Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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obrigada that's great, 8 out of 9 is fantastic!

I have a bit of good news, I got the job in the children's home (subject to references and a DBS) she asked why I left previous job, I told her and she said she appreciated my honesty. Asked me to email her details of previous voluntary placements/work to build a picture f what person I am - so fingers crossed last job won't matter too much!

Have emailed her most of details, not last voluntary placement as can't get in touch. Explained what happened in last job - something along the lines of feel obliged to tell you, I told her in just facts what happened, that no one was harmed, that it was the first and last time I have ever done anything of the kind, I understand it was wrong and will never happen again, that I've since volunteered in environments where I've needed to make sure building is secure and have done so safely (refuge), that I understand it may affect job offer but still felt obliged to explain, me and employer parted on good terms and she agreed to give a reference, and that I hope my honestly, along with the positive feedback I'm sure my references will give, will encourage them to keep my job offer open. So very mature (I think, anyway) and hopefully it won't have too bad an effect. I'm celebrating anyway. Still have to go to jobcentre as may be able to get a tapered earnings thingy, but am unsure and if I do still get the home jo, won't apply. At least the woman on the phone didn't straight away take back the offer so that's good I think

I've been told by the DRY thread to have a gander here. I started off thinking I wanted to quit booze after a bad night lasted 2 days. After reading a dry blog belle. I think moderation is what I want right now.
Am I in the right place?

Hi Haunting you're definitely welcome here you're in the right place. Whether you want to stop drinking, or stop drinking to excess, whether you're dry or wet as a fish, you're welcome on board

I'm Made, I've been on here on and off since February and it's really helped me. Come and tell us about yourself, what you want to achieve wherever you are or whatever you want right now, you're definitely welcome. What made you think you wanted to start moderating your intake?

Thank you Made for that lovely welcome

My reason for wanting to cut down is I'm drinking 4 sometimes 5 bottles of wine a week. I also am opening anothet bottle or hitting the rum as well. I know its not good for my health and as I have chronic health issues its a double whammy. Fed up of spending over half the week feeling slightly to massivley hung over.
Also its costing me a fortune! I had 2 bottles on Saturday, can't remember some of it, was mean to DH.

I want to enjoy a couple of bottles a week.

Hi Haunt, if there's one thing I've noticed about going easier on the booze, it's how you wake up feeling. It's amazing how different waking up and feeling 'not too bad' and waking up and feeling amazing, are. You might not feel too good in the first few days (my sleep suffered at first because I relied on drink to get to sleep) but when you get over that, you'll feel amazing. You'll have lots more money too. How are you doing tonight, are you drinking?

made well done on the job! Go you!
Haunted you are very welcome here. I have been on this bus forever and am one of the old timers. Still struggle with drink but today is day 2 AF. My intake is similar to yours so I can sympathise.

Yeah to feeling better and more money would be very welcome! Yes drinking tonight, Made. Drank last night as well! Am going to try and do 3 days off then and try and average at 3 bottles a week then 2.

Thanks dementedma. Well done on 2 days AF!

That sounds good Haunt I'm having a glass tonight (breaking my not at weekend rule) but is in celebration and will just be the one as up early tomorrow morning. Thanks ma and well done on 2 days AF I've just had email off old volunteering place, they're happy to give a reference and I know it'll be a glowing one. I'm figuring that 3 glowing references will out do a slightly bad one - and keep telling myself that if last employer was that pissed off, they wouldn't give a reference so I reckon it'll be a short one but doubt it'll be a bad one. And think my honesty should go in my favour

Well done ma. Proud of you.

haunted welcome. I am one of the less saintly babes. These guys are so supportive and so not judgemental. Oh and inspirational. I am having a sneaky glass of wine in the bath.

Hey other babes. Had a rocky ride on lucifer this evening. Ok that's not her name, but it may as well be. Mr l has a curry brewing... I am in the bath having a sneaky glass of wine. Imagine my dismay or delight when I got home with the dog just now, he has got my favourite cider in... help!!!!

