Brave Babes Battle Bus - Holding our heads up like thistles

[MaryMungoAndMidgies]

I bit the bullet - Come on in, excuse the faint whiff of dog!

The last thread

So sorry, I'm ok ish but strugglijg. Gone to bed withbut both coffee and wine, hope to pass out. Thank you xxxxx

No worries, off to sleep myself now. Will check in on you in the morning and see if you are OK xxx

Oh my giddy aunt. Dog was whining at the door so took her out for a wee... Gunshots just gone off. She leapt about a foot in the air and I am bloody shaking. Fecks sake.

Are you ok Elba? Hope? Lala?

Is everyone ok today? Sounds like some rough nights last night!

We are alive. Bit melodramatic of me last night, probably wasn't gunshots.... Bloody massive bangs though, my sister heard them and she lives fifteen minutes away.

Hungover. And dog has done a shit on the carpet, oh good.

Hi all, sorry I'm a drunk idiot. And very, very hungover. Feel very low still...clearly alcohol does/did nothing to help that. Which I know, as I've done this over and over again. Thank you though for putting up with my drunk crap, you are all lovely xxxx

Lala, Hope how are you today? And Elba your posts hurt my heart, am so sad for you, you are so not worthless or useless. I think back over the threads on this bus, and I remember how often you have been there for others, how generous and clear thinking you are - I wish you could believe that of yourself right now. Let us know how you are doing today. Thoughts are with you.

Am feeling bafflingly well for a Sunday morning. Well, not bafflingly, as I guess that if you don't drink to oblivion on a Saturday night, chances are you do feel well on a Sunday. It is just several months since I have had that experience. Last night was ok but it was startling how much of a trigger Strictly turned out to be. I must have drunk my way through every previous series. It was, I have to say, better viewing when pissed.

Hope everyone is ok today. Ma thank you, the sea glass was gorgeous. Mouse, how you doing? Waves to all.

I'm OK Ta. WB hasn't spoken to me for 24 hours over an incident where he ' had to' rewash a pan as I hadn't done it well enough and is currently at MIL's with evil birch SIL where they are no doubt sticking pins in a doll of me while sympathising with him for having to stay with such an evil wife. (yeah so fuck off mate... Oh wait, you can't afford to as you don't earn anything you cocklodging prick).

Took ds to an event today and now home and about to catch up on Bake Off with DD. Before WB comes home and orders me out of my own living room, obvs.

Living the fucking marital dream aren't I ?

What would happen if you refuse to move rooms hope

We are arguing already. Not helped by my mother. I am sitting on the toilet (lid down btw) because he threw a massive strop. Horse officially retired, I took all her rugs etc and put them in our shed. Drunk and crying now. I've made a huge mistake, moving in with him

Things might settle lala. Takes a while for things to shake down.can you talk about it with him?

I feel horrible as he has just brought me a bath plug and a bath bomb. He is trying

Tell him you are upset about your horse, and have been through a rough time recently and it might take a wee bit of time for things to settle. Have a cuddle

Sorry about your horse Lala. Hope you make it up with Mr L.

Ma I do refuse to leave and yesterday he stropped out to MIL's. Sometimes I can't be arsed with the shouting though. He kicked DD out of the room too last night as he was 'tired'. At 8.00 FFS. He's a freak.

Remind me hope. Do you own the house 100%?

Pretty much. It's in my name. He paid £15k deposit and half contributed to the mortgage for a few years till I found out he defaulted a couple of times, then I paid it alone and he paid childcare. Except he didn't, he put it all on credit cards which I paid off when my mum died and then I paid the balance on the mortgage. He has always been a loser.

hope for reasons I won't go into, the whole 'not washing a pan well enough' thing sent shivers down my spine. Please, please think about your options practically. Whatever the cost, financial or otherwise, it can't be as bad as staying? (And I do realise how easy that is to say compared to the reality, I really don't want to upset you and sorry if im speaking out of turn) hugs and xxxxx

mrs how are you doing? Did you manage af last night?

lala big hugs. As ma said talk to him...it will take time to adapt to living together.

Small thank you lovely. And well done, you are doing so well. hope to join you on the af one day at a time very soon.

ma I had a Google and apparently a lot of the beaches near me are fab for seaglass (for some reason my phone is intent on correcting that to swag lads!!)...but failed to find anything other than stones and sand whenever I've had a look!

Didn't get showered and dressed until after 6 today, and only as I was out of cigarettes Back in pyjamas again and have achieved nothing today. Drinking too, but have only bought some ciders as I have to drive 90 miles to my friends late morning tomorrow. And of course now panicking about finishing them without a 'back up', and about staying af at friends. Trying very hard to be positive, and of course looking foward to being away and lots of tiny baby twin cuddles, but can't shake this low feeling. Need distraction, which hopefully 7 week old twins will give me plenty of.

Evening ladies. Hope I feel so sad for you, I think that Elba is speaking sense, lots of hugs from us all on here. Elba, sounds like you are moderating tonight, so well done :-). Lala, moving in is a big step and it will take time to adjust to sharing living space. I hope you can make up and enjoy Sunday evening together. I am nearly finished all the endless chores and going to bed with "healthy" mag. Day 2 af almost done. Had a good morning, yoga, but an anxious afternoon.

