Unwanted advance made by a dad on the school run

[urbanIsland]

I talk to my son's(5 years old) best friend's parents often on the walk to school. Today the father asked if I would like to meet them for coffee after dropping them off. i said yes but when I got to Costa with my baby in the pram there was only him there. I asked where his wife was he said that she was not coming and he had a present for me but I could not tell his wife about it. I was now in catatonic shock as he handed the present to me. I managed to say I am going and just left. I didn't throw the present at him, I realised to my horror when I got home that I had it in my hand.

I do not know what to do now, I wanted my son and theirs to go to each others houses and play together etc and enjoyed talking to both parents on the school walk. The mother will surely think that I did something to prompt this advance if I tell her and I need to clearly get it through to him that he is completely wrong and never to do anything like that again.

Any ideas how best to fix this without losing my son's best friend?

OPEN IT

I'm only here as I need to know what the present is. Come on ffs!

What the present is makes a huge difference to the next step...you could seriously embarrass yourself op if it's a lovely knitted blanket and you hand it back with a big song and dance about how you aren't interested...

Also I need to know!

I dont think what the present is makes any difference (although of course I want to know!). What is telling is that he handed it over with "dont tell my wife about this". It doesnt matter what it is, if it was an innocent gift then there would be nothing to keep secret and his wife would know about it.

I would give it him back with "I dont think it is appropriate to accept gifts from you, my husband agrees with me" and leave it at that. The fact that you have told your DH will have him shitting himself.

Open the bloody present please!!!

I'm so fucking nosey

Ffs open it before I internally combust

But he won't be shitting himself if it is something perfectly innocuous Bogey.

He'll just think the OP is a psycho hose beast.

Do you think it's one of his wife's jumpers?

Why would he be dispensing his wife's jumpers to all and sundry? I reckon op's opened it hours ago and it's something completely frigging tame and boring after all this buildup..,

Oh fgs. If you won't open it, pass it to me and I'll do it.

I do thnk the OP is coming on like a Victorian virgin, even if the 'don't tell my wife' was possibly a bit suspect.
Open the package, OP, because you do need to be sure of the contents before you make a big deal out of this Insult To Your Honour. It might well be something like second-hand kids' clothes that he was supposed to be selling on Ebay and couldn't be arsed. You didn't even ask for an explanation of why you shouldn't tell his wife before running away squealing - it's not as if he got his cock out and stirred your coffee with it.

There is no gift is there OP.
I think this is about romanticising about some decent looking bloke who has the good grace to be friendly and courteous to you.
sorry.

A cock in a beaker (surely hats a different thread) comeon op open it!

Damn autocorrect !

He might be a photographer

Please open it. You can always wrap it again.

Ah, no present info. I was really excited.

at psycho hose beast -schwing

We don't know he didn't, Solidgold. Something sent op into catatonic shock and I doubt it was Romeo's wife's jumper

Im still chuckling at catatonic shock!

I don't know what is funnier.. Catatonic shock or 'he might be a photographer'

Poor OP you bunch of meanies

I'm soon to be divorced. A guy I know professionally, although hadnt seen for around 2 years txt me recently in response to some pics I posted on facebook (selfies with celebs).
He's married with two beautiful children and a lovely hard working wife.
He discovered I'm soon to be divorced and literally threw himself at me. Told me he's always been in love with me, he's going to stalk me, we would make a perfect couple, he fantasises about my body.

I was so SHOCKED that a married man could be so forward and blatantly searching for an affair.

I believe that such cretins exist. In my situation, my boyfriend txt him back after five days of messages to me which I didn't respond to.
He immediately stopped and unfriended me on facebook.

Let your DH calmly deal with this sitution OP

it's not as if he got his cock out and stirred your coffee with it.

I nearly choked on my night-time toastsolidgoldbrass

You didn't even ask for an explanation of why you shouldn't tell his wife before running away squealing - it's not as if he got his cock out and stirred your coffee with it.

SGB - thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

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