Good plan Made and well done on your job!

Thanks all.

Struggling at the moment- like I've let the momentum go and can't get it back. Drank 3 pints and half a bottle of wine last night, so not too terrible, but heading for similar (or more) tonight. Stupid thing is I didn't enjoy it last night until drink number 3...I could of happily gone to bed. Then of course didn't want to stop after that. And then vowed not to drink tonight, which hasn't happened.

Feel very low and so extremely tired of obsessing over it all, tired of everything actually.

Elba bless you, my love can you put the drink down now for now, and go in the shower or something just to get you out of the way of it? Or sup some sugary sweets? You've been through a lot and drinking will make it worse, please don't think I'm preaching because I'm really not, I just know how drinking made a bad mood worse and had me sobbing most nights, not just at the bad thing but at the drinking too, and I don't want you to go through that. Life seems such a fucking struggle sometimes, but you're strong, you're a fighter, and you will get through it and it will get better. Don't give yourself a hard time though, not now or in the morning - never feel that you're weak because you're not.

hi all
hope all are OK.
welcome haunted, I am new here. Intake similar to yours, been posting here only about a month and the support is ace.
I have lessened intake most weeks, which is a good bit of progress for me.
made you are right, when I have a drink all the bad stuff is still there but then I cry about it as well.
And when I wake not hungover, the day goes a lot better.
elba for tonight maybe have one drink less? I dunno. It's hard

In bed with hot chocolate and the relief that I have got through another day.Two days without a drink and I act as if I have climbed Everest!! But you all know what I mean.
Elba can you head to bed now?

Argh I've drunk a few more glasses than I planned to and for some reason am feeling a bit down and teary (the sad music can't be helping) I should be celebrating, not being maudlin. Might think about getting some proper counselling, if I've got a proper job I might be able to afford it slaps self for not taking advantage of uni counselling when had the chance Ignore me babes, just being bloody stupid and self pitying and selfish, it's ridiculous.

Well, woke up to the news that Trump will be next president. The world has gone mad!

Tis enough to drive one to drink

Hi made How are you today? Do you think the booze is having a depressant effect?

So I had a bottle of wine last nigh, I find only half filling my glasses helps as I do drink fast. It did cross my mind to drink more but I told myself off and went to bed!

I'm now trying to do 3 days AF. So plan to drink on Saturday. Looking forward to it and will be all the sweeter if I manage it!

How is everyone today? I'm bloody knackered, think partly due to the wine but partly due to chronic ill health.😕 Sometimes it pissesme off all the life I'm missing!

A lot better today, thanks Haunt I think I was worried about not getting the job when it's so close and got a bit silly, daft really. Feel a lot better today. Have got acceptance pack from job so lots of form filling, taken a letter to my doctors (am so grateful I never went to the gp when I was drinking too much, dread to think what they would've said) and they've got to give a brief medical history etc. When doctors give that back to me, I've got to post the forms to HR. Also need to get documents photocopied tomorrow and then fill in my DBS and send them off. Once everything is sent off I'll phone the woman and tell her things are in the post and references are happy to be contacted.

Not quite free of jobcentre yet. Seems I won't get my earnings topped up but they'll keep my claim open - which means that while I'm working part time (Tesco, until I start in care home) I have to attend jobcentre despite recieving no money off them. Still have to update online and inform service centre every single time I work overtime. So my plan is to do nothing until the 15th (when my money for this month is owed to me) and then cancel my claim. Done enough running around today so chilling now, then volunteering tomorrow along with library, then hopefully fill in and send off my DBS. Friday I'm volunteering and then got my induction at Tesco, Saturday induction with Tesco and then if Drs not got back by Monday will pop over and see what's happening.

Made glad you are feeling better. Job centre sounds a nightmare!! I used to work in Tesco. I hope everything goes to plan, no reason why it shouldn't.

made you're a machine! Well done for all this life progress