Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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Morning lovelies,

Lemon curd tart please. Yum.
Not managing any af days-yet- but not drinking crazy amounts either. I'm thinking about all the sensible, grown up things I used to do to stay sober and planning on picking up some good habits ( hobbits ) again.

I need to go back to an exercise class I enjoy but I stopped going because I'm knackered and the dc are flipping hard work. Oh yeah, and a big glass of red in front of eastenders seemed a better option.

So today's mission is: stay sane around kids and get out to class. An af day would be nice too.

Work drinks tonight, I'm going to have a couple of G n Ts then make my excuses.
Meeting H after for a drink!!
Then AF Tues to Thurs, party Fri (only at my house for motley crew of rellies) then AF Xmas eve...be nice to be awake and raring Xmas morning esp as they're being picked up by ex-P at 12.
Then drinking 25th and 26th then AF couple days...and so on til festivities end.
Putting my plan here for some accountability. Going to try hard.
Hope everyone's okay this morning.
I'm saying again I really appreciate this bus and it's safety and sanity.

Morning All.

Ma it's the passengers who make it glow .
Guggs, good to see you (lemon curd for me too, Made), I recognise the temptations of wine and telly on too well.
42, sound like you have a plan!

Well, today I feel bloody awful. Nasty virus has turned into lung infection, I feel like I have hot needles through my lungs, and have had no sleep thanks to being sick overtime I cough. So today I will just sip water, and try for a few af days before 'the day'.

How's everyone else doing?

Hi Anne, Sweet and guggs, great to hear from you again. Feels like we are entering the eye of the storm doesn't it; the rumbling of all the festivities gathering and gaining pace; the tight grip on the safety bar as we go over the top of the rollercoaster. Here we go, hang on tight, see you on the other side

Seriously, the next week or so can be an extremely challenging time so just remember that the hours will pass, just the same as they always do and we can get through them with no alcohol/controlled alcohol/skin of our teeth (delete as applicable).

It sounds like lots of us are gearing up for January so hopefully we'll have lots of support here on the bus to kick start a healthy and happy new year

Let's drive the bus to Babeland where our fairly light lit cottage community twinkles between the sea glass strewn shore and the velvet grassed downs. All is calm, dogs playfully chasing each other around the village green whilst their owners fling a cheery wave to each other, balancing last minute Christmas parcels and excited toddlers as they wend their way home in time to light the fire.

Let's stay here for a while and remember that this bus, glowing here on the edge of the internet is always a safe and supportive place to visit, to while away an hour or so, to pop in and pop out. To share thoughts, ideas, ramblings and fears. Merry Christmas babes

Morning all, iv had 10 days being af I think I will have a little bottle on Thurs as dp is going out so I think I will curl up in front of tv light a candle and put all my christmas lights on, I no I will not go mad as got a busy Friday and sat.

Sweet x posts. So sorry you are poorly. Sounds very nasty x

May I join in please? Regular poster but name changed for this.
I am so tired of not being able to remember getting home, sick of myself, being told next day by my daughter that I was drunk and awful.
I cannot walk away from a bottle of wine. I can have 2 beers, no problem or 1 or 2 spirits and leave it there, but wine, not a hope.
It's a terrible habit for me and I look like crap when I used to be quite nice looking.
Not sure how Christmas is going to go. I plan to attempt dry January.

Welcome go this bunch are very good nom judgments and can be very fun. Hop on the bus! X

Nom I ment no! Let's not be judge on spelling!

Faire, it was probably TMI, but yes, it's rubbish. DH and I have pretty well cancelled Christmas - fortunately, DS's stuff was ordered on line, but it won't be the full on Xmas he's used to. I'm going to imagine myself onto your Babeland village green, and hope that SweetPup doesn't disappear after the ducks in the village green pond .

Quickly welcome aboard Gerald the Brave Babes Bus. I understand completely what you say about not walking away from an open bottle. You will get understanding and help (and a few giggles along the way) here. As Faire said, this is a tough time of year, but planning for Jan is a good idea - so many other people do it them, it's safe to admit you're not drinking - no awkward questions. Now just to avoid cramming extra in before then!

Choco, ten days is great - you must be feeling the benefit?

Are 'nom judgements' what happens when Ma* gives you a hard stare for eating the last green opal fruit?

Bold fail!

