The Oddest Thing Just Happened - My Husband Just Strangled Me

[Quootiepie]

We started to bicker over the smallest things (it started with me not washing something of DSs) and transfered onto my lack of doing the housework, which led me on to saying he wasnt perfect. He said "how" so I brought up abit about him telling his dad something personal about me, and he said dont talk about his dad (because he died a little while ago) and I said "whats the worst your going to do? Punch the wall again?" and he came over and put his hands round my neck and lifted me right off the chair...

I tried to call the police, but he kept grabbing the phone off me, but then he called them himself. They have just left. I dont really know what to think... or do to be honest...

OMG. are you ok, silly question really, what about going to a refuge, just to give yourself some time to think really.

OMG
are you OK now?
has the police taken him away?

You need to call womans aid and have a chat, sweetheart. here and go through your options. I would get him out of there, and only consider any future IF he signs up for counselling- possible bereavement, or has he been like this long?

What did the police say?

omg

You poor thing

do you have someone you can stay with?

Is he very very stressed or something? what could explain this behaviour

quooooooooootie.......WTF!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

no no no no no no

where are you ?

sweetie....((hugs)) can your mum come over or is she at work> a friend a neighbour......

are you hurt..brusied...shocked..

Has this sort of thing happened before?

am and for you

no, hes here... just about to cook breakfast. Its a rare thing... nothing like this has ever happened before - or will again. I just feel numb.

Quootiepie, if your husband is still in the house then please get out of it with your ds.

Quootiepie, I have no idea what to say. I hope you are alright, you're obviously in shock. But I'd suggest getting out of the house asap - please get out of the situation as calmly as possible - perhaps seek refuge with a friend whilst you decide what to do/call police from there. etc.

How do you know nothing will happen again? You can't, not for sure, and if you just take it he'll learn that it's OK.

Please, talk to people who really know what they are saying. They can give you advice without going all dramatic and off the deep end at you

police took details and said did |I want him taken away... I said no. DH is really cut up...

My neck is alittle sore... I couldnt breath for abit, but im ok. As I said, just numb... I mean, what do you do? I dont want him to leave, I dont want to leave... but do you just brush it under the carpet?

Quootie, what did the police say/do?? What did DH say to them??

what would happen if you calmly asked him to give you some breathing space and to go and stay somewhere else for the next, say, 3 nights?

quootie..has he had bereavement counselling...not an excuse for his terrible behaviour.....but he clearly has some issues to work oujt

and he CANNOT work them out on you

what did the police say?

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you know when you just know your husband... I do know hes "safe"... thats what makes this so odd. Police said to call again if I needed them, but even they said there's no pointy arresting him etc. He called the police himself.

sorry x posts

I'm so sorry for you Quootie. Bloody men. (Not that they all do this!) Is this completely out of character? You implied he punches the wall usually.. does he have a generally violent temper?

is he going out at all today? can you contact WA for a chat then.

if this is the first time, it doesnt mean it wont be the last, and the fact you say he punches the wall worries me.

going to a refuge doesnt mean you are leaving him, it can just be a bit of breathing space you need, whether it be for one night or several weeks/months.

Was going to say the same as Lulumama. He must be bottling stuff up to react so exremely. Hope you are ok Quootipie. It must ahve been very frightening.

I might make him stay at his mums a few nigts... to think about what he did.

Qootie -no, don't brush it under the carpet. Use this period when he is feeling so cut up about it to suggest theat he gets breavement and / or anger management counselling. His GP should be able to refer him.

were the children there?

punched the wall... twice in 2 1/2 years?

What would you advise your daughter to do in this situation? Sometimes that helps us see things more clearly

DS in other room - no shouting or anything, we were sort of bickering...