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is this classed as cheating?

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alix300689 · 09/04/2014 09:55

OK, here we go. Me and my partner. have been together 2 years and have an 8 myth old son together, I recently went for a holiday with my son to my mothers up north. While I was away my partner propositioned the town bike for sex 5 days in from me leaving and he got rejected but kept harassing her for days after, I came home he seemed different and I asked him if there's any explaining to do and carried on normal. He goes to work I stay at home and look after bub. We live in a small town of probably 100people mind you. I went to the shop Sunday afternoon for ice cream and movies and while there I had this woman approach me and ask to have a 'word' outside. She proceeded to tell me that my partner had drove to her property and coersed her into sex but nothing had happened, I couldn't look at her and got in my car and went home. Immediately confronted him which he denied all and he then got in the car to confront her, apparently she wasn't there. All was well and I just thought she is a delusional beeexh. Monday I got her number and rang her and she had said she seen my partner yesterday and he threatened her to not say a word because he would lose his family. He was at work so i asked this lady to send the messages to me and Iforwarded them to him, and told him he was guilty due to lying to me already about Sunday. I packed my bags and sons stuff and wasn't far off leaving. He came home and I agreed to stay on the terms we seek counselling and work thru this. I'm devastated and he has admitted it and remorseful and sorry but using the excuse that nothing happened so iys OK?? Arrrrgh

OP posts:
Raskova · 12/04/2014 15:55

Well I'm sorry Logg1e. Thanks for singling me out and making me feel pointless tho

Offred · 12/04/2014 15:56

You did rather invite it when you asked ppl to let you know if RTFT is important...

Logg1e · 12/04/2014 15:57

I'm sorry you would rather I'd asked somebody else. I have read similar posts (on other threads) and often wondered why and this was the first time I got up the nerve to ask.

I'm still none the wiser!

Logg1e · 12/04/2014 15:58

Sorry, meant to ask, why does it make you feel pointless? It really wasn't personal, just a question about only one of your posts.

Raskova · 12/04/2014 15:59

It's the same as asking someone why post at all if someone has already stated the exact same as you or several people. Surely the more who support or give advice the merrier?

Raskova · 12/04/2014 16:00

Because you've literally just asked why I bothered even posting?!

Logg1e · 12/04/2014 16:06

I meant why would you post that specifically. I read it as, "I haven't read what everyone else has posted in nearly 200 replies, I am aware that I perhaps should but I still aren't going to. I'm going to tell you what I think anyway".

You don't know if you're supporting what has already been said, you haven't read everyone else's contribution.

Raskova · 12/04/2014 16:18

Well I can't help what you read it as.

If you want me to break it down... I haven't read every single response but I see the direction this is going in from reading approx 50 per cent of it. If anything has changed and my response is no longer relevant then please tell me.

For now, here's my response...

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