Yeah I feel better and in control, not health wise tho too many sweet treats and nice food in this house. . But hay diets start in January right?

But hay diets start in January ?? Are you kidding? You are on a diet of hay? Hopefully not the stuff left over after the little baby Jesus sweetly wet slept on it

But more seriously to those who are thinking they have to drink over Christmas, my experience in bygone years was that often I drank LESS at Christmas time.

The combination of people around the house, the garage being used for storage of excess junk a lack of secret hiding places, guests who were willing to help out in the kitchen or 'nip to the shops' no chance for a sneaky top up, aunts who went white at the thought of more than one bottle of wine being opened... It all contrived to reduce my usual drinking habits and I was just drunk like a normal person

And if I could only drink like a normal person then often I'd find it easier not to drink much at all. Plus a few meals in full view where I hardly touched a drop did wonders to maintain the idea that couldn't possibly have a drink problem. Who was I kidding, really?

Someone ate the last green Opal Fruit???
Good to see so many on the bus, if you know what I mean.

Hello babes! Am feeling quite cheerful today (although I do have a bit of a tummy bug - so AF tonight and drinking loads of water). Am going out with a friend tomorrow night for a meal and 1 or 2 drinks (maybe). Am debating what to wear though did buy some lovely new boots with a wedge and a new diary today which was nice.

Very quiet in work so had to go and stack shelves (hope it's a bit busier tomorrow. Also hope I'm not on basket tills and get a comfy chair - don't ask for much do I? ) No news from friend I messaged but she's not read it yet. Phoned Home lady this morning - she said congrats, that the file has been sent to manager and they'll decide which home to put me in, and then she'll ring with a start date etc and not to hand in my notice until we know a start date. I apologised again for it taking so long, she said no worries and that although I was fired from last job I was open and honest from the start and the manager was 'very complimentary' apparently which is great!

Hope you feel better soon! maiden
I have just treated myself to a new dress for xmas day, I think I deserve it let's hope it comes in time!

Hi all,

I've been sent here from another thread. I gave up drinking on Jan 1st last year after a horrible hangover. I don't think I had an alcohol problem, but I felt like it might be heading that way - stressful job, 3 small DCs. I was having a glass or two or three most nights.

I did dry January and just kept on going and haven't had alcohol since then. I am really feeling like starting again now, but can't decide what to do. DH is supportive either way (but I think he misses me a bit tiddly). He is planning to do Dry Jan anyway.

In a way I'd like to have a few festive drinks, but another part of me says why start again now - really so little good comes from me being on the wine again.

Any wise words very welcome!

Hi all just checking in, been reading but not posting much. To be honest I'm just wishing the next week away and am very aware that I sound like a total Scrooge. Cheering everyone on though and hoping you are all ok and happy.

I'm planning a dry January (maybe beyond?) but until then seem to be on a bit of a self destruct mission. Which is weird as it sounds so totally deliberate but yet isn't totally. Work is manic which is a good thing at the moment. Had some news last week which has totally thrown me for some bizarre reason- it's so completely minor (for me at least) that I'm too embarrassed to even say what it is. But it's resulted in a week of tears, and have totally failed at being af for over two weeks.

Hi sunday I read your post. Well done on being af for so long. Noone can tell you what to do but I can agree that my life sometimes takes me to the booze im a sahm with 2 small dc, dp stresses all tge time due to work yadda yadda. I don't drink through the week but as soon as it's weekend I get the bug, although I didn't last week ! I am learning to control my intake I hope and deal with life without the drink.

Sorry by that I mean I want to not run to the drink when I down, stressed and want to enjoy a glass or two. God im crap at saying what I mean.

Morning,
Just checking in. Bit cross with myself for still not managing an af night and for using 'but it's nearly Christmas' as an excuse. Have also crammed more chocolate and mince pies in.

Ok today is day one.

Sunday ( forgotten how to do bold) I find that it creeps up again when I allow myself to drink a little. On the other hand it's something you need to find out for yourself.

Was going to type more but a very wriggly child has just showed up, sadly it's one of mine and I need to attend to it : )

Blimey! It's crickets round here. Was it something I said? : )
Am Af tonight for the first time in ages. Big green opal fruit for me please.

Passing u them down! G il join u.
I'm struggling getting my dc to sleep there full of it.I need a little nice brew and 5 mins peace!