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Halleberry · 29/05/2016 13:25

New thread girlies as the other was about to run out ... Hope you all find this one xxx

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SweetLathyrus · 23/06/2016 22:16

Are you sure it's his navel he's contemplating, Ma? Grin

Got a love a cat in an ungainly pose!

aliasjoey · 23/06/2016 22:50

Well now a Scottish meet up is definitely off, I'm so embarrassed I wish the ground would swallow me up Blush thank goodness this site is anonymous!

And yet still not drinking, despite feeling black affronted Grin now 21 days, woo hoo!

Babyj sounds really hard for you, can GP refer you to dietitian because of existing health problems? Flowers

Mrsmimsy · 23/06/2016 22:55

21 days, alias? That's amazing to me. I recently managed ten...but then not even one since that a fair few weeks back. Elba, I rarely post but you strike a cord with me. Hope your shift going ok. You will get there, look how far you have come. Xx

dementedma · 23/06/2016 23:19

21 days? TWENTY ONE??? Fucking awesome. You get to wear the smock of smug, and a Scottish meet up is ON! You, me ,wry, Venus....baby you're in Scotland aren't you?
Sweet dd2 said we should caption it " where's ma balls?".

Rarity75 · 23/06/2016 23:41

Thanks claret wouldn't have believed I would either! Or not get slightly pissed every day!

As it was had 2 days of over doing and the rest was well moderated. Happy and proud with that.

Hope you are doing ok xx

Rarity75 · 23/06/2016 23:44

Still a bit OMG I did 2 days. Not AF tonight though WW raised her head with steak and salad. But I'm feeling a bit more back in the driving seat. Like I have a choice rather than that's just the way it is. If you see what I mean?

That feels good. Hope all the babes are ok tonight x

Elba84 · 24/06/2016 02:55

Bizarrely quiet shift (so far- probably jinxed it now) which is good as feel a bit delicate. Obsessively checking the bbc website for referendum updates, kind of glad I'm awake to see it pan out live.

baby it's so unfair that drugs that are meant to make us feel better have this effect. A few years ago I put on a huge amount of weight on a fairly low dose of risperidone, and literally nothing would shift it. It took a while to figure it out, and some fairly bizarre symptoms, but it was actually a hormonal issue (raised prolactin) caused by the drug. I ended up looking about 6 months pregnant (and lactating BlushBlush), so not exactly my most attractive! Not sure what you take, but I think a number of drugs used for bipolar have the potential to cause this, and it can cause significant weight gain...I'm sure you have a great team that have already covered all bases, but it might be worth considering?

spanna I wouldn't go back to being a teenager for anything, it's a horrible time for a lot of kids. You sound like a lovely, caring mum though. But it must be horrible watching your child struggle Sad

Going to post in bits...if I get called away it might disappear from phone...

Elba84 · 24/06/2016 04:23

Ok take 2...

sweet you're doing brilliantly...is this day 5 now? And joey in awe of 21 days!

lala are you ok?

mrsmimsy thank you so much. And 10 days is amazing...it's just so hard to get the momentum back once you've started again though isn't it? But if you've managed it once you can again!

Elba84 · 24/06/2016 05:04

faire tainted love lyrics fit well, and yes you're right about the love hate thing.

Still find it weird how I can flip into work mode relatively easily but a struggling so much the rest of the time...makes me feel like I'm faking it somehow or should be able to snap myself out of it, but then not even sure which side I'm faking. I know I will drink when I get home, not much as I'm back in tonight, but lacking the resolve to try and not.

Anyway better go pretend to do some work...still eerily quiet...

SweetLathyrus · 24/06/2016 07:09

Morning All.

Ma, when you have the Scottish met up, would you have room for a poor English refugee? I need to find a sane place to live. I believe in democracy, but this morning I am deeply sad.

Joey, I didn't realise you'd done 21 days, you are BRILLIANT!

*Elba^ it doesn't sound like you're faking it. We have a finite amount of emotional energy; if we spend it all keeping up a front, and 'giving out' to others, there's none left for ourselves. It is very much how I felt about admitting the depth of my depression, I went to work, I smiled, I laughed, I put on a performance, and I could maintain it all the time people were watching, but by the time I got home, I was empty. You are probably home by now, but could you consider delaying that drink? Try to shift your thinking, not "I will drink when I get home", but, "My first drink will be a cup of tea." Not big plans, but what I think sports psychologists refer to as 'marginal gains'.

Rarity, I hope you maintain that feeling of control, it's what many of us want but can't have.

MrsM borrow some of Joey's brilliant resolve, and start again today.

So, day five. Glad I resisted last night, As is often said, no one regrets NOT drinking the night before. I need to get my ass into gear and get the dog to the vets.

Have a good day Babes, be strong, and if you're not feeling that way, come and post someone will be able to lend you some.

dementedma · 24/06/2016 07:14

Sorry sweet. We will now have the SNP and Indyref 2 ahead of us...cannot believe the news today. Am stunned.

babyjane1 · 24/06/2016 09:37

Morning babes,

What a weird day, What the hell is happening to our fair isle!!! Strange unsettling times.....

elba I was thinking, the amount of resolve and strength it takes to go to work is hungover as hell. When I was hungover I couldn't put a wash in the machine, Crikey I once burst out crying because the butter was too hard for the toast!!!

