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wwyd if OH mean about one of your kids....

265 replies

whyowhy26 · 26/02/2015 11:22

my boyfriend stayed over last night and although we had a good night he has really upset me this morning
my daughter ( whos 2 ) woke up at 6:30am crying at the stairgate on her bedroom door and woke us both up....I'm fine with this as I get up at 7am anyway and he needed to be up at 7:30ish but I knew he would be moody she was crying so I put the light on in her bedroom and said she could read books quietly while I went to get dressed....bearing in mind she had been asleep since 7pm straight ( she normally wakes in night ) I was quite proud of her
anyway I went to get dressed commenting how cute she sounded reading a book to her teddies....He started going on at me that shes like a newborn ( ie so demanding and cries for what she wants ) has got me wrapped round her little finger, has no routine ( as wakes in night ) etc etc.....I don't know what to say he seems to pick up on every tantrum etc she has which is normal as she's 2!!! but apparently his son never did blah blah blah....just hurts as shes so sweet to him and feel like i need to say something to stand up for her... but what???? saying this is pretty standard 2 yr old behaviour doesn't work as his child/his mates children don't act like that apparently....

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Fudgeface123 · 26/02/2015 11:25

Personally I'd get rid of him if I'm honest, he sounds awful. It's a baby FFS, what is he expecting?

LineRunner · 26/02/2015 11:26

What do you say to him? 'Goodbye'.

You need to put strong boundaries in place when you have a very young child. Please practise this now. And don't ever leave her alone with him - and you know why.

LizzieMint · 26/02/2015 11:26

Your loyalty is to your child, not him, so I wouldn't put up with that I'm afraid.

oldcroneat39 · 26/02/2015 11:27

Was he living with his son at age 2? (My first thought). Tantrums are a fairly normal developmental stage when children have wants they cannot express and start to exert themselves.
As for his friends children. Ffs most toddlers are cute and lovely around their parents friends (if well entertained).

SpodoKomodo · 26/02/2015 11:27

She slept from 7pm to 6.30am with no wake up? And then was happy to read books quietly? She is FANTASTIC!

Your OH, not so much..

Ilovemybedbaby · 26/02/2015 11:28

He sounds awful and tbh jealous of the attention your giving your baby!!

Say goodbye he sounds like and utter tosser!!

hellsbellsmelons · 26/02/2015 11:28

but I knew he would be moody
So you are already walking on eggshells??
Nice!
You know what you have to do.

KatieScarlettreregged · 26/02/2015 11:28

I would invite him to grow the fuck up and keep his unwanted parenting opinions to himself.
Then I'd bin him for being such an obvious arse.

ProbablyMe · 26/02/2015 11:29

I'd say goodbye - and also wonder how much actual time he'd personally spent looking after his son!

HoggleHoggle · 26/02/2015 11:29

You need to get rid. Horrible attitude to a very small child.

TheDetective · 26/02/2015 11:31

He's a dick. I'm sorry.

And he shouldn't be comparing two children.

I'd be saying see ya, knobhead.

KellyElly · 26/02/2015 11:32

As a lone patent I personally haven't let any man I've been seeing stay over or meet my child. When and if I do it will be because they're a good person who fully understands boundaries and that my DD comes first. I would have handed his arse to him on s plate before kicking humour of my house and my life for good if I were you.

KellyElly · 26/02/2015 11:32

*parent

Unidentifieditem · 26/02/2015 11:33

Only one person there is acting like a baby...him. Tell him to get lost. Your DD deserves a better male in her life than a resenting whinger.

KellyElly · 26/02/2015 11:33

*his arse not humour ffs!!

monkeyfacegrace · 26/02/2015 11:33

What a twat. He sounds like a potential danger tbh.

But I'm fiercely protective of my kids. I'd make sure the door slammed on him on the way out.

HolgerDanske · 26/02/2015 11:36

Don't let him back in your home. Seriously, he's no good for you and definitely no good for your daughter.

Hullygully · 26/02/2015 11:36

He's a cunt

hth

RaptorInaPorkPieHat · 26/02/2015 11:37

You can do better than him OP, you deserve it and your DD deserves it.

I'd ditch him pronto.

Mabelface · 26/02/2015 11:37

He needs to go or your kids will suffer.

Penguinsaresmall · 26/02/2015 11:38

Your DD sounds absolutely lovely. And she deserves a much, much better (potential) Step Father than that arse hole. She's only two Sad

LTB. With bells and knobs on.

wobblebobblehat · 26/02/2015 11:38

Appalling and time to get rid. Your daughter comes first.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 26/02/2015 11:38

Get rid! My 6y/o still wakes in the night FFS!

At 2 they are still babies in my opinion.

God, he'd have been in the street in his jamas if he'd said that about my DD.

IrianofWay · 26/02/2015 11:39

Sounds like a lovely little girl. Ignore the twat.

ISpeakJive · 26/02/2015 11:40

When I read stories like these, they send a shiver down my spine!!

Get rid of this man! Please!

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