DP just told me he's infatuated with a woman at work

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I'm 8 weeks pregnant with dc2. Dp and I had a big row over something silly which escalated yesterday and continued today and I knew there was something underlying. He's lost 2.5 stone, had his hair cut and started smoking again, he also had a snipe about the fact that we've not dtd since conception(previous mc and General anxiety and nausea)

Please someone tell me what to do?

I am totally committed to getting help, I've been referred my gp and also seeing a private cbt therapist who may be able to hypnotise to get to the trot of why I do this and also help me change my subconscious.
Anything he has done he has done in defence or reaction to me awful behaviour.
I wouldn't advise someone to stay with someone abusive but depending on the help they got an the changes they made I wouldn't necessarily say it has to be over.
His children are really important to him and he's unlikely to just be an eow dad. For now I need to stop worrying about the relationship and whether a reconciliation is possible and focus on being a mum to dd and getting help. Everyone has said how big it is to admit what you've done and seek help but I think the biggest thing will be continuing the help for myself irrespective of whether he comes back or not.

I think that you are absolutely right. It is a big thing that you can admit your mistakes. You are right to focus on being in a good place for your daughter's sake.

I'm confused because on the 13th you said you had taken your child to see the GP who has concerns regarding your husband looking after your her because he clearly didn't look after her properly whilst in his care?? You also said your GP suggested building a support network without him in it which makes me wonder why you would put your child at risk by getting back together?? This whole thing is completely insane. You are both as bad as each other and for the sake of your child and unborn child don't ever get back together, please just don't do it. Get help and sort yourself out and concentrate on your children for goodness sake because you are both being completely selfish and not putting your poor children first!