Online dating...... where have all the good men gone? Thread 110.

[Evilwater]

I know these threads have come in handy for many dipping their toes for the first time into OLD. So here we are again ... another 1000 posts down:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

The concept of going on a first date with someone who might have wanked over me 2 hours before makes me feel sick! Why would s man think we can't see through this request to the cringe

No Bant resist the urge to send arse pics

Aint no I've ended it. Thought for few hours and decided it must be fun at first and I'm the prize (I'm learning the list).

So much potential on paper, argh.

Back to OLD and I guess weird messages for dodgy photos. Can anyone send me an enormous,, hairy bum photo from internet I can send to weirdos?

lilac :

Bant that has really made me laugh

Lilac surely that will do it every time?? Don't give up x

Ha, I think when everyone asks for dodgy photos we should just send one of Trump like Bant suggests

Well done Lilac on being the prize and doing that

Is bumble free?
I'm having no luck on the other OLD sites I'm on.

Evilwater Yes, as with any OLD site you can pay to upgrade it, but you can use it properly for free.

Hi need advice on how long you wait before giving up on them phoning you? Had one date with a guy. Next date was at his house for tea and cake which we both knew meant sex. I was happy with this as really,really fancy him. He was very affectionate afterwards and sent me a nice text. I messaged him the following day and he replied that he was busy and vaguely said he would phone me. That was Friday and no further messages. He's not going to phone is he?😢

Maybe he was genuinely busy does he have children? Or work?

Give him a day or so but I would not be too impressed if he suddenly pops up again at the weekend

His dcs are grown up. He works(taxi driver). Why oh why do they have to tell you they like you or make you like them? Now I will spend the next few weeks feeling crap about myself.

For the bumblers amongst us, do you set a distance and stuff like that for them to show you matches in? Or is it anyone anywhere?

Vintage no advice as new to this, but urggh, sorry

Vintage sounds like a twat, block him to stop overthinking this. I don't think he'll text if he hasn't already. Sounds like he got what he wanted. What an idiot he is

Aint I set a distance yes, but I think i'm generous with it tbh

Vintage no advice either sorry but I echo the opinion that he is a twat. Remember that it's his failings which have made him behave this way, and not yours.

Hello all .... I've been on bumble for a couple of months now... Much prefer it to the other sites!

I'm having a bit of a nightmare ... So have now had 3 dates with mr birm and finally snogged and it was fantastic!! The trouble is I'm still waiting for my date with mr mountain bike, he had stag weekend last week and his daughter this week, we live 40 miles apart ... So weekends the easiest for us to meet up! They are both mega keen, they both message me first thing in the morning, then throughout the day!! Feel I owe it to myself to meet mr mountain bike because we have so much in common and he really makes me laugh!! Trouble is date 4 might end in mooseburgers with mr birm!! Think I need to try and hang fire until I've met mr mountain bike .... But not sure how to do this ?
Met both of them on bumble, appear genuine guys, been chatting to both for a month now!!

Yes set distance on bumble .... But it's not very accurate!! I've set mine at 35 miles, and although it's says that's correct on their profiles ... One lives 53 miles away and one 44!!!

I set mine to 25 miles, going on the assumption that I may actually want to be able to see them regularly, and I think an hours drive each way is silly, on a regular basis.

So, 5 matches on bumble from last night, one mailed me but I haven't replied to as I swiped by mistake. 4 left - one I realised is a woman I had a date with 10 years or so ago, and she was very dull with an annoying voice. I actually ran into her at a meet up thing a few months back. Luckily, if I just count down the won't be able to contact me anymore :)

Three left. They've only got a few hours to get in touch. Bated breath time..

That sounds very exciting Bant. Good luck!

Now I want to try bumble, but feel like I shouldn't really get any more irons...

Hah, I can't as I don't have the correct phone. that's good (I think!)

So my date messaged to say happy birthday this morning. Then messages later saying I deserve to be spoiled on my birthday. But never sent a card, a gift, or wanted to see me I think I'm going to have to let an otherwise nice guy go on such a poor performance.

Hello everyone.
So I'm a bit behind because I had the old thread saved onto my favourites and thought everyone had gone quiet

So... had date 3 with Mr Tinder and it was LOVELY. He came to mine and
Cooked me a nice meal.

I have just stoooed my paid me membership to Match - I met him on Tinder.

Clearly joint the OI corner

I am going back into this after a hectic few months. Have had a few conversations online. Last night I met one guy for a drink; he was really nice and we had lots in common ... but had a vague ending. He has not text since and he has logged back on to the site... I am learning to preserve my dignity and not hold my breath.

Now I need to work on developing that thick skin. Sorry for just pushing in right in the middle, hope it's ok.

I need to learn how to preserve my dignity too and to develop a thick skin. I invest too soon and need to learn not to.

Bant thanks for the bum photo, definitely using it if I have weird requests.

Atsea he seems to be playing a game - surely he knows he could spoil you?
Flowers and a card would be ok, but instead he's acting as though you're FWB?
Unless he suddenly pulls out something special I would doubt his committment!

Atsea some virtual