Given a set amount of money - wrong?

[whynowblowwind]

DH gives me a set amount of cash every week for expenses (SAHM.) it is a perfectly generous amount, and if I want more I can ask for it.

All the same, I don't like it. It feels largely demeaning in a weird way.

He thinks I'm being ridiculous - am I?

ALL your assets would be divided, I believe, if you split up, including the property in his name.

Being given a set amount each week isn't in itself a problem as long as you're both happy with the situ. DH gives me a set amount a month, but crucially it goes into my own account (in my maiden name still), and DH is fully open with our finances! even though it's his income that pays for everything. As someone up-thread said, it's hugely beneficial to his career for me to be a SAHM. And beneficial to me, as I hated going out to work

Your DH has two properties in his name, he'll also have savings etc you don't know about, there's the family home and all the other assets. Your name doesn't gave to be on them. Take your share of all of it with you.

I'd go for a straight 50:50 split as it leaves you both with plenty and won't generate extra bad will between you.

When it comes to maintenance you'll get a sizeable portion of his salary for the children, I'd estimate around £700pm so you'll still have plenty of money coming in while you try and sort yourself out.