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Unwanted advance made by a dad on the school run

216 replies

urbanIsland · 24/02/2015 11:40

I talk to my son's(5 years old) best friend's parents often on the walk to school. Today the father asked if I would like to meet them for coffee after dropping them off. i said yes but when I got to Costa with my baby in the pram there was only him there. I asked where his wife was he said that she was not coming and he had a present for me but I could not tell his wife about it. I was now in catatonic shock as he handed the present to me. I managed to say I am going and just left. I didn't throw the present at him, I realised to my horror when I got home that I had it in my hand.

I do not know what to do now, I wanted my son and theirs to go to each others houses and play together etc and enjoyed talking to both parents on the school walk. The mother will surely think that I did something to prompt this advance if I tell her and I need to clearly get it through to him that he is completely wrong and never to do anything like that again.

Any ideas how best to fix this without losing my son's best friend?

OP posts:
flatbellyfella · 25/02/2015 18:18

PeaceOfWildThings The creepy Man may have heard the rumours , that women go week at the knees, when confronted with a jar of Nutella . It's powers took up lots of pages on MN last week....Hmm

flatbellyfella · 25/02/2015 18:24

Don't tell my wife........ It was obviously wife's jar, (for emergencies only) .

Mystery solved.

PeaceOfWildThings · 25/02/2015 18:32

Really? I missed that! Don't really like the taste of it as I prefer dark chocolate. But it does make a quick easy brownie.
A jar of Nutella is a risky thing to give under such circumstances, in case the woman decides to throw the gift back at the giver and takes him unawares.

I don't think a jar of Nutella could feel like a jumper, that's what was confusing me! (Not that there's any lack of confusion on this thread, I'm in good company.)

CatKitten · 25/02/2015 18:39

It was only then that the true horror was fully revealed as she upwrapped the lifeless body of her bird murdering cat.

ROFL @ mademan

"She instantly dropped the half unwrapped corpse and it fell to the floor. She sat there in a catatonic Grin state, utterly shocked. It had certainly put the cat among the pigeons a different complexion on things. She cast her mind back to the coffee house. "Don't tell my wife," he had said with a knowing smile. How could she have got it so wrong? The softness she had mistaken for a jumper was poor, dead Squeaky. She was now confronted with a shocking dilemma: should she tell her friend that her beloved husband was a cat killer? Oh what to do? What do to do?"

BuzzardBird · 25/02/2015 19:03

If it was lime curd he wouldn't have to ask me twice Grin

YesAnastasia · 25/02/2015 19:06

I can't believe I just read all that & the OP hasn't returned to confirm or deny the existence of a dead cat. Schrodinger's?

Anyway, I would be as shocked as OP (mainly because I'm far from beautiful) and I would have fled in a dramatic flurry.

BuzzardBird · 25/02/2015 19:08

Wait a minute CatKitten not that want to split hairs with your completely feesable story but I realised to my horror when I got home that I had it in my hand. The dead cat must have been extremely small?

I think you missed out the bit where he liquidised it and put it in a Nutella jar didn't you?

BuzzardBird · 25/02/2015 19:09

feasible and bold fail.

letscookbreakfast · 25/02/2015 19:44

Come back OP I'm on tenterhooks.

ReallyBadParty · 25/02/2015 19:58

The power's been off all day, I've come back on excitedly to find out what the present was.......Please say?

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 25/02/2015 20:05

Ooh,ooh,I know. It's a cloak for a secret satanic cult,that's why he doesn't want his wife knowing. OP has either run off to join and produce demon babies or has a bunch of crazies stalking her to prevent the secret getting outShock

toastyarmadillo · 26/02/2015 04:34

I feel cheated, op get your "beautiful" self here and update already.....

MiscellaneousAssortment · 26/02/2015 05:00

I thought it was AIBU from the thread tone? Now I'm confused

Sapat · 26/02/2015 05:08

The catatonic shock came from a man wrapping up a present and it still looking like a gift by the time he was finished!

Aridane · 26/02/2015 07:31

Yeh - does sound like an unwanted advance.

But you have to open the present:

  1. I want to know what's in it

  2. what if, as others have suggested, it contains an invite for a surprise party for his wife and a T shirt to wear for the party (hence the don't tell the wife). Your reaction in that scenario would be way more embarrassing than an unwanted pass.

And, yes, you do sound a bit Victoria maiden in your reaction to what is probably an unwanted advance / declaration of interest - though of course it would have come as a bit of shock.

Please come back and update us.

MNHQ
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