Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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Thanks dubh, no they won't push me, I don't think I'll have to give a reason really but I think they will guess. And moderation is not an option for me, I can do nothing, at least for a few days (hopefully more this time round) but I can't even stick to one bottle if there is more about.
Excuse oh fitting into a new dress for Hogmanay won't wash either as I'm skinny as a rake, most evenings I drink instead of eating, most days I can't face food - what a bloody awful message to send my children!
Can anyone tell me about this squid?

Welcome chit hope you have a good day, keep strong. X
elba are you ok?
How did it go at your appointment owens dubh going to tackle shops today! Let's see all the rude shoppers that are going crazy for sprouts and turkey.

For everyone else hope your ok.

Morning lovelies,

The ww is still winning here but I'm going to keep lurking and posting. Sigh. I was weighed and measured this week- have lost height and gained lots and lots of weight. Bugger!

January is going to be a fresh start for me and my wobbly thighs.

Welcome chit. The squid is called Barrie and lives in a tank on the bus. His role is tough love for anyone feeling overly sorry for themselves or feeling like a failure. A swift smack to the chops with a wet squid usually gets people back on track!
Guggs will join you on the neat the wobble. Have gained a lot this year

Morning everyone and thanks for the welcome.

So, ma is this Barrie around to give me a swift smack around the chops now? Had, the expected, shit nights sleep, sweated buckets and feel awful. Physically and mentally drained.

I'm expected at my aunts house, about four hours drive away, today. I've not packed, not wrapped their presents, not tidied the house, not bought the meal I promised to cook (nor have I got any ideas what to cook). Basically sitting in a pity party, a sweaty puffy mess trying to think of a plausible excuse to not go.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Hey everyone, lala here. Sorry I have been absent of late, lots of stuff going on...

Will catch up properly later. dubh you do make me laugh, need a pic of your new cape to cheer me up!

Hope everyone is ok, I am in bed hungover to the back teeth. Not a nice feeling. Didn't even go to my work Christmas do as I was too scared of what I would do/say if I had been drinking. I am a mess.

Sorry for the negative post, love to all.

lala just popping in to give you a beeeeeeeg squidge, on my break, will catch you later though? How's pup? Can you ride today? That'll deal with your cobwebs and get you a dot of fresh air. Rest up, plenty of water, try to eat something honeybee, you'll feel better, xxx

ma enjoy your day, turn up your tunes and dance like no one is watching! save me a mince pie xx

choc oh my! How brave are you? i hope you sharpened your elbows and added whirling swords to your chariot/shopping trolley. I could lend you my niece. She has a level of decibel nae handy and can clear a crowded aisle in nanoseconds. Or I could feed my hairy fiend sprouts and the effect would be the same. Both free of charge.

guggs!how are you? I swear the WW is more active at this time of year, it's like the dark days give her strength. Also signing up for wobble bashing. The height shrinking bit is also a bugger. I used to be five five and a half now I am five four. Yup, lets compress you so your BMI gets worse.

I bought some sporty leggings and some of those mbt trainers. I have every intention of making use of the short days by going out when it's pitch black so I don't frighten the horses

I bought another bottle of the heavingly dear non alcohol elderflower fizz for the Strictly final. Thinking about what to have for dinner. made I reckon I may join you in a belated Dominos. The new italian ones look quite fine.

Catch you later, I should be home before Strictly starts. Have a good day everyone!

dubh thanks for the squidge. Going to attempt to take the doglet out for walkies (she has disgraced herself by chewing up two of my riding socks (the ones with insulated feet), eating her squeaky ball, and attempting to massacre a Vicks nasal spray, and then the grand finale of pissing all over the bed when I tried to wrestle it off her).

Not riding today, doubt I would be able to stay on, but going to aim for af today in order to ride little miss bonkers tomorrow.

I feel very wobbly and my head feels like it has had bricks thrown at it.

Ha dubh either of them would of been ideal! It's funny as shops are closed for 1 day and it's like the world is coming to a end.
Iv got the children to sleep now I'm going to hopefully finish wrapping, then I can hopefully get my nights back, but it's keeping me busy.

