Work Stress? Err don't think so mate!

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I can't copy and paste a link rather annoyingly - but this is my follow on thread from my original How far can he take the stressed from work excuse?

It burst at the seams with all the fantastic MN support I received and so I have started a new one as I carry on my journey of divorcing my very abusive husband.

What an arse, completely shows that he was making a point to elaborate that your social life has no value - he is way way way more important. Wouldn't surprise me if he didn't need to go to work at all, it was just to prove a point.

If need be, just tell him you got eczema under your rings (new detergent) and needed them off for a bit to let the steroids do their work. I have to leave my rings off regularly for this reason.

Good luck on Tuesday!

Pah, was an arse he is! Soon you'll fly free Name, not long thank goodness!

Thanks ladies

He is definitely being an arse. There's an atmosphere you could cut with a knife.

I've come out for a fag and he just glared at me through the window and angrily mouthed 'what are you doing?' To which I angrily mouthed back 'fuck off' - he then came to the door and said 'I meant what are you doing outside, you can smoke in here!'

So I said, err no, I have 2 children in there?

The countdown has begun. I reckon it'll be 10am ish on Tuesday he gets the papers. I make that 37 hours?

No doubt so he can hastily make a call to some other agency saying your heavy smoking is putting your kids at risk!

36 hours 55 minutes...

Haha yes probably outflew! Knob. One positive thing, the house is incredibly tidy and organised now. I'm looking at as a leaving present from him

Random

Keep safe until then, no drinking, try not to rise to his bait and hopefully he'll resist telling you how many O Levels he got and what the fucking grades were

for you

KOKO x

Fingers crossed for you name Hoping all goes well

it's just all part of his impulsive 'there's always a way to fix a problem' bollocks.

The problem is, he caused the problem and then is nonchalant about remedying it - not ok, no matter how you look at it. If you make plans, you stick to them, unless you have renegotiated those plans in a timely manner beforehand. That is how responsible adults behave in a partnership, and he is clearly telling you he is an arse and an irresponsible adult. They don't behave as if their actions which have put you out, are of no consequence to them or to you.

25 hours to go

And he is completely stone walling me. He is making it very clear how unhappy and disapproving he is. He has left now thank God. I slept with DD1 last night as couldn't face having to share a bed.

I know he will call me later, probably lunchtime and give me an absolute bollocking and then will come home tonight in the same mood.

Thanks Zazzles that is exactly what I think too but he will never see it like that I,e reasonably.

Agreed Fantastic, absolutely no drinking and no rising to any of this. I just carry on in the silence, and don't argue back. I busied myself in getting the kids ready for school etc and avoided as much as possible being around him. Thanks Oow

Just one more night and morning to get through

Not long to go, hold it together. Could you "forget to charge your phone" today?

(Not really of course but as an excuse for turning it off at lunchtime!)

If he rings at lunchtime and asks you out for a drink or dinner this evening, have your excuses ready. Do NOT go out with him this evening. You will soon be rid.

I have been lurking on this thread for a long time, being freshly inspired by your strength with every new post, name. I've not posted before because I've no advice to give, but now I want to say that I'm getting butterflies in my stomach on your behalf for tomorrow. I think you're an amazing woman and my fingers are firmly crossed that everything will go exactly as planned for you, and that you will soon be free of that awful excuse for a man.

You are, quite simply, awesome.

Don't answer it at lunchtime. Fuck that.

What the hell is he disapporoving of now? He's still narky cos you got annoyed with him? Or is this about your "attitude" in general since?

He's exhausting. Less of the answering phonecalls to him, I think. Whats the point now? So what if he gets narkier again? He can't stop whats coming.

When you have a minute today and it's quiet. Stand still and listen to the silence, the peace and listen to the person that is inside you. In a very short space of time now you will be getting a lot more silence, peace, peace of mind, ability to listen to your own thoughts free of him messing with them. Your abilities as a person and as a good human being and a good mum will no longer be twisted to fit some tossers view of you. You won't have to deal with his poxy polar personality around you on a minute to minute basis. OMG how good is that going to feel? Of course you will still have to deal with him regarding the kids but it will be sooo much more manageable as he will have so little control once it's all over.
It will be like coming out of jail but having to see the parole officer now and again - a small price to pay!
Never look back and regret divorcing this absolute bastard Name just pity the next poor woman that gets near him! THIS IS YOUR LAST FULL DAY OF IT!

Still cheerleading for you over here

Not posted but have been silently cheering you on from the sidelines.

Good luck op, sending you strength from Malaysia

More cheering you on from New Zealand, you can do it, nearly there now, we are all behind you

Gosh thank you everybody

Anna yes this is all because 1) I dared to be annoyed at him letting me down on Saturday and 2) probably the pub on Friday where he absolutely (and unbelievably) denied that he had asked me out for drinks about 4 times after contacting AA about me. I have my mother as witness to it though and I have this thread to go back on and check the dates.

Thank you Poirot and Barbie for your lovely words

Dinnae that was so lovely, thank you I will stand and take a moment listening to and feeling the silence. hope you and your lovely DH are well

Bland, Fantastic yes I have decided I am not going to answer if he calls, although if I don't answer he will probably keep trying as the day wears on. And absolutely definitely won't be going out anywhere with him although thankfully he won't ask anyway as it's Monday and he may probably be late.

In a perverse way I have got what I wanted - I wanted him being blatantly horrible to me when I served papers and not Mr Lovely, so for that I am grateful.

Haha thanks 50shades!! Wow worldwide support

Your thread has gone international

Cheering you on from Southampton UK, hoping that tomorrow goes as smoothly for you as it possibly can and that the fuckwit goes quietly.

Not very clever, is he, in spite of his impressive 2:1. My ehx still talks about his former 'police career' (six months as a police cadet donkeys years ago before he was thrown out for being physically unfit). He also boasts about his history degree although I know that he dropped out of college after two terms because he couldn't cope with the work.

to you, name. Love from bbf x

TheName I am oh-so-slightly well jel of you seeing the light before your instigate your divorce. But enough about me. Keep calm, be a paragon of virtue when he pushes all your buttons, and you'll be absolutely fine.

"Tick Tock, Tick Tock".