Hey Elba. Seaglass is weird. Some beaches seem to have none at all and others are chock a block. I didn't find a single piece in Normandy which was bizarre, and yet a scruffy wee beach at a town near us - not somewhere you would go for any reason - has loads of the stuff.
I've had a fair amount to drink today,and need to get a grip

Morning, ma how are you this morning? And everyone else xx

Morning Mrsmimsy, first weekend alcohol free in a while, friend invited me up for my tea (which would have included wine) but I knew I would regret it this morning so I declined

Afternoon, 'tis me, mouse

Sorry for the lack of breakfast on a Monday morning! A yummy lunch awaits you all just to your left xx

hope - reading your posts is taking me back to one, no actually, THE worst abusive relationship I've been in. As lots of babes have already said, you need to get practical and use your savvy personality to get him or you the hell out of Dodge sweetie.

I missed who owns the house or whether it's rented etc, so excuse me if I'm about to point out the bleeding obvious.

If it's equally owned or rented and he's paid ANYTHING in terms of rent or mortgage, then he has as much right as you to be there, the fact that you're or were always bailing him out is irrelevant in the eyes of the law at this point.

That said, the law will always rule that the children live with the parent who provides the most care, that they stay in the family home, as long as they are safe etc and that the other parent leaves if the relationship has broken down, in my experience.

Each case is different but how far has this gone (I'm playing catch up)? Does he know what you want and how you feel about him? He may have heard you but is he listening to you?

How old are your children? Do you have any RL, physical support in place should you need to leave short term or at short notice ? Courts usually advise that you should not leave the house because it is then harder for you to return, nor uproot your children, but sometimes needs must. Do school know that things are tough? They can help too.

As I said, I'm catching up but wanted to put a quick post to you before my phone goes flat. If you want to, please pm me. I really want to help you but I need more background I guess sweetheart xxx

In response to how old my gorgeous wee fish is, he's seven and a half! The half really matters! He's doing so well in life and we're super proud of him xxx And yes, I'll nail this Vodka Monster, as you say - I've done it before, I will do it again!

Sorry for not talking to you all, I'm charging my phone and will check back later.

Stay safe all of you, no matter where you're journey is at xxx

Afternoon, 'tis me, mouse

Sorry for the lack of breakfast on a Monday morning! A yummy lunch awaits you all just to your left xx

hope - reading your posts is taking me back to one, no actually, THE worst abusive relationship I've been in. As lots of babes have already said, you need to get practical and use your savvy personality to get him or you the hell out of Dodge sweetie.

I missed who owns the house or whether it's rented etc, so excuse me if I'm about to point out the bleeding obvious.

If it's equally owned or rented and he's paid ANYTHING in terms of rent or mortgage, then he has as much right as you to be there, the fact that you're or were always bailing him out is irrelevant in the eyes of the law at this point.

That said, the law will always rule that the children live with the parent who provides the most care, that they stay in the family home, as long as they are safe etc and that the other parent leaves if the relationship has broken down, in my experience.

Each case is different but how far has this gone (I'm playing catch up)? Does he know what you want and how you feel about him? He may have heard you but is he listening to you?

How old are your children? Do you have any RL, physical support in place should you need to leave short term or at short notice ? Courts usually advise that you should not leave the house because it is then harder for you to return, nor uproot your children, but sometimes needs must. Do school know that things are tough? They can help too.

As I said, I'm catching up but wanted to put a quick post to you before my phone goes flat. If you want to, please pm me. I really want to help you but I need more background I guess sweetheart xxx

In response to how old my gorgeous wee fish is, he's seven and a half! The half really matters! He's doing so well in life and we're super proud of him xxx And yes, I'll nail this Vodka Monster, as you say - I've done it before, I will do it again!

Sorry for not talking to you all, I'm charging my phone and will check back later.

Stay safe all of you, no matter where you're journey is at xxx

Well done obi for your AF weekend, very proud and hope you are feeling the benefits.

mouse you need to beat the vodka witch with a large stick. Do you actually have a fish? That is cool, I remember being about 11 and received a fish tank for my birthday, enthusiastically set it up and set off with my dear old dad for the pet shop, named all 15 tropical fish, lovingly checked the water etc etc etc; then came down in the morning to half of them dead, and the other half eating them. My fish keeping career was short lived it's a wonder Lala pup has survived this long...

elba how are you doing? hope he sounds like an absolute twuntish coward and I hope you are ok.

ma, me and the mr sort of made up. Don't know what's wrong with me recently, I seem to be picking fights (mainly about money) for no specific reason...thank you for your words though.

Day from hell here, work was a complete nightmare. Plus got an event on tomorrow which means I will be there from 7am until about 10pm, I don't get paid enough for this shite. Feeling sad about my horse, and feeling rough, as last night turned into a rather drunken dinner party at the flat with one of my friends.

Going to take little miss out for a stroll, and try to clear my head (although already had a glass of wine). I am rubbish at life, I have decided.

Hope all of you are ok xx