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Brave Babes Battle Bus

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Halleberry · 29/05/2016 13:25

New thread girlies as the other was about to run out ... Hope you all find this one xxx

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ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 14:41

Sitting at the doctors, wracked with nerves and worry I'm going to be dismissed or that I'm over reacting. But I know I'm not overreacting...I just hate having to admit all this. It's fine on here but in rl - not so much.

Mrsmimsy · 11/07/2016 15:00

Hope it goes ok Claret, I am up for an Af stint with you. X

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 15:07

Thanks mrs. So the doctor was understanding and reassuring, he told me I can beat this - which is very kind of him but I'm not sure I agree. He's given me a few numbers for local alcohol services and I've been in touch with one and they're going to come back to me. They said it'll likely to be 3 weeks before the appointment though, so I guess a good aim is to stay af between then and now.

Sort of pleased but also just wanted an immediate resolution so a bit dispondant too.

Anyway. Off home now to try and broach this with my dh.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 15:49

So I've just been contacted by the alcohol service and they're putting me forward for some help - they said I came out as highly dependent on their 'survey' which is scary but true. I'm hoping now I have the guts to see this through...

Lalaladida · 11/07/2016 16:07

Well done claret for being so proactive. Flowers wish I was as brave and determined.

Hi to all the other babes and new babes. Will name check you later xx

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 17:21

Only proactive as I have no choice now lala, 17 years of trying to negotiate with the wicked witch and I've had enough. Spoke to my dh when I got home and we had a great talk....he barely drinks anyway so at least I don't have to contend with that. He said he thinks abstaining completely is the way forward so I'm glad I have him onside now. I've been here so many times before but I'm hoping that this time it's different.

Sorry babes for being self indulgent today, I hope you are all ok? lala how's things with you? ma how was work?

Lalaladida · 11/07/2016 17:37

Great that you have the support of your DH claret. Really proud of you! And good on him as well. You can do this!

I am ok. Had a day off work as got terrible toothache (plus was hungover), so went to the dentist who gave me antibiotics and told me to come back in a week if it still hurt. Cracked open the co-codamol. Which I guess is good as it means I shouldn't drink tonight. Mind you I have done it before and lived to tell the tale... Waiting for the new man to come over, although I look like a demented hamster with a puffy face where the tooth is playing up. Sexy, not.

ma are you ok? And seriously, where is halle????

Love to all, and claret, it will all be fine. You sound determined and totally up for this. Well done lovely.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 17:50

I keep wondering about halle too....and whilst I'm at it will and rarity too - where are you all??

Thanks for your kind words lala made me well up a little that you have faith in me.

Your tooth sounds painful! I'm sure your new man won't be in the least bit bothered by your face, probably more concerned that you are ok. Hope the pain eases.

Elba84 · 11/07/2016 18:21

Well done claret, such a brave step to take but hopefully once you have a plan in place you will start to feel so much better about everything. Talking about this in real life is so hard isn't it? Proud of you x

lala hope the antibiotics kick in and your tooth starts to feel better- sounds painful!

No work for me tonight...had a random couple of hours being violently sick at lunch time, but now weirdly feel completely fine. Feel a bit guilty, and I was fine when I left this morning so they probably think im skiving but never mind.

dementedma · 11/07/2016 18:27

Oh claret well done you!
Welcome prize.
Work was shit as always

lookingforhope · 11/07/2016 19:45

Claret well done on a bold and postitive step. You rock and glad your Dh is supporting you. Well done FlowersChocolate

Ma sorry you had a bad day ... Sad. Miserable mood where I am too. Staff all waiting for the axe to fall. A few will be kept on as core staff, though not many, and not me as I am a contractor), but others have nothing but a possible 're-hire in April 2017. And I don't even have that. Got 2 job applications rejected without even interview offers this week. G'aaagh. Also another colleague got a future contract cancelled as it was an EU funded one and now it will be delivered outside the UK.

Elba hope you are feeling better now Flowers, and Lala hope your toothache improves.

In car in rain again while Ds training. Took 3 hours to get to work today as trains all cancelled. Today is one of those no good, very bad days Angry

aliasjoey · 11/07/2016 20:13

Damn I lost a post

aliasjoey · 11/07/2016 20:14

Gah is Mumsnet playing up for anyone else? I can't post on the app

dementedma · 11/07/2016 20:52

hope that sounds shit.
I have applied for another job but haven't heard back, let alone an interview.
Going to London on the 17th with Ds for a few days. That will be our holiday! I have a couple of meetings which may lead to a job and hoping to catch up with old friends.Wink

ClaretAndBlue30 · 11/07/2016 21:35

Thanks for your lovely kind words of support today babes, I'm so lucky to have you and would never have taken this step without you. Big unmumsnety squishes to you all.

ma that'll be a lovely, much needed break - hopefully the south can muster up some sunshine for you, it's been struggling just lately!!

elba hope you're ok, being sick is horrid. You're right, talking about it in rl is hard and I've cried a lot today and do feel a sense of relief. And I'm accountable now to both my dh and the Doctor, going back in a month as he wants a follow up. I want to go back with good news rather than more tears.

joey hope mumsnet stops messing you around soon, it's so frustrating when it does that!

