My DH just sent me this text by mistake

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Am going tell my mrs i left yours earlish in night about 10 n went to pub next t mine.sorry t put it on ya she probs wont ask but just in case mate. Cheers

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No idea what to think

To be honest, after my own crappy experience (of a lying toe rag as an ex) is say one lie, for whatever reason is too much.

I am so sorry that you have been through so much lately. That is an awful lot to deal with.

If it was me, I'd go and see my Mum then come home and say to him what Polomium said why are you asking people to cover for your whereabouts lat night? Where were you and why are you involving our friends in your deception? And tell him no bullshit because you have no spare energy for lies

I'd do it after I had seen my Mum so that a) I would just look tired/numb not in a right state and b) so I wasn't under any pressure when I got home.

I'm with those that say 'One lie is one too many' and once you can't trust someone, it's really not worth it anymore.

I've spoken to him

He reckons the lie was because he drove the car home after drinking at initial pub and friends house , he parked it up at local pub and his story was going to be that he drive there sober, after leaving friends house at 10 got drunk there and walked home

That fits actually. But now you have to face he's been drink driving, the stupid Gobshite. Hope you ripped him a new one Op.

Yep that makes sense - not a good excuse for lying (and as scarlet says - he's a complete knob for drink driving) but at least it's not one of the other possible reasons.

Do you believe him?

I think that makes complete sense. If was with another woman then why would he need an alibi for his whereabouts? He had already told you he was at the pub so wouldn't need a friend to pretend he was at his house.

Sounds plausible.
But why did he delete the text?
Just keep an eye out OP

Also, if he was wanting his mate to be able to vouch for his whereabouts then surely he would have asked him to say they were together all evening, not to say he left at 10.

Do you believe him? That does make a lot of sense. Still strange that all messages deleted.

Is it an iphone? If so, you can find deleted stuff in the spotlight search.
So sorry.

Think the leaving at ten was for me to believe that when the car was driven it was sober until he got to the local pub

The thing is, it sounds plausible but who knows, he's demonstrated he's prepared to lie - reeling from the fact he's obviously not as trustworthy as I've always thought - I'm sure this isn't the first time he's done this just the first time he's messed up by sending the text

Feeling :( and very tired from worrying all night

Thank goodness!! Not the brightest move ever but it is refreshing to hear that there was no OW involved which is sadly all too often the case with weird texts.

But why delete texts and phone calls?

Yes, I would find the deleted texts and phone calls worrying. Also would be shaken by the idea that he is able to so casually and easily lie to you. Not a great development IMO.

Drink driving is incredibly irresponsible. Lying is corrosive. Asking friends to collude with a lie doesn't say much about either him or the friend. Hope he has the decency to apologise, knock his pub trips on the head for a good long time, make it up to you and start being more supportive rather than a fresh source of stress.

can you do a spotlight search, if it is an iphone?

What's this spotlight search? Can you delete from there? I can't work out how to see messages that are deleted.

No, it is linked to the itunes account. Do a search on your computer that stores your itunes account. Search with key words.

Hmmm I see. And can they be deleted?

Well, no, I don't believe they can. Unless Itunes is reset.

I don't like that.

I can't find anything. I tried to do a search but my s (for spotlight) doesn't work

Could you have a look at a few bank statements to see if there is anything out of place?