Chit Big welcome! In regard to your aunts it might be easier to magic up some mysterious illness – common this time of year and no one would suggest alcohol to someone who’s getting over flu/stomach bugs etc. Avoids the ‘go on, go on, go on’ situation

Ooh choc I have a few shop related stories that involve people with 3 trollies full, arguments over bumped trolleys, races for the sprouts and brandy butter and umpteenth customers bemoaning the lack of turkeys. I have taken to removing my badge when off on break as I kept getting haraunged about mince pies and turkeys and spend precious few break –pizza eating and facebooking—minutes sorting them out I dislike the ditherers though – much prefer the ones who are organised ish or in a hurry

Guggs me too, doing it myself hasn’t worked so I think a return to slimming world in the new year is what is needed as nothing else seems to work (suppose the half boxes of after eights, cava and treeslets haven’t helped)

Dubh the Italian ones are lush, feels much posher than having a normal pizza too

La how are you doing now? Get an early night if you can Is dog still a pup? Ours when a pup would decide she didn't want her water (perfectly clean but not fresh that second) so would tip the bowl over meaning three things - drying her off, cleaning the floor and fresh clean water, the little sod! They're buggers but we'd be lost without them

I spent my 5 hour shift today smelling of eau de chicken – customer didn’t fasten bag properly and juices went everywhere – me, my till, etc. The local boys from the RFC who were bagpacking to raise money were v. helpful in mopping up duties though!

Having a festive Tia Maria. It must be Christmas...

Hi all,
Thought I would delurk to wish everyone a Happy Christmas or at least for those of you who are dreading it, a peaceful, quick, blink & you've missed it Christmas.
I haven't posted since March but have read the thread almost every day.
I have had a shi
t year since Easter but on the whole have kept the drinking under control. Aim for 1 bottle per week, ( although it's usually 2) but that's still a hell of a lot better than the 6 or 7 it was 18 months ago.
You are all brilliant & have cheered me up many times.
X

Anne that's fantastic! 2016's been a pretty crap year for me (drink taking over for a bit, the shit with ex friends, the horrible job and losing my job) but I'm hoping 2017 will be my year. At least I've got the job which will prob start after Xmas so hopefully things will perk up a bit. Sounds soppy but I do feel proud for weathering the storm the past 5 months and not drowning my sorrows in my usual fashion and a stronger person for it

Am worried about mum now though. Bit of a backstory, she got depressed after having me and was o anti depressants for years. Very anxious, wouldn't let the health visitor in the house for fear they'd take me away (bless her), but seems fine now. Was snooping on her phone the other day (wrong I know) and saw a text to a friend saying she was in a bad way and feeling depressed like she did years ago. She gets anti depressants but doesn't take them. I've spoken to dad and he's assured me she's fine, I've talked to her and she says she's fine and it's just the stress of her job, but I can't help worrying a little. And I know I can't do anything about it - in her words she didn't tell me she was struggling cos it's 'not my place as her daughter, not fair to worry me' and I can't change her mind really. Just a bit worried - but then I can't do anything really or force her and she's most definitely not a talk about your feelings woman. More of the opinion that talking does nothing, so she won't talk to me.

Arrh maiden that's tough for u, esp when u are willing to talk to her and be there for her, I suppose that may be a mum thing tho, my two are still really young but I probably wouldn't want them to know if I was struggling, maybe you could suggest to one of her friends she needs a brew and a chat that could help? Tough time of year aswel for people, highs and lows mind wanders off to memorys and what's happened in life ect.. I'm babbling..
Whoo hoo I'm all finished for wrapping, cannot wait to see my little ones faces will be so magical. They deserve it, I feel glad that this year is coming to a end and a fresh is starting, my relationship been on rocks children have seen arguments ect..break up and now there dad's back home again as a family.. what a year 😣.
I'm not drinking tonight..go me! X

ma. I'm nae seein a mince pie on ma seat. hope you all had a lovely day!

lala what is it with dogs and socks? Hope you felt better after your walk. The wee bairn on the Vicks. I wonder what she thought to it? it makes my eyes water and I know it's coming, must have blown her wee mind. And her nostrils. She'll not be getting the true scent of a bum for days.

choc check you oot Miss Thing! Presents wrapped and all shopped and all AF! I love seeing bairns all giddy on Christmas morning. My niece and nephew are always up at the crack of dawn! Once work was finished I managed the AF bit only. No shopping, no wrapping but straight home for Strictly, Dominos and ice cold elderflower fizz. Bloody lovely.

made aww bless you. Will your dad step in if he sees your mum is struggling more than she can cope with? How would she react if the tables were turned? Would she want you to take the meds prescribed or would she let you cope in your own way? without stepping in? It's a difficult one for sure, but maybe gently let her know you are there if she wants to talk and do as choc suggests. The one of her friends route. My mam is really private too. It makes things harder but I think it's the way they were brought up. The least said, soonest mended brigade.

