Wondering if he spiked my drinks...

[heyho1919]

Third date we went for dinner. He was driving and i ended up drinking quite a lot, but less than i have done on many occasions! He ended up back at my house and the obvious happened. For the ext few days i felt like i've never felt before, felt like i was going ot pass out, palpitations, etc. Felt ill for about a week. I'm wondering if he might have put something in my drinks? Or maybe it was just a stange reaction.. Any thoughts?

You're right. If everthing felt fine about this guy, then i wouldn't be posting on here.

Hmmm a very sensitive topic indeed.

So you got a bit hammered (although didn't drink all that much). Then you slept with him and felt very odd the next day yes?

If you feel uncomfortable with that then just dump him. Something doesn't sit with you, or perhaps you're a bit embarrassed because he was sober. Who knows except you.

But if you don't feel right, just learn from it and move on. Stay safe

Remind me again wht the lies were. I posted on that thread i'm sure, but what with everything that's happened this week, I can't recall.

If you don't mind, of course heyho :)

Isn't there a phoneline you can call about drugs? Perhaps if you called them and asked if what you felt was consistent with being drugged, that may help one way or another.

I agree that you should give this man a wide berth and that comment about being too drunk but not wanting to leave got me worried too.

BTW, offering a slightly different perspective on the symptoms after drinking. The last time I overreacted to drinking I was unknowingly pregnant, and other people have reported the same. Make sure that's not the issue. Condoms are not 100% effective.

Iirc he didn't say she was 'too drunk' he said she'd drank a lot. The OP has said she was a bit drunk but could remember everything.

The issue about lies was resolved - he offerred a very pausible explanation and i felt confidnet he was telling the truth

OP, seriously.

Let this one go. There are other men in the world!

He did say then next day he was worried that i was so drunk when we did anything and he should have been a gentleman and gone home but "he didn't want to"

Well I've texted him to say i dont think we're right for eachother, he asked why and i just said i regretted what happened when he came back to mine, things were moving too fast and was bothered by some of the things he said - no reply from him

Thanks eddie :) I feel a bit sad as i did like some things about him - but something just didn't feel comfortable - ie the comments about my appearance, what he said about he should have gone home but didn't, the cost of tickets, etc...

Well done! Now make sure you stick to it.

Oh, goodness, well done! All those things are sacking offences. Hurray for you, you've just reinforced your boundaries and affirmed YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT [pompoms]

Yay! Well done you.
if its not right its not right.
no need to drag it out any longer

Now he's texted to ask me to pay him back for the tickets as they "were a treat for me" I thought he'd paid for a cancellation add on buy he says he can only get a voucher for another show not a refund

Tell him to put them on eBay and himself while he's at it.

Has this bloke no shame at all?

Ignore.

Block if you can.

Do. Not. Engage.

I do feel bad about the tickets as althought it was his suggestion - I chose the show. I was thinking i could ask him to send me the voucher, then send me the money, then nobody's lost out?

Ignore him, you have no responsibility for him

I know I'm not responsible for him but feel a bad he's lost money becuase i dumped him...

Sorry that should have read - "I was thinking i could ask him to send me the voucher, then send HIM the money, then nobody's lost out?

Look.

This bloke's asked if you were damaged, cos he said you looked weird/odd/whatever.

He definitely took advantage of you when you were supposedly inebriated.

He may have been the reason for it.

He's been odd from the start, and now, when he's shunted you over the line, which is way past what others would tolerate, he's mithering about the price of tickets.

HE DID THIS. He fucked this up by being an odd, nasty, weirdo.

Potentially a dangerous one.

Block him. Now.

i would ask for tickets and pay him through paypal when you get them. then take a friend and have a great time.