Shaking - help me, shall I go to confront DH

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I am shaking please could I have a bit of advice?

DH has had full rash over his body and also a chest infection so didn't go in to work today. I'm off on maternity leave.

He went to dr on weekend but lost his prescription so went to get another one also to see GP as OOH GP wasn't sure about rash.

He told me GP wants blood tests. I saw in his cupboard a blood test form saying 'STD check ' and convinced myself it was a 'standard check'...

He has just gone to his friends to get his lost prescription, as GP refused to give another.

I looked back in cupboard and I have found a leaflet from sexual health clinic saying to come back at 1 pm

Please help - shall I go to the clinic (about 10 min walk) and ask him wtf he is doing there?

He wa out till 5 am on Saturday

Has he fucked someone else?

Just sit him down tell him to cut the crap....hold the leaflet in your hand and ask him.

An allergy test!?
I've heard it all now.

He's smiling, grinning and saying - 'you think I'm up to something? I've got nothing to hide.'

The more I think about it the more I want to never lock eyes on him again. I am so frustrated!

Is he 13

Just make an appointment yourself for a full screening and walk out with your dignity.

What an arse

If someone said this to me I would laugh and say of course he's cheating!

Also didn't get the 'going to friends for lost prescription'?

No, twice that. Acting half that. He said dr told him to get blood test. He says the gum clinic do blood tests.

He is obviously lying.

Get yourself checked out.

I'm laughing, I can't believe this. I feel like I know he has fucked someone else - and there is nothing I can do about it!

He went to out of hours on weekend and went out that night until 5 am (what a dick, right). He couldn't find prescription yesterday to collect it and told me he had phoned his friend and ha left it at his house. He tells me he is going there later to get it.

Going out late has become a regular Occurrence. He would have so much time to cheat, that would be easy.

I feel like a mug

Now I'm crying

Yea..GUM Clinics do blood test...for certain STDs.

For a normal one it's usually the practice nurse at the GP's.

Sounds like he's lying. Sometimes people smile or laugh when they are very nervous / worried / anxious. Could explain that reaction. Or, he's a twat.

If he has compromised the health of you and your unborn baby you need to know....

Get yourself checked out.

He sounds vile.

Baby is here, we have two children. How/why could he do this? I feel like I've fallen off my perch and I want to get back on and pretend none of this has happened. I just asked him to clarify why he went to a GUM clinic for a standard blood test, he said he wanted to get STIs checked as well, but started to get defensive when I further pointed out that he couldn't get a standard check there at all!

He doesn't sound like he's taking anything seriously. I'm sorry.

Why did he say he 'wanted to get an std check'?

He said the nurse asked him if he had ever had a test done, and as he hadn't he decided to go get one done...

Sorry Op but the obvious is staring you in the face.

What nurse?

I really don't know what you do now.
If it were me, and with hindsight, I'd be asking him to leave the family home for a while so you can get your head straight without him in your space.
That's the usual advice and I sooo wish I'd discovered MN before my ExH did this.
Do NOT do the pick me dance. Keep you dignity.
This is gonna be a hard time right now.
Get your family and friends to rally round.
If you are likely to forgive and make a go of this then maybe just confide in 1 friend for now.
Keeping the secret was the worst thing I did!
Cup of sugary tea for you. This will be a shock and you'll need to hydrate and keep your sugar level up.
for you.

Sorry - GP was a nurse practitioner. He says I'm being unreasonable. I want to walk out the door and never come back. He's not taking me seriously at all. I am going to look into divorce.

I didn't think this sounded too bad when I first read it. As you know, doctors do often refer to GUM clinics if the symptoms match.

BUT he's lied to you about going to the GUM clinic, and he's lied to you about what it was for. And I can't think of a single reason for that, unless he has something to hide, or is hugely, hugely embarrassed about the STD checks. And he doesn't sound embarrassed at all.

Please get yourself checked out....

He is a disrespectful arse and is clearly lying.

Thank you so much. You are keeping me level headed.

Have told my friend, the nurse, who is coming over tomorrow to talk it through. God I want to run away.