Anyway, I'm tucked up in bed. Night all xx

Elba84 · 11/07/2016 21:54

Sleep well claret, I can imagine it's been a hugely emotional day but the sense of relief must be huge. It's so extremely tiring trying to hide this. Might have to take a leaf out of your book soon and do the same, not winning with this really. It was a very brave step you took today, but such a positive one. Like I said, I'm very proud of you xxx

NoAprilFool · 11/07/2016 22:17

I'm hoping my ticket is still valid. I've been trying to hop back on board for a while but my ticket was lost, probably languishing at the bottom of my bag.

I've spent a good few hours catching up and it's so lovely to "see" you all. I'm going to utterly fail at the NCing but need to stop letting that preventing me from posting.

I was giving moderation a go and was doing ok with it. But then a big birthday, one too many, downward spiral happened. I don't think I can do moderation. I'm too all or nothing. And even when I do manage moderation, I waste so much time and mental energy thinking about it. I'm feeling old, fat and tired and need to get a grip.

claret, very well done on that brave step today. How is your knitting going?
baby, so, so sorry to read about your friend. Don't underestimate the massive impact grief has. Be kind to yourself lovely lady.
ma, the universe owes you a break, it really does. Ditto wry and hope, I'm hoping that all of you get that break soon. Like now.
sweet, how gorgeous is sweet dog?! More pictures please, I can never see enough.
lala, I don't think we crossed paths when I was on the bus before, nice to meet you.
elba, I am so glad you're going to be getting therapy from August. I really hope it helps. And, yes, I'm another veteran of the drinking injuries...
spanna, faire such wise, wise words from you both. You really are inspirational.
joey woo hoo, go girl! You're doing so well.

And now I have the anxiety that I've forgotten someone...

NoAprilFool · 12/07/2016 09:51

Oops, I appear to have killed the thread

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/07/2016 10:08

Not at all april and welcome back aboard!!! Moderation can be so hard can't it? What you describe is what I've done time and time again...but it never lasts and I've gotten progressively worse. Big hugs, you're safe here on this bus, get comfy.

Woke up this morning with a crippling headache...probably an emotional 'hangover' from yesterday, so I've taken the day off work for some toddler free tlc. Slouching about watching tv and reading magazines.

Thanks elba for your kind words. I'm dead chuffed with myself and feel hopeful for the first time in a long time that I might beat this.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/07/2016 10:52

Oh and still not picked those knitting needles up!! Perhaps something good to do on my first sober trip away in a couple of weeks.

Elba84 · 12/07/2016 12:13

april welcome back! Totally relate to being all or nothing...don't think there is an inbetween for me either.

claret enjoy your day off!

Day 1 today...for definite. Like a true idiot, having been sick yesterday I then drank last night BlushBlush So predictably was up in the night wretching. Lying in bed now and taking stock, I think yesterday was probably not far off 30 units of alcohol (drank in the morning and last night..not one big session). And ate the grand total of two bananas all day. Totally screwed up really, I'm think I'm getting far more calories from alcohol than food at the moment Blush. So two goals for today; don't drink, eat. Something most normal people wouldn't have to think twice about.

On a more positive note, I have a date for the start of therapy...2nd August. So three weeks today, sooner than I thought. A few months ago I'd of been horrified at the thought, but now literally can't wait.

Fairenuff · 12/07/2016 17:59

Glad it's within your grasp at last Elba, less than a month and you'll have someone to help you navigate through it all x

Claret what did the gp say about the pain in your back. Did they suggest an LFT?

Fairenuff · 12/07/2016 18:00

Oh, and welcome back April, good to hear from you Smile

ClaretAndBlue30 · 12/07/2016 18:03

Hi faire, he said not to worry for now but to raise it when I next see him if it's still an issue. It's still sore today but not as bad.

How's everyone doing?

NoAprilFool · 12/07/2016 20:00

That's not long at all elba, great news.
Day 1 in the bag. I'm going to bed. DD had me up at 3:40 and I didn't get back to sleep. I'm a little bit broken today.

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