DRY 7!!!

[mollyonthemove]

The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free . come and join us

But you know you must Molly, especially as she already has.

I know. It's hard though!

Keep trying Molly. Merse, there I was thinking my bladder was waking me at 3 or 4 every single morning. Roll on Tuesday. My DD has unwittingly made it a little easier, she is amazingly sporty and all of a sudden tues/wedn/Thursday are full of sporty stuff so I won't be at home at trigger hour.

That's incredibly brave to speak to someone else about it molly. Are you nervous about it being published?

It took me a good while for my sleep patterns to settle down and get rid of the insomnia fresh but I'd also stopped smoking a few weeks after knocking the drink on the head so was a mixture of the two I believe. I sleep wonderfully now, well as good as I can with a kicking co-sleeping toddler beside me :) Good luck with your training! I'm planning to do a half in September, providing all my dodgy joints hold up this time!

Excellent news juggling, are you joining her with the sporty stuff or being taxi/spectator?

Sorry I've not replied. Have been major busy today.

Pub lunch no alcohol. Dd is with Daddy while I'm on the loo.

I suffer badly with constipation and when I get the urge to go nothing is stopping me.

No alcohol tonight. We have been trying to figure out why dd is waking every night. Dh is a fucker for saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and I let him know that his comment this morning was not appreciated

He's an angel most of the time.

Is this my punishment for her for being such a good sleeper lol.

I'm in bed snuggling up to her and she's scraping her nails down my arm. I think she's got 2 more teeth coming through. Thank you ladies. Dh can sleep through anything. By the time he's awake and heard her I'll be settling her back to sleep x

Last, taxi is my middle name, 2 out of 3 kids are uber sporty, wouldn't change it for the world.

morning all
missy hope you had a better night. Any chance you can get some rest today?

well I had a fairly quiet night on call last night. actually got quite a bit of sleep.It was helpful being on call on a Friday as it removed any temptation to drink!
Sadly though I have woken up feeling rubbish - headache and just sort of crap - bit like a hangover! Not sure why - a couple of the kids have had a virus recently so may be that
anyway....day 12 today - nearly 2 weeks, which is half way to my first month
I wont want to drink tonight either cause I'm on call again tomorrow , so that takes care of tomorrow night too...
Monday however may be tempting being a bank holiday...still, one day at a time.
I'm hoping to get some gardening done today...
and I'm contemplating digging out my old running gear and trying to get going with that again...
just need to feel better first....

Good morning! not nervous as such - ridiculously I am most scared of my mother finding out - she would be appalled that I am dragging her through the mud (even though she's not even mentioned!!)

I just want to let people (women mainly I guess) to know it is possible to recover. There is too much shame and secrecy I think. Why are people like us scorned and loathed when we have suffered so bloody much through something which really is out of our control? no one chooses to drink so much their 6 year old daughter has to walk them home and put them to bed do they? I have been ashamed for too long. The guilt is still there - I wouldn't be human if not but what is more important is to let people know that a) you can get better and b) kindness not cruelty is needed for drinkers like us.

Blimey, bit of a rant there sorry.

I'm working for a couple of hours this morning then dd2 of to a sleepover so hopefully a quietish day. Hope everyone has a peaceful one.

Morning all!

Molly you are so incredibly brave. I can only send you a hug. It must be so hard t go through what you have gone through, and to talk about it openly. Your courage is an inspiration.

missy I hope you got some decent sleep eventually.

bobbly hope you manage to avoid the virus.

What plans for the weekend? I finished a big work project yesterday so am hoping to really get some quality time in with DS. DH is in one of his cycling road events today so we will wave him off then have coffee with another cycling widow and will meet her new golden retriever puppy. Tomorrow I am planning to go to a garden fete at a local stately home and Monday possibly the local farm park.

Yesterday, after submitting my project, instead of going to the pub and having a glass of wine I went to Costa and had a hot chocolate with marshmallows and read the paper. It Was Bliss.

Hope everyone is fine.

Oh, you posted when I was typing molly.

Not a rant, you have lots of valid points you raise. I am thinking alot about the shame I feel, and am wondering if I will ever be out and proud about being sober... or at least, dealing with my drinking issues. I am still making excuses about it 'I have a big day tomorrow... It's Lent....' etc When people give up smoking, they are congratulated, when they give up drinking they are sneered at for having a problem.

Got some sleep in the end. She woke up a few times but didn't feel quite as much. She's pulling on her ears so calpol tonight I think.

Food shopping today. I'm aiming for a buy of the small bottles. If I get 2 then I'll be impressed with myself as it's nearer 2 bottles on a Saturday night.

