Hi there has been a lot going on with my dsd mum and my dp, she is very jealous as her children tend to stay with us more, my dp has always been the main carer for many reasons. Since myself and 2 children have also moved in together things have been up and down.
I'm finding it hard as my son and my youngest dsd go to the same school so at least once a week I see their mum and the oldest step daughter is there too. I completely understand that she's going to feel awkward if her mum is there especially as her mum calls me names infront of her, so I do make allowances but I just find it hard rude almost that myself and my oldest step daughter literally walk past each other and she will completely blank me, even if I say say hello. Her mum isn't usually next to her when this happens but somewhere in the area. I've discussed it with my dp who is very protective of his dd which is natural, but so much so he will start shouting at me so I've stopped saying anything. I completely get she is feeling awkward but I just expect a simple acknowledgment is that asking too much. I just can't walk past her and ignore her when we get on fine every other time and live in the same house most of the time. How should I handle this ? Please give me some advice , I have discussed this with my dsd before , she went on the defensive said she did say hello or she didn't see me, but I know this isn't true. I did just say well ok just wave back or say hello if u see me , she agreed and still goes on 😏 X
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My step daughter blanks me infront of her mum. My dp and I are starting to argue.
Thatslife72 · 21/04/2016 10:56
You grow up, coming on here having a go at me because of your reputation u deal with your own shit, I've got plenty of my own shit to deal with u haven't got a clue what's going on. Not a fucking clue, so get off your high horse and go be the perfect step mum I'm sick of this!!! Get a life if I want to be upset about something that's down to me not u! Feel sorry for your kids if that's the strength of your empathy and maturity picking fights like this . Your the one that gives step mums s bad name not me, I'm at least trying to sort a situation out not picking petty fights with someone on here !
Wow! 
You play it by ear op.
these are for your step daughter btw.
she's also been told her dad will spend less and less time with her because of me and she needs her with her because she has no one.
How horrible and manipulative. Poor girl. Her mum has effectively told her she's responsible for her happiness. Awful woman.
Glad you ignored my advice and confronted the situation. You clearly did the right thing, and I'm sure your SD feels relieved to share that burden with you. You're doing a great job! x
After hearing that I bet you needed to go into the kitchen and grab a glass of
, so you could avoid the temptation of saying anything truthful negative about her mother.
Oh gosh poor girl. I think you have done the right thing letting her know that you will do whatever makes her less anxious.
for you and dsd.
I've only just come back to this.
Wow. You're right. I was mistaken. You obviously don't throw tantrums at all.
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So Lookingagain it would have been better if the SD continued to believe that her father would prioritise her less because he has a new woman in his life, and that her mother won't be able to cope without her 'because she has no one', thus encouraging her to perceive her father as neglecting her and the step mum as supplanting her in his affections?
Also being emotionally held to ransom by her mother, and being made to be responsible for her mother's happiness, rather than have the facts put straight and be reassured that neither of those scenarios are in fact true?
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