So many Babes have had such a crappy 2016. made you have a new job to look forward to my dear, keep a firm hold on your new found strength and gie it laldy, it 's a New Year and a you will shine. One last thing, my wee fiend would love it if I came home smelling of chicken juice. That would be her best Christmas ever, right there!

Off to bed, just the last pee to do, it's bloody cold and wet here. She pretty much pees on demand but likes a perimeter check before bed.

Night night all, sweet dreams, xx

Thank you, I know christmas is a tough time anyway and I do think dad would step in if needed. Shes not taken the tablets for years but if it were me I do think shed let me cope. She deffo wont talk to me and i do understand, good idea re suggesting she talks to a friend though. Looking back theres been times shes been down but no more than we all get like, and shes never been really bad that I can remember. Tganks for your kibd words, am in work atm but will be back on later

I'm guna moan my pissin head off, just because people around me are fucking me off! It's Christmas and I'm happy about it can people go off and be miserable on there own! Grrrrrrrrr sorry had to say that here before I tell them around me to do one! be happy stop talking to me in that monotone voice and stop draining me!!!! Ha ha there we go I think I'm done!

That is not a go on any1 on here tho I like this bunch of babes! X

places mincepie foil on dubh's seat and adds holly for decoration.

Dd2s BF has just brought me a lush box for Christmas. She better bloody marry him.

Hello babes hope the day has treated everybody well. Mam has made jam tarts and lemon curd tarts so am able to offer them around (hides as a hoard of brave babes advances)

Choc I pass you a few jam tarts or mince pies if you prefer, along with a Christmas songs CD and my pair of very fetching reindeer antlers from work, you be as happy as you want and rub your christmassy feeling in the face of the annoying moaners!

Now for my dilemna of the day (seem to be overthinking). There was a nice girl I knew in uni but due to meddling of ex friend, stopped speaking for a while. Apologised, promised would never happen again, made up. I stupidly then listened to manipulitive ex friend and stopped speaking to nice friends. Since I got rid of horrible friends, I sent her a friend rewuest on fb (after having deleted her) and she's accepted it. Would really like to message her and make friends, but I'm sure I hurt her a lot. As in, didn't even wish her merry xmas or happy birthday. Worst thing is I knew her dad was unwell and still didn't bother. Was such a bitch. Want to get in touch, but is it too little too late? Part of me thinks I'd rather stay away and not argue etc, but then I do want to make up. Unsure really.

maiden if she didn't want to talk to you she wouldn't of acknowledge your Facebook. Send her a polite nice message explain you was in a bad place and would like to make up. If she is too hurt tell her you understand and no hard feelings.

Jam tarts hmm nice yes pleaaassse. X

I've messaged her, said hello and I was in a bad place and I know I hurt her, that I did something I promised not to, that I would love to make friends but understand if she can't, and I know it might be a case of too little too late, that I've seen what she's doing via fb and am sure she's doing fav.

Have had a chicken baguette for tea - part baked baguette with half a chicken fillet. Seem to have gotten into habit of having a glass of wine each evening, which is fine if it stays at a glass and no more. On the bright side have the drinkaware app and am tracking very accurately to get a good picture of things.

Hopping one to say Merry Christmas, Babes.

It's been an up and down autumn for me. Managed to have a couple of AF days a week most weeks until I came down with a virus a couple of weeks ago, and haven't had the strength to stop myself.

It's good to see so many old babes, and newbies, even if you are struggling. The bus is the warm glow on the edges of the internet.

sweet good to see you. Love "the warm glow on the edges of the internet"

I really appreciate the bus.
Had 4 AF days this week, but lots wine the other days...

Hope you're all okay