My step daughter blanks me infront of her mum. My dp and I are starting to argue.

[Thatslife72]

Hi there has been a lot going on with my dsd mum and my dp, she is very jealous as her children tend to stay with us more, my dp has always been the main carer for many reasons. Since myself and 2 children have also moved in together things have been up and down.

I'm finding it hard as my son and my youngest dsd go to the same school so at least once a week I see their mum and the oldest step daughter is there too. I completely understand that she's going to feel awkward if her mum is there especially as her mum calls me names infront of her, so I do make allowances but I just find it hard rude almost that myself and my oldest step daughter literally walk past each other and she will completely blank me, even if I say say hello. Her mum isn't usually next to her when this happens but somewhere in the area. I've discussed it with my dp who is very protective of his dd which is natural, but so much so he will start shouting at me so I've stopped saying anything. I completely get she is feeling awkward but I just expect a simple acknowledgment is that asking too much. I just can't walk past her and ignore her when we get on fine every other time and live in the same house most of the time. How should I handle this ? Please give me some advice , I have discussed this with my dsd before , she went on the defensive said she did say hello or she didn't see me, but I know this isn't true. I did just say well ok just wave back or say hello if u see me , she agreed and still goes on 😏 X

[gentlydownthestreamm]

One question. Who had got the issue with it?...how would you feel if someone came to you with yet another problem to deal with?

Well the girl told OP she was relieved to talk about it. And I don't see that the girl has been put in a position where she has to 'deal with' OP's problems, it seems to me that she was rather offered some different solutions to her own problems.

Anyway I don't think it's possible for me micro analyse this situation any more, I always feel pretty stupid getting into situations where I claim to know best what is happening and how people are feeling behind the posts. I was mostly just shocked at the harshness of some posts towards the OP, and whatever the real situation I feel pretty sure she can't be that horrible a person to be utterly undeserving of any sympathy or support at all re: this.

[StKildasNun]

Kids aren't daft. If OP is angry and upset (not saying that is acceptable but it is how the OP was feeling) the DSD and DCs will pick up the vibes. Kids don't live in a bubble. Parents are human with failings.
If OP has spoken with DSD and she feels happier and that their relationship is better DSD will reap the benefit of that even if the convo/ comments might have upset DSD at the time.