Shaking - help me, shall I go to confront DH

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

I am shaking please could I have a bit of advice?

DH has had full rash over his body and also a chest infection so didn't go in to work today. I'm off on maternity leave.

He went to dr on weekend but lost his prescription so went to get another one also to see GP as OOH GP wasn't sure about rash.

He told me GP wants blood tests. I saw in his cupboard a blood test form saying 'STD check ' and convinced myself it was a 'standard check'...

He has just gone to his friends to get his lost prescription, as GP refused to give another.

I looked back in cupboard and I have found a leaflet from sexual health clinic saying to come back at 1 pm

Please help - shall I go to the clinic (about 10 min walk) and ask him wtf he is doing there?

He wa out till 5 am on Saturday

Has he fucked someone else?

[ravenmum]

As I understand it, he could have had syphilis in the latent form without passing it on to you. I'm not a doctor, though - just also been forced to do some testing lately :-S

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

He should have told me if he was worried about STIs though, we were in the house together half an hour ago! I tell him every time I go to the clinic for gynae stuff, sometimes they insist on full STI screening, I always let him know. And results have always been negative obviously...

[mrstiggy]

Have to be honest, I'd be waiting outside the door of the clinic for him too. Just to catch him off guard and make it impossible for him to deny it. Possibly the wrong thing to do but we are only human.
As for why he's there, well it could be a dozen of reasons other than the obvious I suppose. Problem is even if he tells you one of the other ones you obviously have reasons to suspect him so would you ever truly believe it?
Hope you manage to have a good long calm talk about this OP and it all turns out well for you whatever the answers.

[sandybeaches]

Sorry, hadn't quite understood the lying about going out bit. Thought he'd been upfront about the STI check, which you would hope he would be.

I hope it all works out ok for you xx

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

No I don't want a showdown! I'm not on Jeremy Kyle! I want to know if he's gone to the clinic without telling me!

[ravenmum]

If he hasn't been unfaithful, he's certainly been stupid, but there's still a tiny chance he was just trying to find out himself first, instead of scaring you by saying what he was doing.

I'd probably go as well, though it probably isn't a good idea. Can you hold it together well enough not to cause a huge scene?

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

So sorry, didn't mean to snap. I am typing and walking and I am so, so grateful you're all here to talk to.

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

I'm here. He isn't. He could be in with doc. Don't know what to do now.

[ravenmum]

Good luck anyway - sounds like he's making you suspect him, not a good thing in your situation.

[ravenmum]

Make an appointment for yourself?!

[Mama1980]

Sorry you've had a shock. I wouldn't automatically assume anything bad, as others have said I had a std check last month because the drs wanted to be extra thorough. I haven't had sex in about 3 years!
His lying could also be innocent they could expect a latent something and he wanted to deal himself rather than go with you.
I really hope it is.

[FelicityGubbins]

Just wait is all you can do, give it till 2.30 and then phone him and see where he is..

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

His phone is on divert. He text me to say he was having his blood test, at hospital. Feel like he will have missed his time slot at gum clinic as he forgot his leaflet. He might be going back there later. I don't know what to do.

I feel calmer now after a fizzy drink and fresh air.

[Tealady1983]

Go in say to receptionist i am just meeting husband I hope I've not missed him! See what she says

[MuthaHubbard]

I have had a full body rash before when I was given antibiotics - I had an allergic reaction.
Have also been known to get thrush after taking a course of antibiotics. Have also been recommended and std check when I had allergic arthritis in my knee

[MuthaHubbard]

*an std test

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

That's true Empire. I've come back home.

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

Have put leaflet back where I found it. Contacted friend who is a nurse. A standard blood check would be most likely FBC - full blood count.

[Letthemtalk]

You could always try the radical approach of asking him about it?

[Yikesivedoneitagain]

thanks Let Them. I did, he has said he went to the GUM clinic for an allergy test. I don't know whether to laugh or cry!!

[Only1scoop]

He needs to tell you straight exactly what is going on.

[hellsbellsmelons]

It's not looking good.
I would head home now and get writing all the things I need to ask.
Get some ideas from here as well.
But I'd probably just say, I know what you've been up to so you need to come clean and tell me all about it!
See his reaction and what he has to say.

Sorry about this. Hopefully some of the others are right about it being standard.
But... I doubt it.