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Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

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Mrsmimsy · 14/10/2016 23:24

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WorkInProgess · 03/01/2017 08:52

Hello all. Is it ok to join dry January a few days late? Today is day 1, I feel toxic after Christmas and New Year and it has to stop.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 09:18

Morning babes, hi workin
Crap sleep again last night, so hard to drop off, I'm used to passing out.

Today will be a test as I'm in ther habit of a few drinks whilst watching my favourite TV show tonight.

Going to have a luxury woman shower in a minute, shave my legs and everything. It's been nice the last couple of days to shower like a normal person not use it to perk me up or worry I might be sick in there.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 09:20

Sorry workin that toxic feeling, yes I know what you mean.

Have you done dry January before? This is my first time.

WorkInProgess · 03/01/2017 10:02

Never done dry January before, actually struggling to have af days, longest run last year was only 4 days. Kind of feel like a might be setting myself up for failure but am desperate not to carry on as I am.

Fairenuff · 03/01/2017 10:02

Hey LuxuryWoman have you ever tried a Footner?

They are expensive but amazing if you like your skin peeling off Grin

Too early in the morning for that image?

Is anyone saving the money they would have spent on booze? I really think it's worth doing that and using it for special treats or just to wow yourself with the reality of the financial cost of drinking.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 10:07

workin totally understand, wanting to stop is the best starting place.

Footner, this sounds fascinating but gross!
I would love to be able to save the wine money but at the moment we are totally sponsored by Mastercard, there is no money Shock this is a blip though. Or at least I hope.

LookingforHope · 03/01/2017 10:26

First day of diet. Weighing myself this morning I wanted to cry. The calories alone are keeping me off booze atm Xmas Sad. Day 3.

LookingforHope · 03/01/2017 10:29

Ps I bought a footner months ago but am scared to use it .... Might give me zombie nightmares Xmas Shock (though could lose 1lb in dead skin, weight-wise ..... Sorry, too gross, I'll go back to work Xmas Blush )

Fairenuff · 03/01/2017 10:47

Haha do it hope, you will have soft baby skin on your feet. Winter is actually a good time as you certainly can't show your feet for a few days, but once it's peeled it is lovely.

Top tip though. If there's any part you don't want peeling (like maybe the top of your foot) put vaseline on it before you put the sock on.

I have gained 5lb over the past 3 weeks or so Shock

I will get that off first then start on the next ones. Bring it on...

Fairenuff · 03/01/2017 10:49

LuxuryWoman can I call you LW? If you have no cash to save, how about putting a marble or pebble in a jar for each bottle you don't buy? That can be just as motivating.

There are some apps that will also tot up the amount you save not drinking. Anything that helps to remind us that we deserve to pamper ourselves instead of drowning our sorrows x

dementedma · 03/01/2017 11:11

it is hard to sleep when you haven't been drinking at first, because your mind just wont switch off. it does get easier.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 11:13

fairenuff LW is fine Smile

Showered, legs shaved, perfumed and made up. God the vinous has put years on my face. Hope I can reverse some of the damage.

How is everyone feelinge about day 3? Bit nervous here as it's my night for a drink. Perhaps I should skip my programme and watch it a different time.try and break the association.

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 11:13

Vino not Vinous

Elba84 · 03/01/2017 11:13

LW definately keep tabs on how much your not spending on alcohol; even if the money isn't going into savings, it's not going on the MasterCard after all!

work I can relate to the 'toxic' feeling. Defintately go for dry Jan- I'm not one to talk as pretty much consistently drank my way through November and December. But when I did manage some longer sober runs it was so so worth it. And this is from someone who at one point couldn't do a day. Keep posting, it really helps.

Good luck all on day 3- wishing I'd stuck to my goal and started with you. Day 2 and feel like crap still, but successfully eaten toast. Off sick again from work which is not good, but if yesterday's vomiting was bug related not alcohol then I really can't risk going in. Wish I'd not drank on the 1st then would at least know I was defintaly ill.

lunklitdays · 03/01/2017 11:18

Day 3, it's only 11.20 and I already feel like I want wine for later. Going to be a long day.

theansweris42 · 03/01/2017 12:04

Me too lunk. Not gonna buy it. Grits teeth. Keep posting Smile

tismesober · 03/01/2017 12:18

Checking in ==through gritted teeth ==
I now have 3 invites to meet up with friends for a drink......aargh
I bet you in February I will have nothingSad
Need to think up some strategies as I feel it is much too early to fail
Good luck to everyone tonight .....see you later

LauraMipsum · 03/01/2017 12:24

Same here lunk

Best mate is having a rough time at the moment which would usually be a reason to meet her and drink LOADS of wine (we totally enable each other). And work people will be having drinks this week - I'm just not going, it's a very boozy crowd and I can only really perform self-assured and laughing-with-wine if I actually have wine to laugh with!

