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Beyond pissed off. Do I LTB??? Wwyd?

216 replies

madcatlady444 · 30/03/2014 07:54

My DH is in an am-dram group, last night of show last night, his entire family staying at our house to watch the show. He hasn't come home from the after-show party, it's the next morning now and isn't answering his phone, but can manage the occasional text. I am so angry I am shaking, what do I tell his family?? Everyone is going to be getting up soon, I am so embarrassed. He's expecting me to make lunch for his whole family (10 of us in total) on fucking Mother's Day but he hasn't come home & is too cowardly to answer his phone. He says in his text he is with other people in the group, but I don't really care. He is just taking the piss, and i have had enough. I really really want to LTB, wwyd? I would really appreciate your advice mumsnetters, am I overreacting??

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TidyDancer · 30/03/2014 14:41

Oh no. :( just read through this whole thread.

So sorry it's come to this.

Adding my support. x

ipswichwitch · 30/03/2014 14:41

Oh God op. I hope you and your DDs are ok, what a bastard.
Thanks

Logg1e · 30/03/2014 14:43

I think that it's worry you can go from being in a perfectly reasonable relationship to having your husband stay out all night and return to assault you and one of his children. It just doesn't make any sense. I hope you're all somewhere safe now.

WitchWay · 30/03/2014 14:52

What a horrible knob he really is Sad

Norem · 30/03/2014 14:58

Oh OP what a idiot he is !
Sending you all my good wishes, exdh did this to me once and that is why he is an ex.
Hope you and the DDs are ok, big hugs xx

KoalaFace · 30/03/2014 15:00

Oh no. Sad

Sending you and your girls strength and a hug.

Do turn to us for support if you need it.

Cerisier · 30/03/2014 15:10

Good grief. And on Mothers Day with his family staying. So sorry to hear this. Sending you and the DDs strength.

IAmNotAMindReader · 30/03/2014 15:27

Sorry its come to this OP. Wishing you and your children strength to get through this.
Don't minimise anything and don't be embarrassed in the slightest his behaviour is entirely his own doing.

littleballerina · 30/03/2014 15:34

[Sad]

Glad that they've arrested him. Have you still got people with you?

Bobolbach · 30/03/2014 15:39

So sorry to hear this.

What a complete fucking idiot.

Stay strong xx

IWillDoItInAMinute · 30/03/2014 15:46

Your poor DDs, I hope you are not physically hurt Flowers

What a complete and selfish bastard. I hope when he sobers up he realises what an utter shit he has been.

borisgudanov · 30/03/2014 15:50

I had been thinking he was hast another heid-the-baw who needed a comprehensive recital if the Riot Act. Turns out he's actually vile pond life.

I hope they string him up by the baws. Get a solicitor from Rottweiler and yaks him to the cleaners. And let his appalling conduct be known among all nations, yea unto the utterest ends of the earth declare thou them.

Bastard.

Nojustalurker · 30/03/2014 16:19

Madcatlady, i would strongly suggest contcating your school mentor and uni tutor (if you are following a uni route) and telling them you won't be in tomorrow due to family crisis. You can chose to tell them as much or as little as you want later.

Ring women's aid for advice buti think you need to get locks changed and contact solicitors ASAP.

ChasedByBees · 30/03/2014 17:30

So sorry OP. He really has shown his true colours. At least this means you can have him removed from the house.

woodmouse2 · 30/03/2014 17:33

Just come back to this thread and read about the assault - I'm so sorry. Hope things will only get better from now on Thanks

tribpot · 30/03/2014 17:46

I'm so sorry, OP. I hope you and your dds are okay.

Hissy · 30/03/2014 17:55

How bloody awful of him. Let the police throw the book at him. What a prick :(

Are you ok love? Are the dc ok?

CheerfulYank · 30/03/2014 18:20

Oh my God, what a prick. I hope you and DD are okay.

Notafoodbabyanymore · 30/03/2014 18:22

Adding my support. Hope you and your kids are ok. What an utter, utter dickhead. Angry

wizzler · 30/03/2014 18:34

What a git...
Hope you are all ok.
At least now you sound absolutely certain that you will LTB,

Your poor DDs to have to witness the assault. You are well rid

PreciousPeach · 30/03/2014 19:01

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JeanSeberg · 30/03/2014 19:06

Had he ever been violent before? How old are your kids

JeanSeberg · 30/03/2014 19:07

What did the . mean ?

DustBunnyFarmer · 30/03/2014 19:12

Probably marking their place, Jean. No matter that there is 'watch' function to facilitate the same...

JeanSeberg · 30/03/2014 19:22

Like knitters at the guillotine.