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DRY 7!!!

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mollyonthemove · 03/04/2015 20:10

The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free Grin. come and join us Brew

OP posts:
BadWool · 21/05/2015 23:21

Not bad. Not great. Had a bottle. Still less than before but not good enough. Tomorrow ...

gladistopped · 21/05/2015 23:51

Ended up having a bottle as well :( Still, better than two of them ...so tapering off :)

gladistopped · 21/05/2015 23:51

BadWool less is always good :)

MistressofPemberley · 22/05/2015 06:15

Morning. Gladistopped and BadWool, you are doing really well. Please don't feel so low about what you perceive to be failures. Think about how many times you hear advice given to relatives along the lines of 'he/she has to want to get better', or 'he/she has to admit there is a problem' etc. So many people go through life in denial about addiction. You are not one of them. You have found the courage to be honest, and that's brave. I don't think recovery is meant to be easy, but changing your mindset is the first step. Please stay strong and be kind to yourselves.

I'm on day 7 and feeling good. I haven't stopped eating though... The awful tiredness and lethargy I felt last time I stopped doesn't seem to have featured so much. I'm having very odd dreams though!

I'm but exactly sure what my plan is. My drinking had been creeping up and I could tell it was getting out of control. Friday's blow out was inevitable. It feels better already to have had nearly a week off. For the first time, I really am doing it a day at a time. If I want a drink, I'll have one, but so far this week the feeling of waking up feeling this good is hard to beat. Similarly, once I've eaten and had some peach and lychee cordial I don't seem to fancy alcohol as much.

Right, DD is awake and wailing. Have a good day all.

CornChips · 22/05/2015 08:23

Hi all. Just dropping in to say hello. :)

Lucy watched the Horizon programme you put a link in on your blog. I had not planned to watch it. It was brilliant. And terrifying. And resolve-confirming. (With lovely eye candy too :) )

Hope everyone is fine. I am thinking of you glad and Bad. What Mistress says is so right in her first para of her post this morning. She's nailed it. :)

BadWool · 22/05/2015 11:41

Thanks for all the kind wishes and good advice! I woke with huge resolve this morning and so far ... not bad ... not great. I feel so utterly drained and low today. I took a shower and looked in the mirror - really not a good sight. Inevitably made me want a drink which is the cause of the horrible reflection and so such a vicious circle. I'm going to take a walk now, avoiding supermarkets, then a nap (at home today). Looking forward to having dd home for half term and determined to spend good time with her, not mixing between ecstatically ridiculous, then irritable and then asleep and the morose like usual. I feel so sorry for her.

gladistopped · 22/05/2015 12:48

I have been re reading my Journal from the start of this year and, yes, I have done well and have had far far more not drinking days than drinking ones :)

One day at a time. Today I will not drink. That is all :)

Lucy2610 · 22/05/2015 13:01

Well done Mistress BadWool and Glad! :)
'A Royal Hangover' is a brilliant film - shame the damn industry is killing it's reach Angry
Corn it's good isn't it? For anyone else interested in seeing it you can find it here

CornChips · 22/05/2015 21:43

How is everyone tonight? I am finishing up some work. [grrrrr] Actually, I am procrastinating and drinking Ribena.

What plans for the weekend? We have a birthday BBQ tomorrow. DS is super excited and has packed his backpack with his toys. Sunday I want to take him swimming if I can... he is always scared to go then loves it once he is there.

Hope everyone is fine. :) I mentioned up thread some hypnosis cds.... I am using this one at the moment....every couple of days when I feel a craving coming on. It really helps me, so thought I would share. I have never gotten to the end of it, always fall into a lovely deep sleep. :) I am planning to use it tomorrow before the BBQ also, as it is with a very boozy crowd and will possibly be triggery.

www.amazon.co.uk/Self-Hypnosis-Drinking-Alcohol-Hypnotherapy/dp/B0044M3JRG/ref=sr_1_2?s=music&ie=UTF8&qid=1432327239&sr=1-2&keywords=rachael+eccles

Night everyone. Hugs to you all. Thanks

Lucy2610 · 22/05/2015 22:05

Hey Corn have a lovely time :) Son's bday cinema trip tomorrow with mates and then neice's bday celebration on Sunday. Quiet family time with lots of Brew and Cake Night to you too Star

gladistopped · 22/05/2015 22:41

Not going well here. Wish I had NEVER started drinking again :(

BadWool · 22/05/2015 23:43

Bad day here too. Trying to stay positive.

gladistopped · 23/05/2015 00:36

best wishes bad

Lucy2610 · 23/05/2015 09:13

Oh ladies Sad How are we this morning? Can I re-recommend the 15 minute rule? You need to break the re-automated habit Glad and still dependent habit for you BadWool. This is why I don't even risk one glass as I know I'd be back to battling it daily again Flowers

TeapotDictator · 23/05/2015 11:21

Good morning all. I've been very absent from the thread as I was concerned about my privacy.

