DRY 10!!!!

[CheesyNachos]

Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

Jelly yes v sad and yes v much aversion therapy!

I feel terrible now. I only ever saw Amy as someone in car crash mode. Bless her. There but for the grace of God...
Well Friday is done and I didn't drink today. To all the early dayers on here I still struggle a bit but I play the tape forward whenever I feel tempted which is keeping me on the straight and narrow.
I'm looking forward to a hangover free day tomorrow.
Have a great weekend all and a hopefully sober one for us all.

I feel the same Jelly :(
Another mainly enjoyable, dry day here. Drank some afwine and off to bed now. Night all xxx

Sorry I meant dona !

Goodnight x x

Hi everyone, sorry for silence. Thanks so much everyone for support relating to IL stress..... Hadron I pmed you. :)

Things are ongoing, but hopefully progressing in the right direction. My work has been wonderful regarding me taking unpaid leave for several weeks to sort things out so I have some breathing space.

I have been drinking, so today is Day 1. I had no resilience left in me to deal with other things, but back on track today. Things will take a while to sort, but definitely better than 2 weeks ago.

Will catch up on thread. :)

Hope you're ok Cheesynachos X

Day 37 here. I asked my husband had he noticed a change and he said he thought I'd been "off" with him for about a month. I said I just hadn't been drunk. Maybe this is how sobriety changes relationships.

Going to AA tonight and am going to ask about a sponsor. Does anyone know how you get one?

Morning, all :)

Cheesy Onwards and upwards ..have and

marry I think you just ask? but I do know it needs to be someone who has been sober longer than you? Why not ask who ever is leading the meeting before it starts?

Up at 9 this morning after a lie in - slept well but strange dreams ... been busy doing house hold stuff and just off out to do shopping. Yesterday did first big shop since before Xmas - no booze and it was SO MUCH cheaper! I am a bit tbh. Also my personal account is looking much better even though I paid for the gym membership ! No more "extra" bottles of wine (just for me, in secret) being taken out of it now

It is also noticeable that I now go from asleep, to wide awake in the mornings, in a few mins, rather than taking several hours to get going ..that would be the lack of a hangover then :)

Wow I noticed the waking up thing too! I used to have to have a huge espresso before I could think straight. Now plain old tea will do and I've cut down on that too.

The dry January app adds up what you would have spent on booze. I reckoned I averaged about £9 a day (WTF???) so that's £333 I didn't spend since early December!

Am weeing more too. Just thought I'd share that!

Id just ask a long serving member marry they will probably recommend a woman who might help.
I feel a bit weird this morning like I have reached a kind of impasse..
I'm more than happy about not drinking and not drinking again holds no fear for me (I do however think challenges will come at some point) but I am now at the stage where I think what happens next?
I know nothing happens next. When do you feel comfortable with just feeling comfortable? Maybe you could help on that one lucy? (Sorry to put you on the spot)

Ha ha marry thats one of the first things I noticed! I didn't used to tinkle until early afternoon. My body used to hang on to every drop of liquid the day after. I even posted about it because I was so alarmed but its settled down a bit now! I still have to limit my fluids after 7pm or I can't get to sleep for trotting back and forth to the loo!

Keep going cheesy you have been under enormous stress.

dona I was musing on that last night - when will it just feel "normal" rather than think "oh I didn't buy drink" or " oh I didn't have alcohol"? I didn't walk past the booze aisle with gritted teeth, but I did have to make a conscious effort not to go there ( old habits die hard I guess :) )

donajimena, I am so glad you have said that about the loo in the evenings! I have convinced myself I have got type 2 diabetes from the amount of peeing I am doing, particularly at night . My sister kindly pointed out that if I did have type 2 diabetes I would have been peeing when I was drinking but I was in a bit of a panic mode!

Someone asked why I stopped at 10 days everytime I "gave up" last year - I think it was because I wasn't really committed to giving up the booze, I was more wanting to lose weight and thought giving up the booze would help, then would lose a few lbs and think oh well I can have a drink now. Also I think a lot of times in the past I feel I need to give up rather than I want to. This time I want to give up the booze, I am not sure about the future, that frightens me to say forever but I would like to stop for a significant period of time.

Loubilou I hear you. I'm not ready to say "forever" but I can say "I'm not drinking today."

Morning all! :) Dona it's different for everyone but for me it started to feel comfortable with just feeling comfortable at about 6-9 months and from there it gradually faded out of conscious awareness completely. Pink clouds come along during that time as do major milestone wobbles - and then there is life ......
Cheesy

A bit of a way to go then... I've had my pink clouds alright! Oh well heres to another day under the belt (today I won't be drinking )

Im such an idiot. I had a 'fuck it moment' late last night and somehow managed to drink 7 ciders between midnight and 2am. No wine thankfully, even though its in the house.

The excuses i gave myself was that I'd earned it after a long week, hubby was still in a huge grump with me and its 'only' cider. But once i poured the first glass i just guzzled the rest like a camel at an oasis.

This is a fraction of what i can normally put away, but i've felt like poo all day, banging head, depressed and heart palpitations. Just reminds me of why i have to stop. I love being pissed out of my head, but bugger me hangovers are the WORST!!!! Today is in total contrast to how great i felt yesterday. All my plans for the day have gone out of the window, I'm back in bed now feeling totally down.

'On the bright side' my hubby has been speaking to me a little bit today. Lucky me. Prick!

I feel like ive let the side down. Now i just want to drown myself in wine.

Sorry my post is all about me, ive not read the other posts yet. Will check in again propetly later.
Omg Ive just had a moment of inspiration (probably coz of posting here) and im going for a run... right now!! Blow away them cobwebs.

God i love you girls... xx

You haven't let the side down, its a slip - get back on the sober wagon, leanr from the slip and treat today as another day. :) (says me, who has slipped many times - but still got back on it again)

Jellybabey and CheesyNachos, I hope your Day 1s are good. Keep on keeping on.

BTW where is the promised weight loss?! I've not lost anything and I was hoping....! This is day 9 for me now (it has been SO LONG since I've not drunk for 9 days...) and whilst it isn't the main reason for stopping, it would kinda be a bonus to look like a svelte teenager again.

Ah Jelly! Hope you're ok. I read the Dry thread a year or so ago and one thing I remember was "play to the end of the film", which I think means when you first pick up a drink, picture what it looks like when you've finished drinking - all the bad stuff, the shame, the anxiety etc. I think it helps to take the edge off the need to drink. x

Alastrante no weight loss here and I'm day 38!!!

No weight loss here either but it had got to the stage where I was drinking wine instead of eating