Sat in bed crying my eyes out

[SatInBedCrying]

Don't even know what just happened, DH has a few friends round for drinks, ive been sat in living room out the way then decided fuck it I'm going to the pub, told dp my plans and he wasn't amused

Anyway as I'm getting my coat on i hear him say "if i knew she was going out i would have got the strippers in" he intended me to hear that, so in a lighthearted way looked into kitchen and said "i heard that" and laughed.

Now ive just spent the last 10 mins being screamed at by DH for "ruining his night" and "showing him up in front of his mates" he's told me he wants nothing more to do with me, i can just fuck off etc

Now ive fucked the pub off, cant go out looking like this, I'm sat in bed crying wondering what the fuck ive actually done to deserve the abuse ive just gotten. I feel humiliated in front of his friends and i haven't even done anything.

Who was supposed to be looking after them?

If my husband ever spoke to me like that I would divorce him. Redo your face and go and find someone to talk to. I would probably stay elsewhere tonight then go home tomorrow and go mental at him. Complete arsehole.

I wouldn't be leaving the DC's with someone who sounds drunk.

There's only one here and he's fast asleep, other is at a relatives, was only going for an hour and told me if he needed me to come back just text, pub is only up the road and im not a big drinker anyway, just getting out of the way really

Well that's partly why I'm not going now, he's clearly more pissed than i thought he was

What a twat you didn't deserve that at all sorry :(

Do you have any reason (other than his abusive language) to believe either you or your child are in danger if he carries on drinking? Can you give him a duvet and show him the sofa? (Even better ask one of his mates to take him back to their's and lock the door)

In purely practical terms, if it is YOUR house you'd be perfectly within your rights to punt him out, change the locks and really give him something to whinge about.

Either way, no excuse for his behaviour.

I would be careful trying to throw out an abusive drunk tbh. I would speak to one of his mates if you have the chance.

Please tell me you aren't going to stay with him you need to take your dcs out of this situation.

Don't throw them out - at the moment the only person who's behaved like a wanker is him. And certainly the only person who's been shown up in front of his mates is him.

Are you sure he's only drinking? That sounds like a coke-fuelled rant to me.

What a horrid misogynistic man. He has no respect for you at all, saying he would get the strippers in and calling you a silly bitch! Why are you with this arsehole? The way you have described him, he makes my skin crawl. He won't make you happy or be a good partner in the future. I'd seriously be reconsidering my relationship if a man spoke to me like him. He doesn't deserve you, kick his sorry arse out love!

No point, they're all pissed.

He's just this second come up asking if I'D calmed down ??? I told him he better get the fuck out of my face. He said id almost ruined his night, that i was just lingering around and "listening in" (as if im fucking interested in what a bunch of alcoholic cunts have to say) i should go and get my own friends and my own life instead of bringing his down, and was repeatedly called a moron.

Oh and was told "this was your chance, i came up here to be nice and you fucking mouth off"

I'm ready to smash his face in.

What a nasty misogynist, is he usually like this? Is the house in both names? I would go down and ask him and his mates to leave.

He better not be doing fucking coke or i will actually kill him

Well isn't he just a charmer? :(

He's clearly had a lot to drink, so not work discussing anything with, tonight. He'll be sleeping on the sofa, though and I'm sure you'll have lots of his mess to vacuum up at about 8am, before having some strong words with him.

The lack of respect he showed you in front of his mates was way overboard, before he even started screaming. He should be fucking embarrassed at himself.

op, he is a cutnt

why are you with him ?

cunt, even

And just x-posted with his latest diatribe.

Talk about alcohol and true colours

I am open mouthed unable to believe that a grown man would treat his wife with so much disrespect, and in front of other people to top it all.
There would be no way back for me, where there is no respect there cannot be any love.

Why do women put up with men like this? Get rid of him, he'll never change.

He has humiliated you. You feel degraded and you seem frightened of him. I think you are in your bedroom away from him as you don't want to cause a scene in front of your child.

Is he always making you dislike yourself?

OP, back off with telling him to get the fuck out of your face.
The sentiment is fine, the language is misplaced. Don't add fuel. Be as calm as you can, stick to "leave me alone" and if he shouts at you in response, call the police.

You simply should not stay with someone who calls you a silly bitch.

Well, he's shown you who he is and what he thinks of you. You need to think practically about how you can remove him from your life before he causes any more harm.