Husband's affair: moving forwards in the right direction

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Previous thread here

Story so far:
Dh had a 7 month affair which I discovered 1 month ago just after he ended it.
We had been having problems in our marriage since the start of the affair which I took the blame for
He has moved out, my toddler dd and I are in the family home.
We had started having couples counselling before I discovered the affair which we are now using to deal with the aftermath
So far he wants reconciliation but doesn't seem to be going about it the right way. I am in 2 minds and hope the right course of action emerges over the next few weeks dependant on his behaviour/way he speaks about me.
Unfortunately the counselling tonight, when I had planned to spill out all of my feelings, has been cancelled. We are still meeting though.
With the support of my amazing parents, a handful of close friends, my adorable dd and of course the wonderful wise ladies of mumsnet I am ok.

This I need to see......downward dog after mucho vino

It's hot yoga too. I will either keel over or be cured.

I'm going for the former, I shall organize a small wager with the rest of the thread posters

Oh shoot. What do I get it I don't keel over?

A concrete floor

Nooooooo!! I need something nice to aim for not nasty

Oh alright then you can get some new link plastic tat

a golden plastic gobelet

Snoozybird - wishing mn has a "like" button for your comment.

How about lots of good luck vibes so you get your dream job? That said you have those from us anyway

Are you having a meal at the pub to soak up the vino?

Hahah thanks Doc

You are all nuts!

No idea what the plan is. I am being told tomorrow. I assume food is involved though. I have no idea what to wear. Does jeans, a sparkly top and a blazer still cut it?

You can never go wrong with jeans and a sparkly top

As Chris said-
Have fun!

Your outfit sounds nice Tomtom

I intend to! This girl hasn't had much fun recently - I think I deserve a good old belly laugh.

Jeans and a sparkly top it will be then.

Don't even think about not wearing high heels!

Seriously, studies have been done on this, women look and feel far more powerful/confident/self assured in heels.
Get used to it!

Best of luck.

Bjrce - I'm 5'10" and walk straighter, am actually more confident and don't fall over in flats. I get up to more mischief in flats. Fact.

Can I still wear flats please?

Wear what you feel comfortable in... Oh to be 5'10

I've lurked throughout but not posted yet.

But just wanted to say: wear flats if you want to. I never understand the heels thing.

Also, you're fabulous.

Tomato - for the first time ever (ever, ever), I will borrow a phrase from my DD. Go high or go home.

5'10' OMG you lucky thing,

In that case yes flats absolutely allowed.

Thank you. I will dig out my sparkly flats

Re nickname: I had to go to clinic after my ex was spreading it about. Ever since he's been Knobrot.

How utterly charming for you!

Dd is back to sleep after a little wake up, her bag is packed for tomorrow and my chores are done. What an exciting Friday night it has been.

I have decided the best thing to do is to keep busy to avoid feeling sorry for myself.

I've found my tattoo artist I think - I have been in touch with a studio over the last few days and was recommended one of the artists. I have been looking at her work this evening and saw a picture of a feather she has drawn - it literally sent shivers down my spine. I have to wait until August(!) which gives me a decent cooling off period.

Lights off - thank you all so much for keeping my spirits up today. Another day done.