Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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haunt well done on fewer drinks than usual.
Hope all are okay.
I'm on day 3. Will be ready for a drink by Friday!

Jobs really ARE like buses! Just been invited to an interview for a job with the dwp absolutely don't really want it (salary is the only good thing really), but I'll book an interview slot anyway because I'm not 100% sure the children's home job won't fall through. It's 2 weeks today so provided I get my arse in gear in regards to the DBS form, I should know if I'm starting in the care home by then so will be able to cancel interview if it's no longer needed. Just need to keep my options open I think. Everything's going at 100 miles an hour atm and I think I need to calm things down a bit

Well done theanswer and well done on cutting back Haunt

Thank you answer I'm normally not very organised but I kind of have to be now, absolutely no time for wallowing over silly things

Sounds corny, but my life really is much different now than it was in February, things recently have been worse than they were back then, but so proud of myself for not drinking to block out the pain. I've been tempted to lots of times, but can honestly say that by resisting I've had a clearer head and been more rational and able to cope with things. Think I've toughened up a bit too which can only be a good thing I think looking back that drinking isn't a problem per se, more that drinking as a way of dealing with bad things is a big problem, and that when I fall into that trap it's hard to fall out of. So all (she says sarcastically) I need to do is not use drinking as an outlet, which surprisingly I have been able to do through this recent bout of shit things can only get better!

made sounds like you are on a roll! Fab news on all the job offers.

42 well done for day 3, and ma for your 2 days. Hope your both feeling the benefits.

I drank far too much last night, watching the election results start to come through probably didn't help. Spent the last two days hungover, low and anxious. It's scaring me a bit to be honest. Going to try very hard to be af for a bit. Having an endoscopy Monday so would at least aim to stay sober until then.

I'm away at a conference for work the next two days - just got to the hotel. Have worked out if I turn the tv round I can see it from the bath, they do room service, and the bed seems amazing. So hopefully that's an af evening sorted. Tomorrow night may well involve socialising and alcohol...might have to fake a headache or something.

theanswer, thats great! Not long til Friday!

Thanks Made. Its fab that you have all these options!!

I'm bloody on night 3 in a row of drinking! Crapola. i've had rather a taxing day, Dd1 had refused to go for an eye test last 3/4 years, shes 15, no problems so thought it was ok. Managed to get ger there today, she has wiggly veins so needs to get blood pressure checked Optican said its common in preemies, whicj shes not but had severe sleep apnoea so starved of oxygen until cured.
Feel shit. Took dd1 and dd3 to dentist, dd3 had loads of plaque... Was there 3 months ago as teeth plaquey then. Go feel shit. I've done a disclosing tablet tonight. Dd1 has 2nd shadow from too much sugar, we try and keep sweets etc to Saturdays, she says shes not eating sweets at school

Its gets worse! Took ddog to vets, dd2 decided to tell ds1. Age 3 what a female dog is called. so he shouted it repeatdly and threw himself on the floor screaming.

To top it of senco at dd2 school have sent a lettet as she needs spelling intervention.

Oh and dd1 has told me x's mum is cool and dresses cool and is a medic I'm not. Grr

haunt that IS a crap day. It just kept on coming !
Hope tomorrow is flaming better for you

You have inspired me to get disclosing tablets though

Thanks answer the disclosing tablets are ace for seeing areas missed but do them when you have time patience

Haunt ooh, that does sound rough! Any chance of getting to bed early - the earlier you go in, the earlier this bloody day is over? Hope tomorrow is an improvement

Morning everyone. How are we today?

morning babes
just checking in
day 4 for me and it is DC1 first go at Beavers tonight so that will keep me on track as we won't get home til 8 and then bedtime.
Then I'll get ready for another busy day tomorrow then the weekend with dear friend.
So, day 4 and I won't drink
Hope everyone is ok.

Hi all - I was just wondering if anyone might be able to shed any light on why I am feeling so very crap having been making a concerted effort not to drink this week?

I am aware that I can easily slip into the habit of drinking most evenings, so have been trying to not drink during the week as it makes my depression flare up the next day and generally makes me feel rubbish. I have 2 young DC's too, and my 3 year old is particularly challenging so a hangover really doesn't help.

Could it be some sort of withdrawal thing? I have been waking up feeling as if I have downed a bottle of red and had very little sleep, even though I haven't had a drink since Saturday (which is a feat in itself for me)

Hope no one minds me posting here.

Hi Dave, welcome to the bus

It could simply be the residue of alcohol leaving your body. We call it 'seeing the hangover through to the end' as often we keep ourselves topped up and don't really feel the full effects.

People have said it can take up to 10 days before you start to feel better and get that lovely restful sleep. Everyone is different though. Stick with it and hopefully you will feel the benefits soon.

