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Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

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Mrsmimsy · 14/10/2016 23:24

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chocoholic89 · 15/12/2016 06:47

elba dont be daft and post away. If you can't get it off our chest on here where can you. Don't mean to sound patronising wake up and today your not going to drink today. Write yourself a little rota of what needs doin, prezzies, cards housework? ? Cook a nice tea, sort your family out, have a nice bath then have hot chocolate with marshmallows and nice book or film..I keep on having emotional moments recently that time of year, I keep thinking of the crap iv been through with dp and I'm trying to be positive for the next year together. If I feel down I put xmas music on and dance around with my dc. They must think here we go my mums crackers ha ha. Keep busy elba x

chocoholic89 · 15/12/2016 06:48

Hope your day goes well owens

dementedma · 15/12/2016 21:23

Good to see you Venus
Had a complete fucking breakdown in work today.Just can't do it anymore. Got send home, went to bed, slept all afternoon.
Am beyond exhausted....

CuileanDubh · 15/12/2016 22:18

venus how are you quine? Fit like yersel? Grin Look at you go! xx

ma? Fit happened? You okay? Just seen yer message and I'm fretting. Do ye feel better after yer sleep? Is it something that will sort? xxxx

dementedma · 16/12/2016 08:51

Hi dubh. The office move went wrong, removal guys didn't show. Had to move a lot of it myself on Wednesday. Went in yesterday to two offices in complete chaos, stuff everywhere, phones ringing, in tray full and I just couldn't do it anymore...Sad. Broke down, unfortunately in front of one of our Board members, the only one I don't like and didn't want to see me like that! To be fair she was nice about it and sent me home, but she will store it up for the future! I'm exhausted, completely and utterly exhausted and just feel I can't go on being all things to all people any more...

aliasjoey · 16/12/2016 10:19

ma try and have a proper rest today okay

Rubyredlips · 16/12/2016 13:43

Hi all. I've decided to pop in and see how the preparations for Xmas are getting on. All seems in order so I'm v pleased! I've not been on the thread for about 9 months (eek). But have just read up on what's been happening. Nothing changed with me, still battling the WW.

puttingthegenieback · 16/12/2016 13:57

Hi everyone. Hope you don't mind me parachuting in from nowhere; I haven't been on the thread in a while. I will catch up with it this weekend. At the moment, I'm just looking for some support, as I am feeling very sad these days. I haven't had a drink since January, and I had been feeling pretty good about that. But the holidays are a hard time I guess. (I'm sure some of you can relate!) I am feeling very lonely of late. I've been NC with my parents for many years. I have good friends, but I've never been a "group" person, so sometimes my support network doesn't really feel like a network so much as it does like friend islands! This time of year in particular I feel as if everyone else is getting together in big groups (and drinking!) and having a jolly time. I really should stay off Facebook....
Anyway, I hope everyone is doing all right. I know this isn't the easiest time of year for a lot of people.

Rubyredlips · 16/12/2016 14:35

Hi Genie brilliant result not drinking since January. FB tells whatever story we want it to and it's simply not true that everyone is out having a great old time (although it definitely looks like that sometimes). I hate that we feel we should be out partying in big gangs (I know that I feel like I'm missing out if I'm not). So I'll join you in raising a cup of hot chocolate to us people who are not the big groups but have a lot to offer

chocoholic89 · 16/12/2016 16:42

Hi genie you have done so well good for you Flowers. Think of how you would feel if you hAve a drink? If you know u would beat yourself up don't do it.It's so hard tho, iv got that feeling in my tummy and would love to have a glass of wine tonight, such a stressful day but I suppose that's my excuse isn't it. I'm not tho I'm guna fight the urge for another day have a BrewCake hope everyone is ok. X

puttingthegenieback · 16/12/2016 19:04

Thanks so much Ruby and chocoholic , your words are very helpful. Just knowing that you understand how I am feeling means a lot. Raising a mug of hot chocolate back to you this evening!

chocoholic89 · 16/12/2016 19:33

I'm laughing at myself just had that arrh moment, got children settled I jumped in my pjs made a caramel latte Xmas Grin

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 19:42

ma I hope ye've had a better day quine, what a shitter of a day ye had yesterday. Yer bean juice touched your fried egg a few too may times yesterday, nae much wonder it all came to a heid. Hopefully the board member will not be an arse about it, we all have a tipping point m'dear, I hope the scales have levelled oot a bitty for ye the day ((((settlingbosie)))) xx

joey I snuck an afternoon off and headed into the toon today. Just two hours o me time, went to Books and Beans and ddddddddddrrrrrrrrrruuuuuuuuuuuummmmmmmm roll.......

Aitkens

My cup runneth o'er. As does the bread bin. Blush You doing okay quine? xx

ruby hello quine, how the divil are ye? xx

genie in a couple of weeks it will all be by and past, stay strong my dear, we will do it, you'll see. xx

choc have you had a rubbish day? Are you off for the weekend? Anything nice planned? xx

lala how are you petal? Thinking of you and pup, hope you are being bosied and loved, xx

spanna I forgot to say in all the stramash that your photograph of your bouf was stunning! So proud of you sweetpea, and I am clinging on to the hem of The Smock of Smug, hoping a thread will unravel a bit and magically start wrapping round me and weaving itself into a Tabard of Try. Miss you, but wow, look at you go! (((((((((bosiebosiebosie)))))))) xxxxxx

I don't know what it is but I struggle a bit at Christmas, it's not just the expectations other folk have, or the expectations I have to control myself and my opportunities for a blowout, but it feels deeper. A sadness of some kind, loneliness despite being surrounded by folk, grieving for those I loved and miss dreadfully. And probably just as it gets towards the big day, panic and the need to flee.