However I read this blog this morning and thought it might be helpful to those finding things tough right now. It is helping me. I just reached 300 days since I stopped drinking, and I'm not so much low about that side of things as just stuff in general. The blog is about the fact that You Must Start Where You Are and I hope it might be of interest to others on this thread.

Lucy2610 · 23/05/2015 12:57

Hey Teapot Thank you :) Her friend Holly who she links too is also a great writer and you can find her at hipsobriety. Started reading The Girl on the Train last night Spectacular writer .....

CornChips · 23/05/2015 13:48

Teapot that was a really good blog post. Made me feel calm inside. And she speaks such a truth that we rarely hear. Thank you.

Hope you are okay. Thanks

gladistopped · 23/05/2015 14:47

Thanks Teapot that helped. And Lucy yes I need to remind myself of the tools I used during January. I did it then and I can do it again. Just it seems very hard at the moment.

BadWool · 23/05/2015 16:06

Still struggling but really enjoying all the blog posts and contact with other people. I wish I had something more positive to report. I should have known last week's optimism was too good to be true, I'm back at the point now where I can see no way out. I am still trying to take one moment at a time though and give in as rarely as possible.

Lucy2610 · 23/05/2015 16:26

BadWool for some of us doing it on our own is just too difficult and there is no shame in admitting we need help from outside sources. If you feel back in the dead-end maybe you need more than this thread can offer? Of course we can offer moral support and contact but a medical detox makes it easier as the drugs used help with the anxiety of stopping :) Just a thought.

BadWool · 23/05/2015 16:42

How does that work? The medical detox?

tsonlyme · 23/05/2015 17:48

I'm trying to remember how my (home) medical detox worked, it's been a while! It took a week, I had a rapidly reducing supply of librium (I think?) to take away craving and I think it prevented the possibility of seizures too. I also had to take vit b as alcohol stops your body absorbing it or something, so was depleted. The rapidly reducing librium was to ensure I didn't swap one addiction for another.

I have to say that the librium was lovely Wink but I wasn't so spaced out that I couldn't go to work and my colleagues knew nothing about it. At that point (a job I'm not in any more) they were used to me being a bit dozy due to hangovers, not that I'd ever admitted that I was hungover to them. I think I've mentioned before that I thought the detox was a bit OTT for my circumstances but was a requirement for me to get antabuse so I went along with it.

A decent doctor will make sure that you're motivated before you start otherwise they're just giving lovely drugs to someone who might drink on top of them, or enjoy them so much they start sourcing their own supply.

Anyway, hello! I'm doing great Grin Back on the pills and I have to say I'm not even interested in drinking except for that hour straight after work when I'm tired and hungry, but I'm protected by the antabuse from slipping during that time. I know it's only been a week so the memory of last saturday is still very much fresh and a good reminder of how to get it all wrong - what a horrible day Sad

Sorry some of you are struggling, keep stepping in the right direction and eventually you'll hopefully make the decision to cut out the booze altogether because in my experience (and all those I've met along the way in the same boat) it's the only way when it's a problem and not a pleasure.

I spent years not wanting to put problem drinking on my medical records but it really was the best thing I could have done for myself and my family because now I have access to support from my GP if I need it, I got a safe detox and now I get the antabuse prescription which keeps me safe, so long as I keep taking it ( Hmm )

What a beautiful day it is today! I have got so much done Smile

Lucy2610 · 23/05/2015 18:43

BadWool tsonlyme just answered the question for you! Thank you :) You are put on a reducing dose of anti-anxiety medication for 5-7 days which manages the cravings and fitting risk. They would also prescribe the vitamins I've already suggested you take. Once you're clean and safe you need to just not drink so as said above you need to be committed to the decision. It is something you access through your GP or your local Drug and Alcohol Treatment team. I volunteer at a rehab place and it makes the quitting process less traumatic physically and mentally but the hard work is still required once you've put down the drink.

Lucy2610 · 23/05/2015 18:45

The hard work of staying stopped that is! But the longer you go the easier it gets :)

LastGleaming · 23/05/2015 21:26

Thank you Teapot, that link helped and have added to my favourite list. Such a positive way to look at things.

I loved The Girl on the Train, really identified with the main character. Found myself cringing along with her at the things she did.

Sorry to hear you are finding it so tough glad and badwool :( Is there anyone in RL you can talk to badwool?

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