Broke up with my ex 3 and a half weeks ago. We'd been together almost 2yrs. At first he was angry and that was fine. I was very clear, everytime he asked in that first week, that it was 100% over. I had many reasons and felt he'd never change and I'd been very stressed and unhappy for months before.
The second week I'd asked him not to contact me and then got a few texts after that but he eventually left it. After lots of emotionally manipulative texts. I'm talking long essays about how sad he is/misses me & DS (not his and he was crap with him when we were together)/his family are upset/other kids keep asking after DS.
Then yesterday, after a week and a half of no contact (thank god, I thought that was it) he contacted me out of the blue with another guilt-trippy essay and begged me to just talk to him for a few minutes. It caught me off guard so I stupidly agreed as he said he just wanted to ask after DS etc (I am such a bloody idiot). He almost managed to talk me into meeting yesterday but I just said I couldn't handle it/didn't trust him not to try and beat me submission (not physically!) like he had been since we split. He really seemed to think enough harassment would win me back! 
He sent lots of texts that I ignored after that begging to come over for just fifteen minutes and I was actually really creeped out all night. It was crap and every sound had me on edge (I live in a ground floor flat and needed the windows open as it was so hot)!
I replied in the morning saying please don't contact me. I asked you not to contact me before. To which he sent another essay begging to come over/we need to be together/give it a chance and I just saw red. I don't want to feel scared in my own home!! So I threatened to call 101 (and meant it). Was sent a reply along the lines of 'I can't believe you'd threaten that when I'm just telling you I love you' 
Err I asked you not to contact me twice, in plain terms and you're scaring me. He has form for ignoring me wrt to boundary issues anyway.
I wasn't being OTT was I!?
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Did I do the right things by threatening to contact the police or was I OTT?
CharlieBrookerScowl · 06/07/2014 08:55
Twunt WPC? The crap PO? I haven't yet
He certainly hasn't changed, has just likely found someone else he likes the look of/given up after the 2nd visit.
I'd feel obliged to do similar for someone else if they found themselves in that position with him, certainly. It really helps to know it's them and their 'isshoos', not you or yours 
Oh I really do. Have already thanked her a lot
Was wondering if it would be therapeutic for you to get together with her for a character assassination debrief? A kind of survivors of twunt ex support group? 
Or perhaps you feel that would just be fuelling the whole sorry saga, when all you want to do is disconnect?
Just a thought.
We kinda did via fb...Classy
Don't wanna do anymore though, just trying to move on
Helped though!
Got shit off his sister today.
Noted obvs and seems to be of her own accord. She's a fiery one!
All how dare you, he's heartbroken, it wasn't harassment etc, just desperation blah blah fucking blah
Am ok though
They can't contact me on FB due to being premptively blocked (and haven't yet had any of them bother making new profiles to do it on so I doubt they would).
Yeah, tbh his family aren't all that bright they're very shouty and have been petty about other stuff in the past and I think they just believed him. Don't think they realize that the police don't issue warnings to 6"2 bananas
It is like trying to leave the Mafia...But just makes me so relieved I'm out of it well pretty much!
Tbh he's not contacting me and that's all I'm bothered by. My skin isn't that thin and they're just being pathetic by getting involved.
And by tomorrow they'll have to show up at my house to harass me, which I'm sure the police will think is hi-lariouuuuuus
I think anyone with any sense will know that's the case. Anyone stupid enough to think the police can't sniff out the difference between drama-queen BS and genuine harassment or who thinks I would stoop to that level isn't actually worth my time.
Though it is tempting
Yeah maybe, but they have to come visit me even if I just log something.
I don't see how they can do it once I've changed numbers, they'll grow bored and think I'm just ignoring it entirely (well I am ignoring it but you know what I mean). Plus I got the news that I can bid for a different place now (on the hsouing register) so me and DS should be moving very soon as we're overcrowded and the place we're in is in 'disrepair' (not that bad to look at but is coming down next year with all the others on the street) so we have extra points, which means it'll be a fast process
Quite excited!
May keep the old SIM card but never use it (unless they find another way to contact me in which case I can use i'll check the SIM and may be able to use any further texts as evidence)
But it's gone 100% quiet on exes front, thankfully.
Fair point. I did say seriously tempted... it was all I thought about doing when my flaming mother and her hideous H came battering down my doors one time. 'But she's your mother...
;)
Wonder if telling the housing people that you're suffering harassment might speed things up further?
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