If you are on ADs, they can be affected by alcohol too so that should start to stabalise and work much more effectively soon. Well done on 4 AF days. Tonight will make it number 5 for you x

Quick shout out to baby and mouse any others who haven't posted in a while. Hope you're ok - give us a wave will ya

Thanks Fairenuff x

I was meant to be going out with a friend this evening but have cancelled as feeling so lousy. To top it all off, about an hour ago my DD out of the blue projectile vomited all over me, herself, the sofa/carpet and DS..lovely.

I've spent the last hour trying to clean up feeling like absolute crap . I haven't been able to get DS any dinner yet, as am waiting for OH to get home..he wasn't able to leave early as everyone else in his team had buggered off early for the day.

Not what I needed today. Already had a couple of meltdowns.

I am on AD's although I am trying to wean myself off.

I just feel like crying

Hope you feel better soon Dave that sounds like a bad evening, anyway you can give children to DH when he gets in and get yourself to bed? From what I remember when I first (and second, and third, and forth etc) started cutting down on my drinking, I felt like rubbish. I'd been so used to using alcohol to get to sleep that I found sleeping hard, and agree with what faire says about seeing the hangover through to the end - usually, I'd be back on it by 4 o clock so didn't experience much. I always thought I never got hangovers and woke up feeling not too bad, and there's a huge difference between feeling not too bad and feeling amazing. It really will get better soon take care of yourself

Hope everyone's evenings are going ok ddog seems to have a cold (sneezing and coughing) so have taken to only allowing her out for 10mins at a time to do her business and then wrapping in a fluffy blanket as soon as she gets in, hopefully that'll curb it. If not I see a visit to the V-E-T in the near future

Volunteering covered some emotional topics but I feel I'm really making bonds with the women. One of them was a bit worried when I didn't go last week and was chuffed when I explained re the job - and we were able to do a bit of joking/bantering.They trust and confide in me which is surprising because of my age, but makes me feel good too!

Induction training at Tesco tomorrow (4 til 9 - very awkward time) so will get the bus down to arrive for 3 and go for a bit of a cuppa and a sandwich beforehand. Ddog is going to be treated,as she'll be left alone from 2.30-9 but 2.30 is too early and 9 too late for food so will have a bigger breakfast, a 'lunch' (normally only has 2 meals) of cold sausage/cheese/bit of ham/beef and cheese treat bite things around 2 then she ought to be able to hang on til 9 for a bit of her main meal. She's a greedyguts so will love it

made Good luck with your induction! My ddog would be in 7th heaven! 🐩

Dave I feel a bit like I've had a drink in the mornings even if I've not.

I'm hoping for AF weekend.

Dave when I came on here not long ago one of my posts was that I felt better when AF, but not as better as I thought I would.
And some mornings I feel dreadful.
Turns out SOME of it is getting older/little kids/worrying and not the booze at all!
But having done a few weeks of more AF morning afters, I do feel better.

Bugger, feel anxious. Nothing to do with the induction but am in costa and just sat down and seen the boys who used to bully me in scgool. Theyre still chopsy asf so clearly not changed, ans am just in a corner keeping out of their way, theyve not noticed me abd I know tgey wont di anything but still not happy

I went to see the Dr today to try and find out why I am feeling so lethargic and bone achingly tired, despite having cut right down on the wine.

He thinks it is a side effect of me starting to try and come off my AD's.

I am so tempted to text OH and get him to bring home some wine..haven't had a drink since last Saturday.

Trying to decide if I should push on through or treat myself as it's been a hell of a week.

Hope you're ok madein.

Bullies are hateful.

Oh Made There are just insecure arseholes. Hope your ok.

I have had a better week in terms of cutting down and feel less bloated and less headachy in the mornings. It's bloody difficult though and am already half way through a bottle tonight.
Had a lovely time at my black tie dinner last night and did some serious soldier ogling!!!

made how did it go in the end?

dave welcome, and well done on cutting back. Trying to come off ads can make you feel pretty rubbish in my experience, as can cutting back on drinking. Hope you can take it easy this weekend.

Not in a good place at the moment- very low the last few days, and drinking creeping up again. Trying to work out which came first. Just had two days at a conference trying very hard to keep up a happy face but wanting to just run away to be on my own and cry most the time. Have a huge amount on my mind which I'm trying and failing to make sense of.

Also slightly terrified as having an endoscopy on Monday morning and I'm worried it may show something self inflicted, either from years of drinking or from years of on/off eating disorders and purging . Which is not an entirely unfounded fear. Plus I'm having an extra wobble as I have to go on my own and therefore can't have sedation...the thought having a camera shoved down my throat whilst wide awake doesn't exactly fill me with joy.

Sorry, full of self pity this evening. Going to attempt an early night and get up for parkrun tomorrow. Exercise and less (or no) alcohol might snap me out of this. I hope anyway.

elba hope the op goes well :)
I hope everyone is ok and foing well
Im a lot better now - induction was fun and bullies didnt notice me xx