You are clearly made of very strong stuff to actually get yourself ready, drive to work and do a demanding shift. This clearly proves you have a strength of character that needs reprogrammed towards your alcohol battle. Honest to god if you could get past a few days the real true benefits will kick in. I started taking thiamine and vit b complex as they replenish some of the depleted science stuff alcohol strips and your Ad's will get a good run in your system. I also swear by dr bach's rescue remedy and have recommended it to friends who also love it. I cannot stress enough how much of the drinking desire is plain, old habit. You've proven it's not a full on addiction because you can function for half of your day without it so it's a habit you associate with going back home.

The way to break a habit is to trick your senses by shaking it up. I lined up activities for the kids early Sat and booked time riding in a sun morning to stop binges on he previous night. Could you take a walk on your way home, go to a yoga class, go food shopping, stop for a cappuccino with your book, anything to stop the cycle and it will confuse that wine witch coz she's thick that way.

Please channel your superhuman strength and see where it leads you, a few days could trip the whole shebang xxx

Lalaladida · 24/06/2016 10:02

Just popping in to say morning to you all, and to just express my shock at what is happening Sad

ClaretAndBlue30 · 24/06/2016 14:08

What a day Sad, i do hope, for everyone's sake that this works out in the end. But for now, there's a lot of very unhappy bunnies in my neck of the woods.

soberisthenewblack168 · 24/06/2016 15:48

Was feeling back in control but this result😱😱
Going to try to avoid jumping headlong into a vat of wine😰😰

Elba84 · 24/06/2016 18:01

Unfortunately there's a lot of happy people in my neck of the woods Sad To me it's not so much about the result as the massive divide it's demonstrated. Very strange experience being awake to watch it all unfold.

sweet well done on day 5...you're so right that we never regret not drinking. Hope the dog got on ok at the vets.

sober hi how are things?

baby yeah you're right...the amount of energy and effort I put into drinking and recovering is crazy. Need to turn it on its head somehow...I'm actually pretty strong willed about most things, not sure why this is so different.

Sorry not to name check everyone, got to get ready for work. Did drink this morning, but not too much. Just that not too much by my standards seems to be a bottle of wine.... Blush Will get back on this next week, need to get back a bit of control. Lots of love to everyone xxx

Lalaladida · 24/06/2016 18:24

claret and sober, lots of extremely upset and angry people here too. Sorry to anyone who voted to leave, but it is so irresponsible and so so so unfair. What's the point? Plus the Brexit promises were all lies obviously anyone see the interview with Farage when he denied all knowledge of pledging to put the £350 mil into the NHS??? Nearly threw my phone on the floor in rage.

As it is, we all went to the pub for a commiseraty pint. Now I am feel extremely depressed about the future, and having a glass of wine, whilst I contemplate the fact that life as we know it is now fucked. I for one will now never be able to get on the property ladder, the value of my house literally dropped 5% overnight, and there is no way I could sell it (it's about 200 miles away) and afford to get a place in London. Potential for being out of a job in the next five years as well, as without outing myself, my profession involves quite a few EU migrants... Oh what a mess.

Mini lala dog can sense all is not right and is being I characteristically cuddly. She has been out all day with the walker and is still bouncing about. She just rolled down the hill in the garden though which made me chuckle.

Hope everyone is ok and has lovely plans for the weekend Flowers

soberisthenewblack168 · 24/06/2016 19:12

I started to watch the results fairly confident that we would choose to remain and then as each result was declared I was thinking wtf......surely it's not possible.
Apologies if you voted to leave but I am Scottish and today both England and Wales both feel like very foreign countries to me.
My DH was born in England so no I am not racist but I am however grateful that today I am Scottish as I feel a glimmer of hope.
If however Scotland cannot remain in the EU then I am blessed because
my DH was raised in The ROI and we will seek Irish citizenship.
Sorry if I have turned this into a different thread but I am heart sore tonight and have not only drunk most of a bottle of wine but also have had very little sleep.
If you are struggling with abstaining tonight then I apologise for my selfish rant but I am just so v v sad tonight😰😰 and I am reaching out tonight to some very special people

Elba84 · 24/06/2016 19:27

lala and sober it's horrible isn't it? I know several people in London who will be directly affected. It was scary that I was in the vast minority of my colleugues last night, people have just not understood the full implications of this. My speciality relies a lot on eu funding for research, and loosing that could seriously impact on so many people in the long term. And the huge divide the whole thing has created is just so sad. Anyway I really have to go now, but just wanted to send hugs...I'm resiting the urge to vandalise my neighbours leave and UKIP posters on my way out Wink

dementedma · 24/06/2016 20:05

Thankful for my Irish father. Will be renewing my passport as an Irish one. What a day!

soberisthenewblack168 · 24/06/2016 20:13

ma you can come and stay at my little cottage and we can walk by the sea

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dementedma · 24/06/2016 20:25

Ohhhhhhh! How wonderful. I'm on my way.
Tomorrow I am off sea gemming looking for sea glass. Really looking forward to the peace.

Lalaladida · 24/06/2016 22:47

demented I shall be doing the same. Thank god for Irish heritage eh??? Except I am second generation, as in my grandmother was the Irish one, and I can't help thinking there will be a cap on the application for Irish passports quite sharpish...

elba are you ok? sober, claret, baby and all the rest of you. Lots of love. Going to head to bed now, to curb my drinking and in disgust at life in general xxx

soberisthenewblack168 · 24/06/2016 23:00

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Night all 😜😜

dementedma · 25/06/2016 08:27

Morning all. Hungover again. Another day.