My DH just sent me this text by mistake

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Am going tell my mrs i left yours earlish in night about 10 n went to pub next t mine.sorry t put it on ya she probs wont ask but just in case mate. Cheers

?????

No idea what to think

I know. Whatever it is it's such a wanky thing because even if he is y cheating he is getting someone you know to be part of a deception and that is really really out of order.
The phone might be under the pillow - is it charging?

So it could be something that isn't cheating. That's good (in a way). Unless he's a proper addict?

Maybe the friend he texted was someone he was using with? Getting his story straight?

He's not a proper addict

Has long term off and on used cannabis

Very occasional coke use (once every two years kind of thing)

Don't know why he'd need an alibi tho

Whatever it is it's such a wanky thing because even if he is y cheating he is getting someone you know to be part of a deception and that is really really out of order.

Yeah. Admire the OP's cool though.

So much better than yelling first.

Did he look stoned or high? If he's been off somewhere having a really good session he might have thought he wouldn't be able to go and get enough beer on board to make the pub story convincing? But then you were convinced.

Or do you think a woman is still possible too?

Is talking it the possibilities through helping or shall I STFU?

My cool is odd really - I've been a bit numb for a little while think in reaction to traumatic events

A month ago I had to leave my dad's bedside to go and say goodby to my mum who wasn't expected to survive an operation to try and save her life - id nursed him for a week , he died while my mum was in theatre

think I'm still in shock

Me too. But it is much more sensible to wait. I don't know that I wouldn't have waded in straight away, but it is much smarter to wait and see.
Any idea where the phone is?
If his occasional use isn't an issue then why would he lie? Because he is lying... Can't be coke surely if he's already in bed?

Oh honey. Im sorry for all you have went through. I think in this situation just ask him out right, and judge the reaction. You deserve to be treated with even more love right now, and making up an alibi really doesn't fall into that category.

Oh sweetheart. And he's doing this shit

I was in bed so haven't seen him in light, can't smell dope on him which I normally could

He doesn't seem drunk enough to have drunk all day as he claims

But if he was high doesn't seem to have had any problem zonking to sleep when he came in

And yes , Thankyou, definitely helping ! X

How long have you been married?

Get the phone. Look for it. He'll be asleep and you could be getting anything so he won't bother looking at you. Then go read in another room

Together 13 years married for nearly 10

3 kids

You say you can't smell dope, can you smell anything from him?

No can't smell anything - I hate the smell of dope and normally smell it a mile off

Do you want to know? Or is the fact he's sending alibi texts a big enough deal anyway?

So sorry treading. I cross posted before. What a horrific thing. So sorry for your loss

Oh honey. Either get the phone and look through it (if you're comfortable with that) or be honest in the morning and demand an explanation. What's your gut telling you?

It's a huge deal that he is lying and involving others in that - that's the bottom line , he's a liar so therefore doubt what he says and won't trust him
I can't imagine him doing anything with anyone else but I'm sure that's normal too!

I can't imagine him doing anything with anyone else but I'm sure that's normal too!

Seems to be.

I've yet to meet the person who could imagine it before it happened.

Have you got anything happening tomorrow?

Just getting back to school uniforms sorted and visiting my mum in hospital

Wish I could find phone !!!

Where does he normally leave it at night?

Found it!!!!
Nothing on it!
Not even the message to me????

No calls made since 7pm and no texts