Still shaking, old neighbour asked me for sex

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Ok, please help. I'm still shaking...
I have one old neighbour whose wife died a little while ago. I've been pleasant to him and had a chat now again. Made him a meal or two when wife died.

Today he came round my house (was home with ds3) and kind of just walked in uninvited.
He said 'he needed a thing or two from a woman now and again and Wold I do a few minutes for £60. I said no way! He said more? I said I don't do anything like that and wouldn't ever consider it.

I'm devastated. Am I over reacting?
He's in his 80's and I don't even want to go out now.

I've been on here recently because going through difficult time with husband but this is just too much.

Oh my god! You're not overreacting at all.. he thinks you're a hooker!

I would tell him to fuck off, keepy door locked, tell my husband, and never speak to your neighbour again!!!

Bloody hell!

I agree with nilbyname.

I'm crying and I never cry.
I've never ever given hi any impression like this and have 3 kids under six

Not acceptable at all OP. What a horrible man. Eurgh.

I'm wondering how many posts till someone says:

1. He has dementia

Or two

1. You're ageist for referring to him as 'old'.

Sorry for all the typos

I don't know Negative, I mean't 'elderly'!
I don't think he has dementia either.

The dirty beggar.

Dirty git

Definitely wouldn't be talking to him again either!!

You couldn't have confused & he really needs his ironing doing or something do you?

Oh dear. My dad is 83, and he'd be devastated to think he might do that.

Put it in context of general male behaviour and attitudes. How many of them are 100% on the straight and narrow, sexually? What proportion would try it on with virtually any woman if they thought they had a chance of success? I know I've often thought 'You can't even afford to be polite to these people, they take it as a come-on!' By making meals and talking to him you might, in his mind, be telling him you're up for it.

Your neighbour might be moving into dementia. Sometimes people in that state lose their inhibitions about sexual things. An old geezer on a coach tour offered my 70 year old aunt money for sex recently. Perhaps its the done thing when you hit 80.

Keep out of his way. Nothing more than a curt 'Morning!' in future.

Good lord! Keep your door securely locked. I'm sorry this has happened to you, I've had similar happen to me (friends dad ) it's a horrible feeling. Take care

Negative Nora, sorry but dementia really does affect people's sexual behaviour.

No too far! He was very clear!
I've closed curtains and doors locked!

Don't cry, you e not done a thing wrg. You've not given him any impression! He's fully to blame and fully deserves a verbal beat down!

Tell your dh and stop being nice to this man. He does not deserve your kindness.

Is it illegal to approach someone for escort services? I think it could be a good idea to ring your local station on tel. 101 and speak to them, they may be able to caution him.

Dear God, "do a few minutes"... You poor thing. Blank the bugger in future.

I'm not sure but he's always around outside.

random I was just think the same thing. You just do that op.

Stupid man.

I do think you need advice actually.
The thing is of he is starting with dementia and securely disinhibited it's going to be difficult because he won't be able to understand his behaviour was inappropriate and likely to repeat the advance.

He could be an old Lech with not great views on women. Either way I don't think this is a good situation to be in. It isn't your fault though op. Time to disengage however.

You poor thing!

I've read your other threads and you are not having an easy time of it right now.
That was a terrible thing to happen to you.
The thing is, he was completely in the wrong here, OMG he's 80, he can't be right in the head. Just because you were kind to him, he somehow got it into his head, he could approach you in this way. It must have been a terrible experience for you.

I would agree with PP, keep your door locked in future and never speak to him again. I know that's terrible but what he did pales in comparison.
Its a sad day when you feel you can't be kind to your elderly neighbour without them feeling like its a come on.

Do something nice for yourself and try and put this out of your head.

Sexually disinhibited. Not securely.

Thank you all for support. Knew I could rely on you
Thinking about it, the other day I was cleaning my car out and he was stood right behind me watching.
Oh effs, this is all I need right now.

Surely this could be classed as sexual harassment?