Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

Yep, Gast is dating for us all. I am having no luck, no responses, pretty much only being viewed by old or young men!

I snorted at gast dating for the thread. She totally is. Shame about MrBH though, WTF was that about?!

So, MrEloquent said...well, he hinted that he's no closer being ready for a relationship but also he hasn't told me to go away, so I'm a bit There's a bit more that I don't really want to go into on the thread. But I've prepared a response and I'll sleep on it and send it tomorrow.

Sassy I'm a sexter and proud! I don't do hookups/ONS so I guess this is my equivalent...no strings fun I suppose. So I tend to only really sext with people when I don't think there's much chance of it actually going anywhere. If I actually think I might meet someone I am much more demure...MrEloquent is the exception but when we first started messaging, I didn't think it was going anywhere, and I'm not sure it will...
But you've met Scot right, and it's kind of developing into a relationship? So I suppose it's up to you to decide whether you are comfortable with it being a part of your relationship or not.

I don't know if it is the done thing Sassy but I would not be keen on sexting someone I have not had sex with I think. TBH I have never tried so maybe once I do I will have a different opinion!

Waving lol at lack of emotional literacy. I too thought I was gifted with empathy until I asked my closest friends and family. Everyone laughed. Best to not assume what others are feeling in our case, haha. Now I am just asking!

I've done sexting with my FWB, and with MrM - obviously had sex with the FWB! With MrM it's not all the time, I just think it feels okay with him, but I can't say why. With Mr Video we just have flirty conversations which get close to it and then swerve away. I'm pretty highly sexed, and I need to know if someone is roughly on the same wavelength as me ....

I'm chortling at some of the usernames on OKC - sir-lixalot, Todgersaurus, Mindgeeater, hornasaurus-rex.... do these men think we'll think they are great wits?!

Bat, it's right up there with the men who choose "Sweet spot not on the list" as their best feature on Match.com. Oh well done, chaps, you've got a cock.

Easy to talk to, a nice guy ..... but no.

Bit nerdy.

Oh bummocks 314

Bummocks indeed..not nerdy in a good way? #hopeful

it was fine really. he was easy to chat to. kind of awkward but unaware of how awkward he was. I was there first and he arrived, in this red kagool and a ruck sack. But we did chat easily. I just could not in any mad world imagine kissing him. So, we left at about 11.32 and i hope that the length of time we spent chatting didn't give him the wrong idea, although he#s whatsapped me already. and I can't bear to look.

Right, I should try and drum up another iron before Mr canceller

re sexting no, some randomer I've never met? no.
Matthew hussey would be disappointed in me and I'm disappointed in myself really but conversations with bear have turned that way. but it hasn't felt sleazy. the 'relationship' is redirecting towards friendship of a sort though. it feels different now. I rang him after my date with mr Kagool.

oh dear. I just went to flight mode and read mr kagool's text. If h had managed to send such a nice text I'd have been really happy. But, H was gorgeous and dressed so much better and didn't keep scratching his neck [ I feel so horribly shallow Am I really bad person.

Yes waving, i should set my own rules. It helped me to chat and laugh with bear. Im over all the analysing with him now!! Chatting to him wont prevent me looking for a boyfriend.

It is too hard to decide what to do about soho im sure. I would also need one more sign before finishing.
Id like another iron before mr canceller on the 11/3!

uh oh!

I agree with your take there. Those are very reasonable values. And once you've slept with somebody once, it can feel like you can't raise your bar later, and say, no, no I can't sleep with you now although we slept together last week, but yes y of course you can. The closeness can go. I'd want the opportunity to put it to him. "Up your game! I deserve more than this''. I'm not sure I could just disappear without trying to make a guy see that he needed to offer more.

The guy last night, if he dressed with more confidence and could he taught how to walk with more confidence, he could do better at dating. He was such a nice guy. He made me laugh. He was a bit 'tail-waggy' with me. ~like me like me~ I know I'm like that too when I really want somebody to like me! So I will keep tail wagging in check if I ever meet a man I like like that, ever again.

waving did the book arrive?, let me know if there's anything in it that isn't in all of the youtube clips.

Well, I guess it's not the clothes, he had a nice shirt on under the rain coat. Bear's clothes are absolutely dreadful but he moves like a man who is comfortable. I got to the bar first and sat down and I saw this character race in, head bent forward speed walking to the toilets. Then when he appeared, he was all jerky movements. I am being harsh, ruling him out for not walking like a confident man. Even though he had no problem talking. He was ok really. But zero spark. I'd rather sleep with nobody than sleep with him. He's just texted me again. I can hardly bear to look. If he worked with me I'd like him though.