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Original poster

Shall I tell his wife?

307 replies

upsetagain · 27/02/2015 19:16

Met a lovely guy online, he seemed perfect in so many ways. It was very intense, only 3 weeks but very intense. We planned a future together. I couldn't believe how compatible we were. I have waited for years to meet someone like him. Couldn't believe my luck.

Anyway found out he was married with a couple of kids. He gave me the usual rubbish, only together for the sake of the children. Separate bedrooms blah blah.

Told him it was over. I felt so angry, upset and humiliated and deceived, anyway I have done some digging around and have found out who his wife is on facebook. I have written her a long message with the complete transcripts of everything we said to each other on Facebook and intimate photos we sent to each other. I am just debating whether to send it to her.

OP posts:
Original poster
upsetagain · 27/02/2015 22:18

Mona Lott was good!

OP posts:
Christinayang1 · 27/02/2015 22:19

See what you have started......

Wine
AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:19

Tess Tickles

Original poster
upsetagain · 27/02/2015 22:19

It is better than crying in my pillow lol

OP posts:
MorrisZapp · 27/02/2015 22:19

I think I know this guy. Is he called Hugh G Rection?

AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:20

Vi Brator

iwashappy · 27/02/2015 22:20

I'm quietly confident that he went by the name of Richard Head!

Original poster
upsetagain · 27/02/2015 22:22

Iwashappy got it right!!

OP posts:
Christinayang1 · 27/02/2015 22:23

iwas

Brilliant

AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:25

Seymour Asscrack

AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:26

Wayne Kerr

Original poster
upsetagain · 27/02/2015 22:27

He is definitely Wayne Kerr lol

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:28

Is your heart mending yet ?

IdblowJonSnow · 27/02/2015 22:30

I would tell her based solely on the fact that I would want to know. But if you are feeling vengeful hold off. You can decide when things cool off a bit. Also if you did it via facebook then she'll know who you are... You are well rid. Take care.

Original poster
upsetagain · 27/02/2015 22:30

I do feel better actually having posted tonight. I was keeping it all to myself. Didn't confide in friends because I felt so stupid.

Hopefully I can turn a corner now and move on

Thank you to everyone who has posted

OP posts:
EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 27/02/2015 22:31

Bless you, I think you have learnt a valuable lesson here
Lesson one being you cannot fall in love with people you have only met three weeks ago because you don't know them.

MorrisZapp · 27/02/2015 22:31

Amanda Hugginkiss.

AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 22:32

No problem, Mona Wink

Denton2406 · 27/02/2015 22:34

I feel for you, I've been in a similar situation a couple of times, it's not about being needy, it's about idiot blokes online who think they can get away with leading someone on when they already have a woman at home! Men lie through their back teeth!! I did send a msg to the fiancée of a guy who did this to me, I found her on FB and she was just about to give birth! It may have gone into her other folder so she may not have seen it but I felt better for sending it, she has a right to know what he is doing behind her back. I wouldn't send the pics if I were you but would send a brief message telling her what he is cheating .

Higgle · 27/02/2015 23:00

No such thing as on line anything when I met DH, we met on holiday.

jasper · 27/02/2015 23:15

Too harsh AF
Lots of people fall in love quickly and start planning the future. Nasty to make OP out to be at fault .

Kick her while she's down? Not kind

Koalafications · 27/02/2015 23:28

The thread has moved on jasper AF isn't the only one who has criticised the OP.

Ouchbloodyouch · 27/02/2015 23:33

My ex p lived at chester zoo. He gave me a false name but his post was to a Mr C Lyon

AnyFucker · 27/02/2015 23:34

(sigh)

Ouchbloodyouch · 27/02/2015 23:35

Cm on I tried...

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