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Sat in bed crying my eyes out

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 20:03

Don't even know what just happened, DH has a few friends round for drinks, ive been sat in living room out the way then decided fuck it I'm going to the pub, told dp my plans and he wasn't amused

Anyway as I'm getting my coat on i hear him say "if i knew she was going out i would have got the strippers in" he intended me to hear that, so in a lighthearted way looked into kitchen and said "i heard that" and laughed.

Now ive just spent the last 10 mins being screamed at by DH for "ruining his night" and "showing him up in front of his mates" he's told me he wants nothing more to do with me, i can just fuck off etc

Now ive fucked the pub off, cant go out looking like this, I'm sat in bed crying wondering what the fuck ive actually done to deserve the abuse ive just gotten. I feel humiliated in front of his friends and i haven't even done anything.

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skildpadden · 27/12/2014 21:54

I knew there'd be one supercilious unable to resist correcting the OP's grammar.

OP, listen to solesource. Even his drinking pals know he treats you like dirt. Kick him out now while they remember witnessing it.

CaptainAnkles · 27/12/2014 21:54

Hardly the kind of thread where anyone needs to correct the OP's English Hmm Helpful.

IsabeauMichelle · 27/12/2014 21:54

What are you going to do OP? Do you have a friend that could some and stay over tonight?

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 21:55

Oh yes the worst part of my whole night was my bad grammar Hmm

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fluffling · 27/12/2014 21:56

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woowoo22 · 27/12/2014 21:57

amothersplace

Hope your mean comment made you feel better. At least some good will have come of it.

fluffling · 27/12/2014 21:57

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Chillyegg · 27/12/2014 21:59

Well done for. Locking the door on the knob! How are you feeling now op? Is there anyone you can speak to in real life? Anyone who can come round or who you can see tommorrow?

SoleSource · 27/12/2014 21:59

Are you able to envisage the future without him?

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 22:00

Nobody has a spare key. He's text to tell me he loves me, ive lost the plot and told him we are over, the doors locked and he better stay away

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 22:03

He keeps ringing, i cancel the call.

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RomillyJane · 27/12/2014 22:04

That is a horrible horrible man. Please don't brush this under the carpet. You are correct he hates you, (all women in fact) and thinks that you exist to serve him. Please make him leave. My exH used to speak to me like that; I ended up by almost believing it was normal; and tip toeing around to try to avoid a scene.

Its NOT normal ; NOT your fault - please get rid

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 22:04

He's left a voicemail telling me to grow up and that I'm being childish. He's fucking unreal

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NoDecentNamesLeft · 27/12/2014 22:04

Do you have a close friend that could come stay with you overnight OP?

He may return home early if you keep cancelling calls. Be prepared for this.

Bartlebee · 27/12/2014 22:05

In vino veritas.

Sorry, OP, but why on earth are you with this arse? Please get rid of him.

Dowser · 27/12/2014 22:06

Can you get a bit of sleep in while he's out. Save your strength for tomorrow.

Or is the adrenalin just racing.

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 22:07

I have nobody Sad

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Dowser · 27/12/2014 22:07

Please don't keep asking OP why she is with him.

It's not helping.

The best way we can help her is to see her situation for all it's awfulness and help her to get out of it.

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SatInBedCrying · 27/12/2014 22:09

I cant sleep, I'm just sat (downstairs now) chain smoking Sad

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SoleSource · 27/12/2014 22:10

Sent you PM

ohdearitshappeningtome · 27/12/2014 22:10

Phone the police.

fluffling · 27/12/2014 22:10

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SoleSource · 27/12/2014 22:11

He knows you have nobody and treats you this wasy.

fluffling · 27/12/2014 22:12

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Dowser · 27/12/2014 22:13

How about I text and one text only. Don't get into a txt war.

Do not contact me any more
I'm going to sleep now
Do not come home
The door is locked
The police are monitoring the house throughout the night
You will be permitted to call tomorrow at 10 am for your belongings providing you can bring someone with you who will assure your good behaviour.