Step right up, it's dating thread 97

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

That may be so, but heaven only knows where else I'd meet men. I have noted though that the only one of us who seems in a good place with a new relationship is Red so I do think in a perfect world, yes, meeting somebody in real life is better.

314 I know, I would literally never meet a suitable man at all - especially not where I work or even through work. All my friends are married, and aren't that fussed about socialising with me, except an occasional dinner, so I am, to coin a phrase, fucked without OLD.

Waving I have exactly the same problem, it feels really needy and like I'm being difficult and selfish if I articulate what I want. And I'm with you in not really having needs - it feels weird and unfamiliar to me to think 'what does Bats want?' because historically, what I wanted was completely disregarded by everyone. I need to go through this with my counsellor, too!

I just watched that clip from MS above, what to say when a man says he doesn't want a relationship. I'll do that the next time then............ :-)

Gast that's lovely, the tea and cake delivery!!

I think I'll order it too.

Yes, I played it badly with Bear. I don't feel the same about him any more, luckily it has evolved more towards friendship, and, I don't think he would have changed his mind regardless of what I said or where I disappeared to, but I shouldn't have carried on chatting to him. Just because we weren't having sex didn't mean that I wasn't there for him giving him 3/4s, maybe more of what a relationship entails. I wish I'd given him that speech and then disappeared. If this situation happens again I will be much stronger.

Gast I will not say anything else that it is lovely and I am a tiny bit . Me wants cake too. .
Oh and the wedding I am going to in June started with the guy delivering homemade ice cream to my friend's doorstep. 5 years on he is still the sweetest. Am going to start telling my irons I fancy cake too!!

Waving if you are like me with an opinion about pretty much anything in life (PITA alert #2) you do have standards. As an ENTP they are pretty much in your DNA. What you need to do is unearth them because they are in ENTP fashion buried under layers of compromise. And we have the disadvantage of having the attention span of a goldfish, jumping from one idea to another, so focusing on finding those standards is hard. That is why I love yoga so much, it really helps to connect with yourself and focus on finding what makes you feel good, one step at a time.

I watched that Matthew Huddersfield thing thank you. May come in useful if MrEloquent ever replies....I really am not getting my hopes up there..and he's literally just replied. Hang on...

I wouldn't MrBH is now saying he didn't feel there was a 'connection' and appears to be backing off. I give up.

Such slim pickings. Every time I think I have an iron it all goes quiet. It was easier before Christmas. Definitely.

Matthew Hussey is a bit 'meh' about OLD. He says people reject people on really spurious grounds. Potentially just like that guy whose profile mentions treating girlfriends like they are the most special person in the world yada yada... But how else are we meant to judge them????

What did Eloquent say Folk??

Oh no gast what a nightmare!!!!!!!!!!!

Gast MrBH drove over with cake and then told you he didn't feel a connection!? How many times have you met him?! what kind of connection could anybody expect to feel! Argh.

Must go and put on some make up! maybe I will be able to do a loo update later.

Haha, I know Waving. From my research it sounds like the three step program for recovering ENTPs is 1) focus on defining what makes you happy 2) put these things in words 3) learn how to express these. Step 3 is scary but somehow I reckon it should actually be easier if we do not take for once too much in consideration how the message will be perceived because a) we suck at reading others' emotions anyways and b) we are used to expressing opinions all the time...

Argh Gast really?? WTH was he expecting?!

Good luck 314!!

Another one dating the thread. Engineer cancelled earlier due to work (?)
Men are just weird sometimes.

We are all dating the thread. Except Gast who is dating for the thread and makes me ashamed of my laziness.

I need some of your fire!!

Who is 314 meeting? I missed that!

Gast what the hell was he expecting?!

I have a date on Monday and tentative plans with Mr Video for a couple of weeks time (he is away on holiday). Have just started chatting to 007. I still have some irons!

Have fun 314

Also dating the thread...

Maybe destined to be single forever?😐
Sorry Gast...so many strange uns around!
Have a great date 314

Random question to the thread.

How many of you are comfortable/ indulge in sexting? scot seems really into it and wants to do it with me. I don't plan on doing anything I'm not comfortable with but am trying to gauge whether my reaction to it is right.

Is sexting a huge thing that is just a given nowadays with dating? I have zero problem with it once in an established relationship once that intimacy / trust has been established.

But right now it just seems to be a huge red flag for me telling me to pull up the drawbridge and walk away. Makes me feel like some random bird at the end of a phone, I could be anyone.....