I cannot believe what has just happened.

[Sweetsecret]

I just had a visit from my mum and step father.
My 2 year old DS, was playing with his trains and my stepdad sat down to play with him, and my DS didnt want him to and he threw some of trains off the track. my step dad then grabbed my DS picked him up and started shouting at him took him out of the house started walking down the street shouting at him telling him he was a naughty boy.
I went to the front door and told him to bring him back and he refused. so I walked down the street to get him.
I went back into the house and my sd started shouting at me telling me I wasn't doing a decent job at raising him, that I didn't know what I was doing. I said I was doing the best that I could (my H left me a few months ago, so it has been an incredibly difficult time for me and both my DC'S. he said I wasn't trying hard enough.
I then told them to leave and they both left.
I called my mum 20 mins later as we are supposed to be all going on holiday on Monday and she blamed me. She aways takes his side on everything anyway.
I am absolutely stunned that this has happened, in front of both of my children.
I don't know what to do I just feel like I have no one now, everyone has just abandoned me.
I just saw red when I saw someone walking off with my son yelling at him.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I have been hanging on by a thread for the last few months as it is, and now the only two people I had have not only called me a bad mother but have yelled at my two year old son in front of his sister who is 5. And it is somehow my fault.

Sounds like your 2 year old is an excellent judge of character that he didn't want to play with him ( should bring my dog round to check him out too, he can always spot a wrong un

Where on earth was your SF taking your DS? Shouting at him AND removing him from your house is a very odd way to behave, I'm not sure how anyone could justify doing that.

They're horrendous. Your son was just doing normal kid behaviour. No one I know would bat an eyelash at it.

Please don't go anywhere with them.

That behaviour is unforgiveable.

Oh Sweetsecret, I could not read and run. This is awful for your DS and DD AND you. From what you say he was physically moving your child, in the street against his will, DS must have been very frightened. I would be upset and fuming. I am glad you phoned your ExH, he may have left recently but he is prob the only person who the DC would want to see except for you, right now. I hope that things between you are ok enough for him to help and support you this evening and over next few days. I wouldn't go on holiday with your M or SD, would not see them, invite them or have any contact from now. It will be hard, but can you get support from friends or other relatives if needed? Last thing, talk to your HV or your Gp about how you are feeling, they may be able to offer support too, there's nothing wrong with feeling like you do after a relationship breakdown. There's support on here too, good luck x

Cancel the holiday. Either that or tell your Mum you will go with her and not SD. How does he treat her?

Stupid me I missed that OP is on her own - sorry. SD is an abusive bully, I can't believe that DM just stood by and then blamed the OP - disgusting.

I'm guessing he bullies your Mum as well? I can see how a bully would enjoy you 'needing' him. Well you don't need that!

So sorry for your situation and super well done for standing up to him, bet he's not used to that. What a great mum you are

I would not be going on holiday with this man. nasty, nasty bully.

I'm so impressed at what you did. You sound epic

He sounds like a complete knob who has got your mum wrapped round his little finger and thinks he can get away with whatever he likes.

You just showed him he can't.

Well done op. You did the right thing

Thanks everyone, I don't know how he behaves towards my mum but she is just as bad. I was in hospital for a week recently and my SD was waiting in A & E with me, and she called him and asked why he was waiting with me to just leave me there and come home. It has always been a them and me mentality, generally we get along okay, but today when I saw him do that, I just lost it. my poor boy was so scared, and just wanted me.
I just can't believe why anyone would think this behaviour is acceptable.

I had similar to this 18m ago, but my son was 8.

It was terrifying - mum and her h wouldn't leave either, I had to call the police.

There's never been any apology, or acknowledgment of what they did. I'm NC now and it's better.

Their bullying of us started when my ex left too, it's called putting the boot in, kicking you when you are down,

Now that your relationship has gone, THEIRS IS The worst, so they exploit you to make themselves feel better.

I'm glad your exh is coming over, I hope he is helpful.

Fwiw, if I were him I'd withdraw permission for the holiday, no you need to be proactive on this and refuse to go.

You need to get your do and her h out of your lives, you're not safe with them in it.

You did a great job of protecting your ds today. Well done

Dm not do

X post... Same dynamic with your mother As with mine I think... She's resentful/jealous of you.

I'm so sorry, how dreadful . I don't think it sounds as if going away with them would be much of a holiday now. At least this happened and you were present to see it and react - much worse if you knew nothing of it.

Sorry this happened to you Hissy it is dreadful, you have hit the nail on the head, they have zero respect for me and they certainly have kicked me when I am down.
Yes my ex H is coming round after work so should be here any minute.
We do have a good relationship, so I know he will back me.

OP - you have done nothing wrong and you can use this as an example as to why you don't want this man around your kids again.

Saturn this what worries me he has looked after him many times, if he does this in front of me I can't imagine what he has done when I am not there. the thought is awful. my poor boy, he is so small and helpless. he has a speach delay so he gets frustrated easily, I can't believe he did this.

Where the hell did he think he was taking him?
I would cancel going away with them and back off completely.
They need to understand they have no right to behave like this.

. Oh you poor love. I wouldn't be going to end of the street with him. Let alone on holiday.
Reading your post. It's hard to see who the adult is.

Appalling behaviour, you did the right thing. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

Fucking hell

He is an utter arse. You protected your ds, do not let anyone tell you you were unreasonable etc.

Iiwy id want to cut them out completely - you would all be far better off without such a vile person in your lives x

picked him up and started shouting at him took him out of the house started walking down the street shouting at him telling him he was a naughty boy.

Where was going? Where was he taking him? How utterly bizarre.

He sometimes takes him for a walk to cool down if he has a tantrum, normally just to distract him, normally comforting him, but this time he was just shouting at him. and then he started on me.

My own mother lied about something that happened when she had my ds, it wasn't a big deal, it didn't even make any sense for her to lie, but it was something that made her look good somehow.

my ds is honest to a fault, and even though he stood to gain from going along with what she said, didn't, because it wasn't true. I was totally

Then she made him wear clothes she knew were too small. They were practically cutting him in half, he asked her 3 times to change, and she told him "it'd hurt her feelings if he changed"

3 hours he was in those clothes. I was at work. I blame myself for leaving him with her, but it was the last time she ever had him. Now we are NC.

You have learned something awful today love, that your dc are not safe with your mother, and much less with her husband. Please don't ever allow them back into your lives. Please show your dc that they are safe from bullies.

You're lucky to have an amicable relationship with your exh. Mine was abusive, so they all bandied together at one point.