OH showed me a message he received today from one of his close friends. They have known each other slightly longer than I've known him, and we all see each other every now and then.
She is DD's godmother. Before I got together with OH, he had a crush on her, but never acted on it. We got together shortly afterwards and he didn't speak to her for a long time as she moved away. She has recently split from her boyfriend and moved back to the area, and so we are seeing her more often.
OH has received a message from her apologising if she acted weird over the weekend and yesterday (he went to do a hobby with his family, which she also does - I stayed at home with DD), but she admitted in the message that she is in love with him, and has been for a long time. She said she would never want anything to happen now, as she described our family as "awesome" and said that we work together, but she admitted that she thinks about what would have happened if they'd gotten together, and she had to tell him that she loves him and regrets not acting on it sooner. She said OH didn't have to keep it a secret from me, and was happy for me to see the message.
My initial reaction was to shrug it off - fair play it must have taken some balls for her to write that, and if she was happy for me to see it, she can't be expecting anything to happen between them. It's only as the day has gone on that I've wondered if maybe I should be more bothered by it, but I can't figure out why. I don't know if it's because I feel like I don't understand why she had sent it now after all this time, just when we've started seeing more of her. I don't know how to feel, basically, and I'm wondering if you would react like me and just shrug it off, or whether you'd feel odd about it?
Sorry it's a ramble.
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jorahmormont · 17/09/2015 18:41
Thanks TheDowager and itis [flower] it was a little scary but all done.
Fingers crossed whatever was there has vanished as the latest possible diagnosis is abcess on my appendix... last thing I need on top of all this is surgery to have my appendix out 
It's a hobby that would really identify us Itis because I don't think there are huge amounts of people doing it and each group is quite well known if you see what I mean. Not knitting or jogging though haha, I wish 
Ah damn! That was my best guess too 
Glad to hear it OP, that's a wise decision.
Re-enactment!
Glad the scan was relatively good news. Please don't worry too much about the op. I believe appendectomy these days is fast and fine. I had mine out when I was 11 - over 40 years ago. I have a 4inch scar and was in hospital for about 10 days, and then was sent to 'the country' for more weeks to recuperate! So much time off school, nearly a whole term . That doesn't happen anymore. Recovery is much much much quicker - I think it's keyhole surgery.
I've got scar tissue from previous surgery so they said it'd probably have to be open surgery unfortunately but ah well, it's done so often these days.
You got it Jux
Honestly I think it's naff but I just do their photography, it helps my portfolio and I get to see DD dressed up all cute
Good, so she should. Though if you do have surgery, I would be prepared for her to start texting. She reminds me a bit of a snake, hiding in the grass and striking when there's a vulnerability.
Tramadol can be a godsend can't it? Sorry you are still poorly.
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