So I'm going to go home early and cook, hopefully something less bland than yesterday.

lunklitdays · 03/01/2017 14:05

This is when I feel so aware of my dreadful relationship with alcohol, 'normal' people don't want wine like I do and if they do they just have it. It's not a huge internal 'will I, won't i'.
Laura and sober there's no way I could go anywhere that had wine available today, not a chance, best you hide!! I'm still on holiday, schools not back until next Monday so still days to fill with bairns who NEVER stop talking, one or the other of them always at it (I have 3 of them!).
Answer my teeth as so gritted my jaw is aching and I've got a bit of demonic look on my face. Attractive.

Elba84 · 03/01/2017 14:29

I don't think I can go anywhere with alcohol, at least for the time being. When I've managed long (well long for me- never got past 13 days) stretches af I've sort of hibernated for the majority of it. Thought I'd got the nailed on the 1st by driving to lunch, but one person saying 'go on' was all it took. Still need to retrieve my car!

lunk I so relate to the 'will I wont I' constant internal dialogue. In my (extremely limited!) experience it does quieten down, especially after you start to feel the benefits. (Unfortunately however for me it came back pretty quickly once I started drinking again!)

Feeling much better, have started a bit of a clear out. Started on a huge pile of paperwork. Also sorted the recycling- from the bottles it looks live I've been hosting a huge party, but it's all me BlushBlush

SweetLathyrus · 03/01/2017 15:02

Afternoon All.

Sorry I wasn't around, I was busy putting Christmas away, and tidying the study so I can get on with marking.

This afternoon is really tough - I am obsessing about a glass of anything - even though I know I don't actually want it.

Hope, do the footner, they are amazing! And as Faire says, it's actually better to do them now - so your socks and tights catch all the peeling skin. Do you remember the joy in school of smearing PVA glue over your hands, then peeling it off when its dry? Doing a footner is rather like that!!

My luxury for tonight will be a facemark, clean pjs and an early night with one of the biographies I got for Christmas.

Off to get myself a mint tea.

LookingforHope · 03/01/2017 15:52

Ooh what biographies do you have Sweet ? Any good ones? I am ploughing through an Elena Ferrante novel but not sure how keen I am on the characters

LuxuryWoman2017 · 03/01/2017 15:52

This is when I feel so aware of my dreadful relationship with alcohol, 'normal' people don't want wine like I do and if they do they just have it. It's not a huge internal 'will I, won't i'.

Oh yes, I get that, I obsess actually, I can be out somewhere for lunch having a drink and panic in case there's none left at home for my return. I have woken up in the morning planning my evening around wine.

I want to be the woman who can thoroughly enjoy a glass of wine with dinner or at a wedding, enjoy a glass of Baileys while stuck into a book. I don't want to be red-faced, bloated, angry, bitter woman who starts and sometimes finishes bottle 2.

I used to have such self control, once upon a time, I hated feeling even a little tipsy, I could go out, have two drinks to join in and switch to water, I was the same with my finances and home - tidy, organised, sorted.

It changed when I met Mr Lux, bad habits crept in (I can only blame myself) and the habits haven't changed. My blood pressure is at quite dangerous levels, so's my bank balance Sad

The fridge is full of Sparkling water, which I do enjoy the taste of, my luxury tonight will be to trim down my flaky, brittle nails and slather on plenty of oil round the cuticles. I might paint my toes as I think I still have the colour from August on.

I will be a Gwyneth Paltrow style luxury woman (kinda)

I could weep at the pride my daughter has at my efforts so far, for God's sake, a child should possibly be proud of their mum because she has a great job or is a great cook, it's my job to be proud of her, not her of me.

All the other mums are bemoaning their hangovers and wine habits too, it's so common the old 'Wine o'clock' thing.

I think I will be ok tonight, it does help talking on here, so thank you.

spanna41 · 03/01/2017 16:05

Day 3 is a bugger day - it's the 'I've had 2 days now I need a reward for being AF.....'

Distract Babes, eat yummy things, drink gallons of anything but booze! Watch a film, go for a walk, phone a friend, do an online jigsaw - just don't pick up a drink Smile

Think how good you'll feel tomorrow - clear headed, looking better, more calories gone.......

DavetheCat2001 · 03/01/2017 16:06

How long does the not-drinking headache last?

My last drink was around midnight on NYE, and I have signed myself up for Dry January.

I have a horrible throbby, persistent headache that I woke up with this morning and can not shake off. Trying to drink lots of water etc, but it won't go and is making me feel crap.

Is this a detox thing? I've been out and bought some Milk Thistle tablets today so hoping those might help a bit too, otherwise I'll be popping painkillers all month Sad