to be amusing, interested, relevant to them.
I'll hear back from maybe one in five first messages. Some just never read them, some read them and looked at my profile and decided not to reply.
Then, of those, I'll often find the conversations are generally dull. Many of the women are still in the throes of a separation, and I've learned from experience not to get involved there. Way too complicated, they're looking to be rescued. Many are monosyllabic. I'd it gets to the point where I'm just asking questions and they're never asking any back, then their conversational skills are obviously lacking, or at least they're not interested in me.
And then eventually, with some, I'll want to ask them out for a date. And then the whole thing begins again, that there's no chemistry, or no spark. Or they tell me I remind them of their husband. And so I go back to online dating and trawl through the people to try to find someone who looks interesting.
So maybe bumble, where they have to go through that effort for the first bit at least, would be better. Although judging on the quality of the first messages I receive on Match and pof, I'm not holding out much hope.