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My DH just sent me this text by mistake

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 01:52

Am going tell my mrs i left yours earlish in night about 10 n went to pub next t mine.sorry t put it on ya she probs wont ask but just in case mate. Cheers

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No idea what to think

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DarceyBustle · 31/08/2014 01:56

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bustrainwalkwalk · 31/08/2014 01:58

I don't think it means he's cheating on you if that's what you're worrying about.

Is he on his way home? Was he with someone this evening?

Sounds like he's been at that person's house all night but for some reason feels your rather hear he's only been there a bit then been at the pub since if that makes sense.

CheerfulYank · 31/08/2014 02:01

I think same as bus.

What do you think?

CheerfulYank · 31/08/2014 02:02

Wait. Upon further reading...I don't know. Sorry! What are you going to do?

thornrose · 31/08/2014 02:02

Are you going to let him know he sent it to you? He's certainly going to get that sinking feeling when he realises you've read it.

I don't think it necessarily means anything bad IMO.

bloodyteenagers · 31/08/2014 02:05

I thinks that maybe he wasn't even at the intended recipient of the text.

bustrainwalkwalk · 31/08/2014 02:06

Well it's obviously bad as in not good as the cheeky sod planned to lie to you.

I would not text back. Wait til he gets in and don't mention the text at first. If he doesn't realise he's sent it to you (he may not if he's drunk) then you have the upper hand to ask the questions you want to let him tell his lie and then you can try and work out the truth.

bloodyteenagers · 31/08/2014 02:08

Oops posted too soon.
I would play it very, very calm.
I would ask him casually how was his evening.
I would listen to the crock of crap he told me.
Then either I would laugh at myself, then let him know about the text..
Or I would tell him to pack his shit and fuck off from my life. And for the lying sack of shit to learn how text works.
Would depend on, how his evening went.

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted · 31/08/2014 02:09

He was setting up an alibi for where he's been this evening. The real questions are: who was he really with and who is the hoped-for alibi. Of course, the answer to the second question will be clear when she asks where he's been. Getting a straight answer to the first is rather more tricky.

lunar1 · 31/08/2014 02:09

It doesn't sound good does it, I would wait and see what he says when he gets back. I can't think of a reason to lie about being at a friends.

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:10

I didn't read it til he came in, he'd already told me he's been to pub before I even read it
He'd been to match earlier dropped out ds off at mates
Then got a text to say he was going fishing but said they decided on pub instead and were in one particular pub
He told me he left there (alone) and went to pub (from text) and had few pints , he hasn't mentioned being at anyone's house !

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:10

He's in bed next to me! Don't think he realises

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latika · 31/08/2014 02:12

Can you get his phone and see what other texts / calls he's made?

MagpieMama · 31/08/2014 02:13

You're only going to know by asking him and judging his immediate reaction. Is he asleep? I'd be tempted to wake him and ask!

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:15

His phones near him , don't think he's asleep yet

How the hell will I sleep now !

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NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 31/08/2014 02:17

I agree he is setting up an alibi for some reason. I'm sorry to say...
When I read your OP I thought it sounds like he's getting someone to cover for him.
So where did he go after dropping off DS? And what time did he drop him off.
Do you know who the text was meant to be for?
Hope I'm wrong but it does sound dodgy.

bloodyteenagers · 31/08/2014 02:17

You ask him if he is awake.
Then you ask him about his evening.

CheerfulYank · 31/08/2014 02:18

I'd snoop like hell, tbh. Wait til he's asleep and go through his phone.

Under normal circs I wouldn't but in this case, you bet your boots.

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:18

I presumed he was with the others who were at match particularly the one he was going to fish with

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NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 31/08/2014 02:19

I'd wait till he was asleep and check the phone, maybe delete his message to you so he doesn't realise.

NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 31/08/2014 02:19

X post cheerful.
I wouldn't normally snoop either but after that text, go for it.

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:19

If he has been up to anything I will be completely incredulous - I've had a terrible year and my granda and dad have just died and my mum is in hospital after being critically ill

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felttippens · 31/08/2014 02:22

Bloodyteenagers - I've had that convo with him before I even read it he said he'd been to pub (mentioned in text) but didn't mention the mates house

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Elllimam · 31/08/2014 02:22

Hope it's nothing but I agree it's worth checking his phone xx

NotTheKitchenAgainPlease · 31/08/2014 02:23

Sorry you have had such an awful time of it *
He may not be cheating - but why set up an alibi?
Does he leave his phone unlocked?

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