My DH just sent me this text by mistake

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Am going tell my mrs i left yours earlish in night about 10 n went to pub next t mine.sorry t put it on ya she probs wont ask but just in case mate. Cheers

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No idea what to think

Who is the mate who he failed to mention?

Normally i would never advise going through someones phone etc but as soon as hes asleep....

The text arrived just before you started the thread?

Maybe he didn't mention the friend's house because he did not hear back from the friend.

I think I know pin for phone
He's a very light sleeper don't know if I'll get it

He doesn't seem drunk enough for the amount of time he says he's been to pub

Sorry but I would be waking him up. I would not be able to sleep not knowing.

It does not mean the worst OP he may just think you would get angry if he went to the pub instead of fishing and didn't want an argument so decided to lie.

I have to admit I'd go through his phone. Sorry you've been dealing with so much. :(

Oh ok it didn't. What time did the text arrive then?

But...if this is another woman or such like surely he wouldnt get an alibi in case his alibi (1) Refuses and asks questions (2) lets slip....or am i being naive? I know what i mean!!

The text arrived 01:27 presumably as he was on his way in I didn't read it until the first time I looked at phone after he came in

It does not mean the worst OP he may just think you would get angry if he went to the pub instead of fishing and didn't want an argument so decided to lie.

Could it be this?

If he's not asleep why not just ask him?

It can't be to avoid me knowing he was in pub as he'd already text me earlier on saying he was in a pub, I presumed he'd be in there until he came home
He then comes home 1:30am says he left that pub and went to another

Then I read the text

It may not be cheating but it will be something he doesn't want treading to know about.
I don't know, what's your gut telling you OP?

Hmm. That isn't good.

But...if this is another woman or such like surely he wouldnt get an alibi in case his alibi (1) Refuses and asks questions (2) lets slip....or am i being naive? I know what i mean!!

Bless your pure heart Fixer I think you are being naive. That was a man to man text written with complete confidence that the friend would cover him.

I don't want to ask him yet
A. I want him to realise when he looks at phone b
B. I really don't want a big middle of the night row

So emotionally wrecked can't summon energy for this

Yes I agree arsenic.
He wasn't where he says he was, I think that's clear. Especially as the text was sent so late... He sent it just before he went home.

If he's not asleep why not just ask him?

Because as soon as she does that ik8 she tips him off that she knows something. Then if he's up to something, he deletes and bullshits

Whatever this is sorry you are having this stress and worry in top of everything you have been through

Again I agree ^^

Can you get his phone when he is asleep and delete that message so he isn't tipped off? If it isn't there and he remembers sending it, he mag wonder but at least he won't be alerted to the fact that you know he is hiding something.

Just tried to get phone can't see it

Is he asleep?

It can't be to avoid me knowing he was in pub as he'd already text me earlier on saying he was in a pub, I presumed he'd be in there until he came home
He then comes home 1:30am says he left that pub and went to another

You are convinced he was at the pub for part of the night? If so, he doesn't want you to know he was there all evening? But he then told you that he was there all evening

Well look, even if he changed his mind about part of the story, there was somewhere he was that he didn't want you to know.

It could be to do with a woman. Or it could be something or someone else you disapprove or would't like.

Gambling? Or Dog fighting? Petty shadiness? Drugs?

What might fit?

I bet your heart's pounding. What a sod.

Drugs might fit

There is a history there