Dry 6

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This is the thread for the alcohol free. Happy and hopeful, continuing from Dry 5 here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a2137624-DRY-5?msgid=50943574
Whether it's been an hour, a day, a week or a year, join us here.

Morning all!
Sydney thank you :) I am so bloody excited I can't wait for Monday to get here. Can't lapse now can I?
Ivedunnit welcome from me too
Blowing a gale here - no running today!

Missed that completely Lucy! sorry! well done .

Welcome from me Ivedunnit. I found it particulary hard the first few weekends the dc went to dads, lots of getting changed early into the PJs helped or going for a run. Read a book, binge on Netflix, paint your nails, whatever makes you happy. Now the way I look at it at least I'm getting a proper rest. Before I would have drank, not achieved much the next day and not felt like I'd had a day or two to relax. I was as tired when they returned as I was when they headed off and the weekend was wasted slumping about.

Well done Lucy, that's fantastic!!

Go you shiong for dealing with the cp booze free.

nc for this.

I have just been to an AA meeting. A supposed 'friend' got out of the meeting and spoke to my husband. in my opinion this is out of order and against all al; principles.

That sounds dreadful I had to leave as because the particular groups I went to had some very odd ideas.

What are you going to do?

Oh no mortil what on earth were they playing at? I would find that a huge abuse of trust.

Well done Lucy

mortil that is awful - I would be livid.

All going well here. Am out tomorrow for lunch but am driving so "safe."

Out again next weekend and a friend as already texted to say "Let's get the bus so we can drink" and I haven't replied. I think I will say I am doing Dry Jan so will drive everyone.

There is a particular group of friends that I feel awkward about not drinking with but I guess it is because they are all hardened drinkers and they will see my non drinking as an issue.

mortil I'm so sorry to hear that and angry on your behalf How are you?
leftie Thanks and Dry January is great cover for next week-end :)

hi all
mortil, if you have a sponsor in AA tell them, if not tell who ever chairs the meeting.Golden rule, who you see in the room, hear in the room STAYS in the room.
To the lady struggling with evenings, sorry not good with the names, early to bed, keep busy with anything, jigsaws, word searches, games on your tablet.
Lucy, job sounds great, if you were in AA they would tell you it was meant to be, not getting previous job higher power and all that

Thank you for your support yesterday. Im still angry at her though. I texted her last night to let her know that I thought she was out of order. She doesn't
see it as a problem at all. I have just always felt that meetings were safe places and the whole principles around anonymity is broken when she felt it was ok to discuss my recovery with my husband. She said it was only to support me

mortil I'm with stayingdry - you need to follow this up with the fellowship. It's that kind of renegade behaviour that creates bad feeling and criticism of the organisation.

stayingdry thank you and indeed

Stayingdry and Lucy. Unfortunately she IS my sponsor. Or should I say Was. I will make a fuss though. And I don't want feel intimidated.

Oh god NO. Bloody hell :(

appalling!

Just popping on quickly to say Mortil I'm so sorry your sponsor has acted so inappropriately. And to say - good luck to Lucy re the work at the recovery centre. That is truly amazing!

Still not drinking in Oz. As a small aside I have had NO jetlag and I'm sure having had no alcohol has helped massively. Might get it on the way home of course.

Thank you lovely :)
Go you!

That is dreadful mortil. I don't know much about AA but I know that anonymity is at the absolute core of its beliefs. Good luck getting a new sponsor and sorting it out.

I'm 171 days today. I really didn't think I'd still be counting days but hey ho, I do quite like seeing them tick by.

I listened to the most fantastic Bubble Hour the other day - about Codependence here. Just wanted to share it as I think the discussion between the hosts is so frank and really resonated with me. Codependency is apparently very common in those who have addictions/problems with alcohol etc, and highly linked to perfectionism - another issue entirely.. :)

Really tough weekend with my DC this weekend. Just found it all so wearing, the constant moaning etc. 8.55am this morning could not come fast enough!

Motil, that's pretty shocking. I don't know what you're situation is but what did your husband say?

Haggis - have fun out there!

Teapot, 171 days is fantastic. Well done!

Me and my wife have got through the weekend without issue. Couple of 'hmmmm, could do with a beer' moments but nothing to really test our resolve. Still early days but not missing it. Haven't been on a night out or out for a meal yet though :/ Friends over next weekend and I'm fully expecting my wife to have a few, I'll be abstaining though.

rb32 my husband was a bit taken back but didn't say anything to her at the time. Ive got to find another sponsor and be careful not to let this get in the way of my connection to AA

Speak to her sponsor then chick.If jts affecting your state of mind and your clear head and thinking, needs sorting.
I'm a sponsor and it's an incredibly responsible posution, particularly when you're getting to step 4 and 5.
Everyone I know seem to be suffering January blues at the moment, keeping my defences up.Trying to go to a meeting before my shifts at the pub, keeping my gratitude and serenity. good job yesterday really, got work at 6.30pm to start to find
my line manager pissed

Thanks for the support people. Still hanging in there. mortil2 I would be raging also and would make a big fuss.
Any tips for handling meals or nights out?

Morning all
Well done Ivedunnit and keep going rb32 :)
Just wanted to let you know that DeirdrenKen and I have been busy and we're in the process of organising a Club Soda social in our city. They already have lots going on in London and are spreading now to cities like Edinburgh and Norwich. You could do this too wherever you live and would be a good way of meeting like-minded folk! So ours is on Sunday 25th January in the evening and we'd like to invite you! If you are interested then drop me a PM here on Mumsnet and I can tell you where it is

Good job ladies, great idea and hope it goes well. When are you starting the new post Lucy?

Been finding the last couple of weeks very easy, only thought once briefly about a drink. Automatically go to click the kettle these days rather than hanker over a wine. Perhaps those times stopping before has been good practice. Visited the liver ward last week and it would be enough to put anyone off. They should do that for drinkers here, like they do in the US showing troubled kids around jails. Know some patients would be in for the likes of pbc and not alcohol, still scary enough. I honestly can't see it as anything but a poison now, the thought of it makes me feel sick (wish I could say the same for cigarettes) Keeping my guard up though.

Hope everyone is well and strong

brokensleep new post started on Monday - loved it :)
Great job yourself too! Yep time on a liver ward has that effect! I think it's why I stopped before things got any worse. Having worked on a similar ward I knew where the road ended and I didn't want that :( We used to say the same thing but I'm not sure it would work as we all thing we're the exception to the rule don't we? One poison at a time hey?

Sadly she passed away A life cut down far too short. A life that should have seen a good more years, more happy moments. More books to read, holidays to take, kids married and grandkids to play with. Alcoholism is cruel. It sneaks in when you're weak and down with promises to make you feel better and batters you down further until it makes you theirs and your world revolves around it.