Still finding it hard to move on......

[Hobbitwife001]

Hello everyone, this is a continuation of my previous thread, so a big welcome to everyone who participated on that one, and hello to anyone new who would like to join in this one.

A little recap of my story, my husband of 27 years left four months ago for another woman that I considered a friend. We live in a small village, and he has moved in with her and her son around the corner from the family home.

I have two sons at home with me, they are 23 and 19, the youngest has Asperger's syndrome and dyspraxia.

I am having counselling to help me get over the massive shock of his betrayal, for months I couldn't sleep or eat very much and started to suffer panic attacks and anxiety.

At the moment I am at the nisi stage of our divorce, I have petitioned for unreasonable behaviour. I am now trying to get the best settlement I can before I apply for the absolute. Needless to say, he is trying not to provide any provision for my youngest son, and has put forward a 50/50 proposal for division of the assets.

So, let's carry on ladies shall we?

You are just fantasising about that night of passion Izzie

Do NOT take that as a double entendre!!

Yeah, that's gonna happen WWK!
Can barely type never mind do link gubbins,
I would also like the moon on a stick, that sounds lovely. :) xx

Oh no, it's snowing very heavily here in the arse end of nowhere, might have to abandon going to work and do houseworkstay in bed with ipad instead. What a shame!

Grrrr... Tried to do strike through like Iwas suggested, obvs used the wrong dash key, I am an epic failure:(

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Cut and paste this Hobbit so that it shows up in your posts.

We are all epic failures apparently.

Snowing here as well which is rare. Cats are screaming at me because they want me to stop it. I have patiently explained that I am not Mistress of the Universe, but they are having none of it.

strikethroughs to do the line through word gubbins, you apparently need to put a space before the dashes and it works.

yey!

Cut and paste? I'm not thinking of doing any decorating? Hee Hee, I do know how to do that lies through teeth

YEY, I did it! Not such a muppet after all, could you come and give me lessons WWK, after all you are looking for employment !
Much love, snow stopped now, looks like I'll have to go earn a crust after all
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Continuation from this thread, I am not such a muppet after all, ffs :)

I remain hopelessly unemployed Hobbit...solicitor has decided she doesn't need to see me urgently, it can wait until next week.

We've had some communication from t'other side. 1 piece of paperwork down, 7 more to chase...

He remains cognitive arseholiant for the foreseeable. Need to start getting more activitist about my life, I think.

Although I do look a bit like Miss Piggy, albeit with dark hair.

I think he will remain one for the rest of his miserable life, WWK, KOKO babe. I luffs ya, maybe I will do a Miss Piggy on him ' HAI YA!' Karate pork chop, xx

One of the most bizarre things I said in my testimony, according to SHL's notes is:

I should not be made responsible for his inadequate decision-making, which is somewhat ironic as I chose to married this inadequate person....

Them English lessons can't happen soon enough...

I think I'll be using that quote WWK. I was going to say you wouldn't believe the stunts he is trying to pull but sadly I reckon you would. Am trying to focus on what you told me the other day - this will end amd it will for you too.

Ran in to an ex colleague earlier and she had heard of what had happened. Her response was 'awww that's awful. But you'll meet someone else.' I hate that.

Well I'm feeling quite a bit positive today. It's sunny here but cold. Snow is only news when it hits the south dahling!

I'm going to have a good tidy up when I get home. And go on a hunt for my driving licence. Well that's the theory ......hmm

Family they don't get it but we need a new man like we need a hole in the head

I also dont like the unspoken assumption from them that somehow we are incomplete without a man. That, though, says much about them and nothing about us

Second that Izzie, why would we even consider it?
But hey, you're sorted, got a date with Mr Sideburns ain't cha?
Tee Hee, I'm such a tease wind up merchant xx

How are you Family ? Feeling ok I hope.

Yes I wanted to say 'do you know what, maybe I will but maybe I won't and that's ok with me. I don't need a man to make me complete and I have learned that I need to be responsible for my own happiness. If I am not content on my own with my children then I can't rely on a man to change that. I have wasted too much of my time trying to make others happy, therefore not concentrating on making ME happy, and I will never make that mistake again.'

Instead I just said 'hmmm maybe one day.' Wimp.

Thank you Hobbit - yes I'm doing a bit better. Still feel panicky under the surface but I've got a horrendous couple of weeks coming up so I imagine it's to be expected. Going to try and keep busy busy busy.

Hope you are ok. x

just wanted to practice to see if I can do this!!!

Woo hoo! x

Third that Izzie got 'hit on' the other night and I just said, no thanks - I'm just okay being on my own for a bit.

I do miss having 'someone' to chat to. I don't miss being treated with contempt.

Well Missy WWK, you kept that quiet! Was that at the party?
Nice for the self esteem though eh! Does no harm to know you've still got it my love, even if you don't want to use it at present:)

You are a lovely lady, and he will be a very lucky chap to have you, if and when you decide to dive back into the shark infested waters of the dating world. I know what you mean tho', you need some time to yourself, and then when your confidence is fully restored you will know when you ready.

You are witty, articulate, blonde and gorgeous, forget that fuckwit, he doesn't realise what he has lost. Let's hope he isn't even left with a pot to piss in when you've finished your court shenanigans.