Online dating...... where have all the good men gone? Thread 110.

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Lilacpink40 FWIW, I think the mooseburgers would have been great. I just wanted to get to know him better first. Bitterly disappointed.

He's an idiot pringle. He didn't want long term at all he wanted a quickie and you were right to stick to your guns. You know what I've not met one man on line I've been desperate to rip the clothes off and I am starting to conclude the truth is decent, good looking fit men with good hearts and intentions never needed online dating and never will.

I'm just walking around in a daze. He seemed like such a nice bloke and we had really good chemistry. Stunned he just went home. I am worth the wait.

sorry Pringle did I understand correctly? You said you both want a long term relationship, but because you weren't ready to sleep with him yet, he walked away?

What. A. Twat.

He doesn't want a long term relationship, he either said that beforehand to try and get you into bed, or he said it after calling it off to try and guilt you into it.

If you'd slept with him, he would have found some reason to never see you again. He was just after a shag.

I'm sorry though - it must hurt, but he's not the man you thought he was.

I mean, who the hell walks away from a potential relationship because someone won't sleep with you yet?

Fuckwit.

Oh pringle that's awful. I'm so sorry . I definitely think your strategy is the best. But why on earth couldn't he wait a bit? What's the rush? Might suggest he wasn't being entirely honest about LTR? What a roller coaster few days for you

Bant summed it up much better. Total twat. ( Mr two not Bant!).
And you most certainly are the prize. And by sticking to your boundaries you've kicked a sleaze ball into touch. However painful it is now, it would be far worse if you'd inadvertently had a ONS under the guise that he wanted a relationship

He's unmatched with me. Oh, I feel like utter shit.

Fuck him

I cannot stop crying. I... oh, sod this.

When you unmatch on Bumble, it's nigh on impossible to find someone again. So, he really doesn't want to see me again, ever. He couldn't have been clearer if he tried. Overwhelmingly sad.

sorry Pringle, I'm not surprised you're upset. What a wally.

I invested too soon. It just feels so sudden. I wasn't done.

What a sex pest he was!

You had a lucky escape Pringlecat.

There's nothing less attractive than a man demanding sex. I mean what sort of morons behave like this ?

Head up high & move on.

You are better off without creeps like that in your life.

I just don't understand. I wanted mooseburgers with him, just not yet. And I think we would make an excellent match in the long run. But from what he said and the way he said it, he won't even entertain the idea and I am not going to beg. I am better than that. But I think he's made a horrible, horrible mistake. I want to tell him that, but I don't think he'll see it that way. So there's no point. But... oh, I'm just in complete and utter shock.

I am trying to listen to what you are all saying, but I'm completely numb.

Thanks , for support.At least I know I am not alone. Does hurt though.
Hopefully, I will have learned from this experience. I do think Tinder is probably the worst one for casual sex so may try POF next time. I will soon be running out of dating sites.

Pringlecat he is not a nice person when he doesn't get his own way ... remember that.

And he spat his dummy out over an emotional & sensitive subject which involved your feelings.

He doesn't give a fuck about your feelings, he just wanted what he wanted.

In a couple of days when it's all blown over you will feel better & realise that he wasn't such a good catch after all.

pringle conway it sucks.

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Now I'm wondering if I led him on and he reacted so badly because he was shocked. Is there any slim chance he's not a twat?

No

Maybe he saw you wanted more and this was his 'get out' cause.

Even if there was a chance he wasn't a twat he's now become a twat by unmatch ing you and generally carrying on like a lamb chop

Right, well, I've deleted all my profiles. Dating is not for me.

Take some time out Pringlecat.

It's not healthy mind wise to be doing this emotionally taxing online dating stuff 24/7.

Im close to deleting it all too.

Pringle, his loss not yours.

A nice glass of wine is the answer with a back up option of chocolate