I long for spring, all those fresh wee buds and little green shoots fill me with hope and joy again. Because I've been drinking a little more again, I feel bloaty and fat, my skin has dulled and I can't even blame a harsh winter. I know the remedy. Drier/dry January for me.

I bought a fab waxed cape to ride/walk the fiend in, it's a bonny lime green, (yup ma keep an eye oot for a seaglass hunter sashaying aboot like a voluminous opal fruit singing Judy Garland) and I feel like a kid again wearing it. I just need matching wellies and I'm a' the bash. My Dubarrys are a bit redundant due to lack of dog walking but they just won't go with this cape.

I have got a small bottle for tonight, one of the tiny M&S ones. A few people said "oh just get me a bottle of something for Christmas" and I have but they are sitting there like malevolent wee shites willing me to rip them open. I made a special effort wrapping those ones to stop me liberating them. Elaborate winding of ribbon, glittery shit etc.

Tonight I will be good and just have The One.

Laters taters xx

chocoholic89 · 16/12/2016 19:54

Yeah dubh just been stuck in all day with my dc. Trying to get my house xmas ready ha ha. U know the kind clean everywhere as you know people are coming round and we have just decorated so needed a deep clean.
Dc are all exited about Christmas so all hyper and in my way!
I'm massively under pressure for the big 25th.christmas brings out the best in people Confused

dementedma · 16/12/2016 19:58

Xmas Grin tabard of try! God dubh you do make me laugh!

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 20:03

Ah. The lovely festive deep clean we knock ourselves silly doing... Grin And all anybody cares about is that they are well fed and watered and welcome to join in the festivities. Or fight for the remote.

My niece and nephew will be round, my brother said they are already in squeaky overdrive. Grin

The other family bit isn't going so good, but less said about that the better. Sad

dementedma · 16/12/2016 20:17

We are having our first Christmas tomorrow with mum, as she is going to London for Christmas to be with my sister.
Dd2 nd her BF are coming round , along with assorted young people! I shall do mulled wine and mince pies, if I can summon the energy..

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 20:57

Two Christmasses ma?!? Have you had a better day?

Aaah. Lovely that you will have a houseful of happy for the morn. I loved doing the round of mams houses when I was a nipper. They must have thought a plague of overly madeup, eighties clad locusts had landed. Parcel any uneaten sprouts and set them on the back seat o the bus. I love a sprout.

If they need some turkey, roasties, piggies, bread sauce, cranberry sauce , a carrot or two and some gravy to keep them company then so be it. I will personally vouch for their safekeeping.

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 20:58
dementedma · 16/12/2016 21:04

You keep that Big Thievy Spoon to yersel!
Not been a good day really, but dh has finally realised I need more help and made dinner. I have sprawled on the sofa getting quietly pissed.

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 21:42

At least your dh stepped up and sorted the dinner. You get yersel comfy ma, and chill oot. Watch the telly, fuss the General and know that we think you are fabulous. Just the way you are.

Mean it though. x

madein1995 · 16/12/2016 21:47

Hi genie, wow well done you Smile that’s amazing, I agree that everyone’s facebook lives seem perfect – it’s like Christmas, we’re sold the idea of a ‘perfect’ Christmas and we all try so hard to get it when in reality we’re making the festive season stressfuller (is that a word?) than it needs to be.

Dubh that sounds good, and I think the little bottles are a perfect size

Ma that sounds lush, 2 christmas lunches you lucky thing! Drink plenty of water tonight or mum’s gentle nagging (I think all mum’s do it lol) will seem like someone playing drums in your head.

I’m walking on air tonight! The lady from the childrens home and said my file has been signed off (which I’m assuming means it’s all ok and I still have the job) and that they’re not in now but will ring me on Monday to sort things out! So happy, have had a dominos and two glasses of wine to celebrate. Will end up at 30 units this week – more than I’d anticipated but have been spreading it out rather than drinking them all at once and was drinking over 100 a week earlier this year

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 22:20

made aww sweetheart I must have missed an earlier post which explained this Blush but I'm right happy for you. Flowers

I'm doing the spready out thing too, I'm hoping it will stop my need for binge eventually. And lead to a day where I am truly satisfied with Just The One. Or none at all.

elba? You there? How are you today? xx

chitofftheshovel · 16/12/2016 22:52

Is there room on the bus for me? I'm small so won't take up much room.
I've surpassed even myself of late, sank a box of wine over 24 hours, finishing it at about midday today. I've now got the sweats, any idea how long they'll last for?

I've read a lot of this thread and really think it will help me. So today is day 1/2, but for me and my children I am going to have to stop.
I'm going to stay at my aunts house for a few days tomorrow, they know me as a drinker, they are too, any advice as to how to avoid the booze whilst there? Like if I say I'm not drinking at the moment does that make me look as though I have a problem? I'm so ashamed of myself.

CuileanDubh · 16/12/2016 23:34

Always room on the bus m'dear chit! (lovelovelove your name btw Grin)

No, it won't make you look like you have a problem. Is this going to be an easy occasion for you to start this? Will they accept you saying no or will it be like Mrs Doyle in Father Ted? G'wan. G'wan. G'WAN!!! Would you be able to moderate or will your glass be refreshed constantly?

If they won't accept, can you say that you are trying to fit into a new frock for Hogmanay? Or that you really overdid it the other night and just can't face it?

Welcome aboard. You are with friends, Smile and a squid (who is also a friend of the tough love sort) Grin xx

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