Good on you molly. I also don't know if I would ever get to the stage where I can be completely honest with people. I have mentioned it briefly to two people but glossed over it. I can be honest with myself which is a step in the right direction.

You've a busy weekend ahead corn :) I'm debating a pj day with the fire on as there's to be foul weather and high winds here later. Maybe some baking and housework if I can summon up the motivation.

Glad she slept a bit better last night missy. Possibly teething coupled with a sleep regression? I know dd was a horrendous sleeper then, had given up her day-time naps too by that age and seemed to hit every sleep regression going. It felt relentless at the time but she did settle down again eventually.

Hope it's not a virus bobbly. It's seems to be quite common, and somewhat unfair, to feel a bit hungover and yuck in the first few weeks of stopping drinking though if the posts on here are anything to go by.

I drank last night. Sort of annoyed I only managed 5 days AF. I had 2 glasses last night - and honestly forced myself to finish that second one.

I'm not sure where that leaves me. I feel frustrated as I CAN control what I drink at home. Rarely more than 2 glasses (albeit pretty big glasses!) - it's when I'm out and about with friends that I really struggle - and those are when the shameful events happen. The reason I get out of control is largely linked with self confidence I think....funny though as I was so confident at social events when I was pregnant and not drinking! It's just making myself realise that.

Perhaps I should moderate with my husband as my lead for a bit? I know that's optimistic but I don't know. Gah.

I just wish I could just be sensible when I go out. I'm 31, I need to grow up.

Oh bless you Fresh. I very rarely go out so I can't answer.

I was wondering if it's sleep regression I think I'll look that up.

Early to bed tonight then I won't get tempted. I have bought 2 small bottles of wine and I hope at least 1 will be there in the morning.

Just looked up sleep regression. I think that's it. Hopefully not much longer until she sleeps again.

morning all
missy how did you go last night?
fresh I also never go out , so for me it was drinking in the house that is the problem. Although I do remember going out once last time I had stopped and I offered to drive to remove any temptation...Hope you manage to sort something out.

Well I felt rubbish all day yesterday - headache, lethargic, cold...not sure what is going on, whether a virus or just the effects of stopping drinking? I am trying to remember if I felt like this when I stopped last year but cant remember? I went to bed for 2 hours in the afternoon and slept, then still went to bed 8.30 last night and slept right through till about 8 this morning I still feel grim - am existing on 4 hourly paracetamol at the moment.
Any one else felt rough about 2 weeks in?
I am going to go and et some vitamins today I think and I have been trying to eat more fruit and veg etc,,,(along with all the chocolate!)

The weather is horrible here today, and I am on call so just need to plough on through today. No temptation though...although tomorrow may e tricky.

Hope you are all having good AF weekends.

Morning all!
bobbly you're detoxing so you will feel pretty rubbish for a good few weeks. Sleep is the antidote so your body is doing what it needs to do. We forget that we've spent years effectively poisoning ourselves so it takes a bit of time to recover!!
Grim here too which never helps our mood does it? :)

I agree. It took me about a week to actually stop feeling mentally and physically wrecked. BUT, it is temporary - keep at it - think of it as a posh and expensive detox that a Harley street physician has prescribed!

Weather pigging awful here too and I have my mother coming over! Having to be especially nice to her lately as she is staying with the children while me and dh finally go (13 years late) on our honeymoon at the end of the month. I won't believe it till we're there

Keep it up everyone x

Ugh good luck with the mother molly. Are you going anywhere nice?

To parrot my dm bobbly, 'sleep is a healer' :) Hope you start to feel better soon. I am a smoothie convert for getting extra fruit and veg into me. Vitamins are a good idea, especially b vitamins as they are easily destroyed by alcohol. I take one of those Sanatogen complete mulitvitamin ones when I remember which isn't very often

You must be getting the weather we had yesterday, not that it's much better today.

I'm so pleased with myself. I'm in asda and was so tempted to get a bottle but I haven't

Well done Missy. We're going to Corfu! Wasn't planned at all, one of these lucky, know someone who knows someone who has a ridiculously cheap place etc, moments. We thought sod it let's grab it.

Also a smoothie convert - dh bought me a blender thing for our anniversary and I haven't stoped chucking fruit and ypghurts in it!

Oh I'm jealous, we haven't had a holiday in over 5 years.

Early to bed tonight for me, I did get a lie in this morning and I don't think she woke up so much during the night, but going bed helps with the cravings.

Hello again! Friend has returned so we are home and I don't have alcohol around. So have had 1 day AF!

Part of my difficulty is I need to take meds which have insomnia as a side effect and I have been using alcohol to get\stay asleep. Hence middle of the night post :)

Oh well, onwards and upwards!

Well done Sigma. I'll be joining you tomorrow. Looking forward to it now.