So I have made myself look like a tit

[Esmeismyhero]

Dh and I are away for a weekend, he has been to a convention and I've been relaxing, all fab.

Tonight we went to a "party". We were meant to be meeting his friends from this convention etc and sounded fab. We booked tickets and I spent ages getting ready (I very very rarely go out so I was really excited)

The party ended up being a gathering in a pub (all fine so far) except dh doesn't introduce me to anyone and just goes and watches the rugby.

I'm not very good socially and I don't know anyone there, he goes to the downstairs of the pub and for 45 mins I'm sat on the sofas alone because I'm a fucking dick :(

I finally found dh and called a taxi to come back to the hotel and have a blub.

Dh said I knew he was going to watch the rugby (I didn't, when he said it I thought he was joking) now I'm back at the hotel and feel like a tit.

I brought a nice top and did my hair and makeup I was very excited to go with dh, talk to new people etc. now I've ruined it by coming back to the hotel like an idiot, he didn't even ask me to stay when I asked for a cab.

He came back to the hotel a min ago and said sorry etc but I feel awful, I've ruined the evening.

Nothing to say really apart from I need

I've sent him back to the party so his night isn't totally ruined.

Oh bless you, I don't think you've been a tit. If you didn't know anyone then your DH should have made more of an effort to introduce you to people. I'd go mad if my H just abandoned me at a party full of people I'd never met!

rainbow I'm too embarrassed to go back, not that anyone has noticed I've gone etc but I don't feel like going back anyway. I was really upset, I made such an effort to look and feel nice and now I feel like shit.

for you OP.
I think you're being very understanding under the circumstances. I'd be furious if DP asked me to come along and then buggered off and left me on my own, especially when he knows you must be feeling awkward. I'd be inclined to get the sharpies out and write a rude word on his forehead when he's asleep.

I don't think you've ruined the night nor been a tit! You dh on the other hand has behaved like a right bellend! I'd go mad if I went to a party with dp and he not only didn't introduce me to anyone but then pissed off and left me alone like a right lemon. He's either very inconsiderate or very selfish-even going back to the party after ruining your night.

farte you say that and I actually brought my sharpies (I was doing some drawing as part of my relaxing)

I felt abandoned, I'm not a screeching hissy type at all but told dh I was furious :( I felt like a total psycho.

Oh you poor thing- but you haven't embarrassed yourself at all.

You don't fancy getting a cab there. If anyone asks, Just say, I hate watching rugby' - that's fair enough!

I mean- you don't fancy getting a cab there?

jumping I told him to go back, he followed my taxi back to the hotel, he said I knew he was watching the rugby and this was his weekend etc (initially I wasn't coming on this weekend but came to relax while he did his thing with his friends) he then said he was sorry etc, I love him but it really upset me.

I felt like a lemon, sitting there, Someone even asked me if I'd been stood up. Oh the shame.

I can't go back, I've scrubbed off the makeup, put my joggers on and ordered some chips for room service, might go get a wine and have a fag in a min.

esme id be angry too, that's something I can imagine my dh doing. Go back to pub. Rugby will be finished. If anyone asks say you popped back to hotel as you'd forgotten something

The party ended up being a gathering in a pub (all fine so far) except dh doesn't introduce me to anyone and just goes and watches the rugby

He sounds like a rude ignorant pig. Why on earth are you feeling bad? It's his fault.

I'm not a crying person but I actually blubbed in the taxi, I wanted to go to a party :( I've been looking forward to this for weeks.

Oh Op, TBH it doesn't sound as if your missing much if the rest of the Rugby-widows just left you sitting alone for 3/4 of an hour. Without making an effort to introduce themselves.
Why not have something from room service or the minibar and a lovely hot bath using all the freebies hotel bath stuff, then a film on the TV?

Your DH is an arsehole, he shouldn't have just dumped you so he could watch the rugby, what's that about?

It's gone 10 now, dh has the card so I can't get money out for a taxi anyways. I'll just get some wine on the room tab.

This sounds awful & if DH had done this to me I'd be fuming, why did he leave you on your own surrounded by people you didn't know?

It was a big match...

Your DH ruined that, not you.

Get some room service, put a nice film on and give him a bollocking for abandoning you, not asking you to join him watching the rugby and being a selfish arse!

You haven't made a tit of yourself at all.

Definitely go and have wine and fags.

Esme I've read you other thread about this weekend. Hess being a complete arse, wasn't he trying to put you off going at all? I don't think you're the tit here.

Why don't you have your own bank card
Your DH is sounding more and more like a shit.

Dh has zero common sense sometimes so doesn't even think about stuff, I can't go on about to him Now. He said sorry, I said sorry and I said to go back and have fun.

Thank you my fellow mners for being here for me :( now I'm crying again.

I'm so upset

chipped I do have my own bank card but ive got nothing in my account till pay day.

op, i'm sure you looked amazing. Your dh sounds like he was a dick but for what it's worth i've been a rugby widow too tonight scoffing 2 portions of banana bread and a chicken thigh feeling sorry for myself so you're not alone. for us!